Might be out of a job - maintenance or not??

[Welshcob]

I just had a call from work to advise that I essentially have to apply for my own job - although they are saying it is different. - it has a different title, but can't see much difference otherwise. Anyway I am not convinced I will get it. If I lose my job, I think I need urgently to re consider going to CSA for maintenance. If FOB was normal and reasonable and not abusive, I would speak to him and get some sort of agreement. But hes been a complete and utter nightmare. So I am afraid obviously to make contact with him. Now everyone has told me to stay away from claiming, as its going to set him off again! However, its grated on me that he is wasting his money and just swanning around feeling pleased with himself because he scared me away. I had a job and I could just about manage, but now I really don't think I can. The problem is that it will absolutely set him off and I just wonder - what is the worst he could do??
I can imagine him taking me to court for visitation, but......will he really want that? I think if he asks for it, it would only be to cause upset to me. But I wonder if he could maintain visits? He is the most selfish man and I can't see him taking my baby out on his own...I could if he fobbed her off on his girlfriend??? as I am sure he has one.
I could imagine him taking me to court because she has a bruise or something.

Not sure if you can think of some really bad things he might do. But what I was wondering, assuming he took me to court, wouldn't the court wonder why he hadn't been in touch sooner? Why he had not shown an ounce of interest in baby. Hes bound to say that its because I was abusive - as hes already taken me to court for that - but its a lie and really the evidence is stacked against him - but tell me what you think. I have been at Womens Aid for ages and he attended two perpetrator programs for abusive men.

Now I am afraid he will mess with my daughters head, but I was thinking that I imagine hes going to go home to Australia or New Zealand when hes a bit older as he has no family here, except his daughter. So should I go for it? I'd feel happier if I was safe and not living back where he knew I lived! Also, I may be feeling brave now, but you can bet as soon as I speak to CSA I will be panicking about what he will do. But it really bugs me that hes not supporting daughter in any shape or form and yet he willingly wanted to make her!
I keep thinking that if I waited till I move -which I doubt I have the money to do....he will leave by then and I would stand no chance of getting any assistance.

What do you think

 

[Laura2919]

Fathers have to pay maintanance even if they dont see their child. Its law.

Dont worry about what others say, Go for it. Claim what your entitled too.. You both created a child so you both should financially support not just one person doing it all on their own