Jodie.82
"Earth & Angel mama"
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my OH told me today his mum was asking lots of questions about our MW, first of all he had to confirm to her about 5 times its a MW delivering the baby and not a doctor! she was then asking if the MW had ever lost a baby! would you ask a hospital if they had ever lost a baby? she seems to think that we made our choices of having a homebirth due to money and is now offering to pay for the birth in a hospital in Lima! If i had made my choices just based on money I would have stayed in England for the birth and had whatever kind I wanted on the NHS! my MIL is lovely, really genuinely lovely, but here in Peru, well in the capital where she is from, when you are pregnant you book yourself in for a nice swift uncomplicated c section (their view not mine). if you are in the minority that dont then you at least get induced, epidural and probably then a c section anyway as you´ve brought on labour unaturally and then of course there is the money aspect, they earn more for c section so i would probably be told im too small to deliver naturally (lots of OH friends have had this!) they scare everyone into c section and for sure if your labour doesnt progress within the acceptable amount of time they will send you in for one.
Obviously Ive not made my decision lightly on where and how to give birth to my baby, as someone who has already lost one child im all too well aware of our mortality and scared that things can go wrong, im not going to just think oh yeah I will run off and give birth in a field without any help or back up plan, this is something I have put a huge amount of thought and time into and had to consider going back to england etc and weigh up all my options. The more I learnt about home and natural birthing the more I realised it was the right option for me, I hate hospitals, having seen my Dad and baby girl treated and not saved in them they are medical places that remind me of illness and death and I want my babies birth to be an amazing natural experience bringing him or her into the world the same way he or she was made!
sorry for the long rant, just feel like it was hard enough getting OH to see that it wasnt best to just go and get a "safe c section without any risks" in the first place, now with only 7 weeks until the birth I dont want these doubts or stresses put in his mind! why do people find it so hard to let someone birth naturally when its been happening since the beginning of time?
Obviously Ive not made my decision lightly on where and how to give birth to my baby, as someone who has already lost one child im all too well aware of our mortality and scared that things can go wrong, im not going to just think oh yeah I will run off and give birth in a field without any help or back up plan, this is something I have put a huge amount of thought and time into and had to consider going back to england etc and weigh up all my options. The more I learnt about home and natural birthing the more I realised it was the right option for me, I hate hospitals, having seen my Dad and baby girl treated and not saved in them they are medical places that remind me of illness and death and I want my babies birth to be an amazing natural experience bringing him or her into the world the same way he or she was made!
sorry for the long rant, just feel like it was hard enough getting OH to see that it wasnt best to just go and get a "safe c section without any risks" in the first place, now with only 7 weeks until the birth I dont want these doubts or stresses put in his mind! why do people find it so hard to let someone birth naturally when its been happening since the beginning of time?