I know its long ladies but really need some help 
I used 2 get along with my partners mother, until baby come. Before baby, me and partner lived with parents, naturally when i found out i was preg i wanted to stay at home untill we all found somewhere to live. But MIL was under impression we would live there 50% of time, i never implied this. Buy gradually through pregnancy my boyfriend moved in with my parents too.
Even though we were never there, she went out and bought EVERYTHING for her house, when we had it all in my mums house. I told my partner to tell her to take it back (to be honest i was a bit intimidated by her, never wud have said anything to offend her, etc) but he is such a wet blanket with her he never did.
In first week, she came to my mums everyday to see baby, where she was made very welcome. Then she stopped and started demanding we sleep up her house. I explained i didnt want to as baby was only just settling in my own house. She then began to ring my boyfriend almost everyday 'you best be bringing baby up today' and he always did, even if it was without me (he will never stand up to her!)
There has been many more things including...
She never went through me regarding the baby, always my boyfriend, even though he worked and was in uni and was not there very often. I asked her politly to ring me instead but she wouldnt.
One day i asked her if she would like to have the baby for a few hours, she replied 'IM ALREADY HAVING HER!' < MY boyfriend and her had arranged for her to have her for the day without me, i was upset to say the least.
She began to demand to baby on her own all the time, when she was a week old she expected to take her on a 4 hour car journey to watch my sister in law dancing??! We both said no and she went crazy! WE ARE SELFISH WE SEE BABY EVERYDAY!! There was an argument and she said to boyfriend 'GET UP HERE NOW! I NEED TO TALK TO YOU ALONE ABOUT THE BABY DONT BRING HER!' i think whatever concerns by baby concerns me?!
when we moved out she never vistited, twice maybe, but expected to take baby every weekend for 'bonding time' without me and boyfriend. We have to other sets of grandparents who wanted to see her aswel, but they NEVER tell us they are taking her somewhere, they come and visit. she is such a good baby we dont need alone time, we dont need to have her taken off us everyweekend.It got so bad my H/v advised my mother to go and speak to her about why she was acting like this.
In conversation one day she said she bought a birthday cake for my partner to daddy love kimberly Iuckily he was listening, so when I said do you mind taking it back, ive made one of my own and I don really think its your place to buy a birthday cake off the baby, thats my job, he heard her saying oh sorry I didnt think! I will take it back and have my name put on it. On my birthday meal, the cake was brought out and it still said to daddy love Kimberly. Should have seen the smug face on her! We both walked out and I rang and asked her why she did it, she said I neva told u I wud change it, I can buy him whatever cake I like!
There was a full blown row which included her sayin such things as 'its my granddaughter i can see her when i want, i will go through court if i have to' its always about you, never about me
I know she feels a bit empty after my boyfriend left, but its no need for her to be acting like this. Now we all havent spoke in 3 months, she hasnt bothered at all, even though we have said to her close family members she is welcome to come and sort it out.
I am afraid my partner will resent me as time goes on. What do you all think?
I used 2 get along with my partners mother, until baby come. Before baby, me and partner lived with parents, naturally when i found out i was preg i wanted to stay at home untill we all found somewhere to live. But MIL was under impression we would live there 50% of time, i never implied this. Buy gradually through pregnancy my boyfriend moved in with my parents too.
Even though we were never there, she went out and bought EVERYTHING for her house, when we had it all in my mums house. I told my partner to tell her to take it back (to be honest i was a bit intimidated by her, never wud have said anything to offend her, etc) but he is such a wet blanket with her he never did.
In first week, she came to my mums everyday to see baby, where she was made very welcome. Then she stopped and started demanding we sleep up her house. I explained i didnt want to as baby was only just settling in my own house. She then began to ring my boyfriend almost everyday 'you best be bringing baby up today' and he always did, even if it was without me (he will never stand up to her!)
There has been many more things including...
She never went through me regarding the baby, always my boyfriend, even though he worked and was in uni and was not there very often. I asked her politly to ring me instead but she wouldnt.
One day i asked her if she would like to have the baby for a few hours, she replied 'IM ALREADY HAVING HER!' < MY boyfriend and her had arranged for her to have her for the day without me, i was upset to say the least.
She began to demand to baby on her own all the time, when she was a week old she expected to take her on a 4 hour car journey to watch my sister in law dancing??! We both said no and she went crazy! WE ARE SELFISH WE SEE BABY EVERYDAY!! There was an argument and she said to boyfriend 'GET UP HERE NOW! I NEED TO TALK TO YOU ALONE ABOUT THE BABY DONT BRING HER!' i think whatever concerns by baby concerns me?!
when we moved out she never vistited, twice maybe, but expected to take baby every weekend for 'bonding time' without me and boyfriend. We have to other sets of grandparents who wanted to see her aswel, but they NEVER tell us they are taking her somewhere, they come and visit. she is such a good baby we dont need alone time, we dont need to have her taken off us everyweekend.It got so bad my H/v advised my mother to go and speak to her about why she was acting like this.
In conversation one day she said she bought a birthday cake for my partner to daddy love kimberly Iuckily he was listening, so when I said do you mind taking it back, ive made one of my own and I don really think its your place to buy a birthday cake off the baby, thats my job, he heard her saying oh sorry I didnt think! I will take it back and have my name put on it. On my birthday meal, the cake was brought out and it still said to daddy love Kimberly. Should have seen the smug face on her! We both walked out and I rang and asked her why she did it, she said I neva told u I wud change it, I can buy him whatever cake I like!
There was a full blown row which included her sayin such things as 'its my granddaughter i can see her when i want, i will go through court if i have to' its always about you, never about me
I know she feels a bit empty after my boyfriend left, but its no need for her to be acting like this. Now we all havent spoke in 3 months, she hasnt bothered at all, even though we have said to her close family members she is welcome to come and sort it out.
I am afraid my partner will resent me as time goes on. What do you all think?
xx
hon,I know how much of a nightmare MIL's can be xx
ridiculous!
I'd hit the roof if anyone told me they were going to take Hannah away from me to spend bonding time with her...she's my kid and I will be the only one who decides where and who she goes with
