Miscarriage thread. For those of you who suffered and are suffering

[Zoey]

I have seen so many miscarriage worry threads since posting mine up yesterday, so I have made one big one. If you think your are suffering or you have suffered a miscarriage, lets get together (IF YOU WANT TOO) and talk about the possible symptoms and how your feeling and stuff.

I thought a prayer list might be nice, so those of you who do pray, can pray for those most in need at this time.

Prayers need saying for:

Zoey
Littlehush
Maidenet
Littlebuddah
TLT


If I have missed someone out thats posted up, I do apologise, Ill add whoever wants adding to the prayer list!

 

[Zoey]

Sorry for the double post but just wanted to say, I am feeling a little bit more faith in my bean, cos it was only a light bleed, so for those of you who have suffered light bleeds, perhaps ask one of people in the prayer list whether its anything to be concerned about

 

[Al4321]

Hi hun, I dont mean this in any way at all, but there is a forum for miscarriages, and Im sure there's alot more people there who understand the situation and are going through the same thing hope all goes ok x

 

[x_Rainbow_x]

yeah i think a thread might be more appropriate in m/c as alot of ladies can understand and having a m/c thread in the pregnancy part might cause some upset.

You can ask for it 2 be moved if u like.
x

 

[Zoey]

yeah i did think that after reading, i mainly only kinda wanted this as a prayer list for the people in the first trimester though, if anyone wants to remove it I dont mind, il lstill be praying for everyone!

 

[Fluxuspoem]

My prayers and hopes to all the ladies that are in doubt and waiting for their scans.

Also my biggest hugs to the girls that lost their little ones.

All my love to you x

 

[Kota]

Sorry if I offend here, but personally this thread touches a raw nerve with me, I have suffered an early m/c so know exactly how it feels and the emotions that are being gone through, but making the step back over to 1st tri is daunting and scary enough to do without a big thread dedicated to talking about m/c glaring me in the face. There is a seperate board for that. Which personally I am now avoiding as I dont' want to be thinking negative thoughts.
While I understand people will post concerns re whats going on and update if things haven't turned out for the best. and thats completely fine and understandable, I dont think this thread belongs in here.

 

[Zoey]

thats a fair enough point, i dont mind it being removed if thats posssible.

 

[AlwaysPraying]

I agree, it's a hard situation. The one thing though, is if you think your miscarrying, or in my situation, baby is alive but not doing well. So technically, for what we know, we are pregnant, but who knows if it will last long or not. I should be here, I am pregnant, but I've been posting on the miscarriage board a lot lately. It feels awful there though, as if baby is already gone, and that's not the case. But I don't feel welcome on this board either because it should be a happy place. I think we need a transitional place where we can talk about potential miscarriage or pregnancy issues before and end result comes from it.

 

[cillybean83]

that's a great idea alwayspraying! I feel the same way! As far as I know, my bean is there, but as far as what the doctors say, it isn't exactly thriving. I find out what's happening on Friday. I don't want to go to the miscarriage board because it depresses me...I don't know if my bean is still there, but I don't want to give up hope on it either...but over here I feel like such a downer because I'm forever asking questions which I'm sure gets really annoying to the ladies who have thriving beans. It would be GREAT to have a board for nervous nancys like us!

 

[Kota]

I completely agree with you girls and think thats a great idea... maybe suggest it to the admin team?

 

[Seraphim]

I was just going to make the same comments.
I understand the need for this thread, and it's a lovely one - but because of the nature of the first trimester - so many people are worried already, and it pumps up their fears when maybe there's no cause for them to need to worry.

Good luck all xx

 

[MotherBear]

I personally have not experienced miscarriage, I have been extremely fortunate to have had 3 healthy children. My bean is 11 weeks today, altghough at this stage I am unsure of its progress, although my side affects (sickness, sore breasts, bloated tummy - in fact no waist remaining, tiredness, sensitive to smells and tummy flutters) are giving me postive signals. If I was doubtful of my beans progress or had any reason to doubt its progress, then I would not want to transfer to the miscarriage section on a wim, not because they are not friendly, but frankly I would want to remain hopeful and positive and surround myself with success stories. I can understand that some women may feel some posts a little upsetting, however the posts are clearly titled, so you can choose not to read the post. These women just need a little support and encouragement that other women may be or may have experienced the same and have gone on to have healthy bouncing babies. I don't believe it to be anyones intention to upset other folk on here, but some replies may have made other members feel a little isolated in their time of need. I do hope that everything works out for all of you.

 

[littlebuddha]

I don't know where I belong and I hope Zoey doesn't mind me saying I think she feels the same as me and a couple of us who are going through a worrying time - As far as I know I am pregnant but I am bleeding yet haven't had confirmation I am m/c, I don't know where to be as not to upset or offend any of the women in either board, has anyone messaged admin?? I am going to msg them now just encase because I think there are many of us lurking as MotherBear said, feeling quite isolated, not wanting to distress or offend anyone but still seeking support and just searching on the off chance someone else feels the same.

 

[littlebuddha]

I have written a message to Wobbles drawing attention to this thread xxx

 

[MotherBear]

Hi LittleBuddha,

I do know many people who have have a bleed during their pregnany, particularly in the early trim and have went on to have healthy children. The best advice, I could offer, would be to have complete bed rest, with plenty of love and support around you. You don't know anything for sure yet. Unfortunately if you are m/c then it will happen regardless of what you do, but it could be something else. The blood is a warning, fingers crossed it does not progress. I know that it is very difficult but try not to think about it too much as the stress is no good for either of you. I wish you the best of luck during these anxious times, my thoughts are with you and your OH.

 

[Seraphim]

Yes, you're right littlebuddha. It's a tricky one :/


Women in this thread do need support and space.

My concern is that newly pregnant people don't know how common bleeding is in early pregnancy, and automatically link it with miscarriage.

Could we maybe have a sticky thread on bleeding for this part of the forum... maybe that could be a warning to people who haven't had a proper chance to read through yet??

x

 

[littlebuddha]

Hi Seraphim,

The sticky thread sounds like a good idea - don't know what it is or how to do it though? :-/ but it does seem the awnser so those of us in limbo land have somewhere to go.

 

[hondagirl]

Hi ladies, I didnt realise how much the m/c threads had affected me until earlier today,its a really tricky one and i would like to add my support for a seperate forum just for those with pregnancy complications /worries . Im selfish in my reasons for this. I have sailed through two completely trouble free pregnancies and then spent the last 2 years trying for number 3 only to have a m/c last year early into the pregnancy. I thought it wouldnt happen to me and when it did I was really torn up. Im now just about getting to 6 weeks again and I am desperately trying to be positive and not paranoid but every time i read a post on bleeding or m/c Im right back there again. Its putting me off reading the posts which is a shame as Ive been there and done it and could offer loads of support.
I really dont want anyone to feel isolated, picked on or whatever so i hope there will be a suitable outcome for everyone.

 

[rachjim98]

Well I have to say that I am sorry for you ladies and that the worry you are going through and the feeling that your in limbo has got to be so hard.

TBH I am kinda upset that they banished you to this section (so to speak.) I can understand some of their points in this thread but to make someone who hasn't lost a baby yet and is looking for prayers and answers come on here and read all of these sad stories of us who have is almost unbearable if you ask me!

I am sorry that you all feel like you have no where to turn, you are more then welcome here and if there is anything we can do for you wonderful ladies we will!!

I don't see why this couldn't have been renamed as a prayer list for troubled pregnancies and kept in the 1st Tri board?
I am praying for all of you and your babies & I am wishing you all the best