Miscarried first pregnancy.

[owo]

Hi Girls,

I've just suffered a miscarriage. I started bleeding on Wednesday last week with cramps and it was confirmed on Thursday morning via scan that i was indeed miscarrying. I thought i was doing ok only had a few moments of tears and then on Sunday morning when i was on the toilet i passed it. This was horendous, it didin't hurt which i was told it may do, so i am grateful for that however it was then that it hit me and was devastated. I knew it was over but it made it official for me then. The hardest part was having to flush the tiolet afterwards. After crying what seemed like forever and talking about it with DH i thought that i was starting to do ok. I have come back to work today and am feeling depressed now. I think i have got over the sadness now i just feel depressed and angry. I know it's a natural part of the grieving process. It was my first pregnancy and i was told at the hospital that there is a 1 in 3 chance of miscarrying your first pregnancy which isn't good odds. I just feel empty. Sorry for the long post, but it helps to type about what i am feeling.
Thanks for reading.
xx

 

[sam's mum]

I'm so sorry for your loss x

 

[doctordeesmrs]

So sorry hun.

 

[golcarlilly]

Hi and welcome to the thread, so sorry for your loss, how far on were you? I m/c at 7 weeks and it is the worst thing I have ever had to cope with sending you big

 

[tink]

i know exactly where you are coming from,at 5 weeks and 4 days i started full flow last week,thurs morn ,and passed the little thing on fri afternoon,painlessly,i know how you fely about flushing it away .i have cried all i can cry and accept that there is nothing that could have stopped it,so i have to move on,i'm here if you want a chat Owo xx

 

[owo]

Thanks for your kind words.
I was 10 weeks. What made it worse was that i always knew that miscarriage is a high risk in the first trimester, but at 10 weeks i was starting to feel really positive that everything was going to be ok. I was told that it had stopped growing at 6 weeks. I understand that most occur then as it is a critical stage of development. It just took four weeks to miscarry.

 

[owo]

i know exactly where you are coming from,at 5 weeks and 4 days i started full flow last week,thurs morn ,and passed the little thing on fri afternoon,painlessly,i know how you fely about flushing it away .i have cried all i can cry and accept that there is nothing that could have stopped it,so i have to move on,i'm here if you want a chat Owo xx

oh tink i'm so sorry i was really hoping that you were going to be ok.
We'll get through this. i know we will.

 

[Rumpskin]

Oh darling, I am so sorry for you loss. I know exactly what you have been through as I lost my LO at 9 weeks in the New Year.

I had a completed m/c so there was no need for any surgery of which I was dreading.

I was at peace when it was over as I had alot of pain/bleeding before hand and did not know what to expect (I was not told and tbh, I was glad that I was not).

I am now 5 months on and ttc again. The memory of loosing the baby is still with me and at times, there are tears.

My thoughts are with you lovely xx

 

[buffycat]

am so sorry for your loss........i was 10 weeks too.....

there will be more tears....but we are here for you.....

 

[Sambatiki]

Hi OWO

Sorry for your loss. I know nothing I can say will take the hurt away. This forum is so suppotive and very helpful. Im sure that we'll all do our best to help anyway we can.



Kerry

 

[Brockie]

oh darling it is heartbreaking i know, and seems a cruel trick to have a missed mc, i was 10 weeks, went for scan and had stopped growing at 8 weeks*

you will feel up and down for a while, i did, but you will get pregnant again and next time im sure all will be fine* im nearly 11 weeks and had scan all is fine this time, you wont ever forget that first bean, but nature intervenes if things aren't quite right*

try and focus on the future and get lots of hugs from your family and friends*

take care

 

[WW1]

I'm so sorry for your loss OWO.

I have been through exactly the same thing. I had a missed miscarriage (dates said I was about 10 weeks, scan said it stopped at 6 weeks). It is a truly horrible time and I wish you huge

All I can say is that with each passing day I feel a little stronger - I'm now 2 weeks on from the scan and it is getting easier. It really helps to talk about it on here, with people who understand.

We are here if you need us.

Much love

Wendy

 

[toot]

so sorry for your loss.

 

[owo]

Thanks. I'm glad i have you all here to chat with. DH doesn't understand like you do. I got mad at him yesterday for not appearing to be even sad about it.
I know it doesn't seem as real for the guys until they see the scan as it does to us, and it's not his fault.
Really glad i can chat with you.

 

[kadey]

Thanks for your kind words.
I was 10 weeks. What made it worse was that i always knew that miscarriage is a high risk in the first trimester, but at 10 weeks i was starting to feel really positive that everything was going to be ok. I was told that it had stopped growing at 6 weeks. I understand that most occur then as it is a critical stage of development. It just took four weeks to miscarry.

this is what happened to me, I thought i was nearly 12 weeks when i started bleeding but when i had my scan they said my baby had stopped growing at 7 weeks. its a heartbreaking thing but i honestly promise you it gets easier with time. sending you lots of
xxx

 

[owo]

I don't mean to sound horrible and i apologise in advanced if i do. Hearing so many of you have been through exactly the same thing does bring comfort to me that i'm not the only one. Sorry if that sounds really horrible.
I knew that loads of people have miscarriages, but getting to know you ladies on here, really does make me feel that I'm not alone.
Thankyou
xx

 

[WW1]

I don't mean to sound horrible and i apologise in advanced if i do. Hearing so many of you have been through exactly the same thing does bring comfort to me that i'm not the only one. Sorry if that sounds really horrible.
I knew that loads of people have miscarriages, but getting to know you ladies on here, really does make me feel that I'm not alone.
Thankyou
xx

It doesn't sound horrible at all - it's exactly how I feel. I wouldn't wish a m/c on anybody but to know I'm not alone in my experience is a real comfort.

 

[owo]

It doesn't sound horrible at all - it's exactly how I feel. I wouldn't wish a m/c on anybody but to know I'm not alone in my experience is a real comfort.

Glad i didn't come across as a complete bitch!!

 

[maccy]

So sorry hun, we all know how you feel, it's the worst thing I've had to go through as an adult and some days I'm fine and others it hits you. take care, this is a fab part of the forum everyones lovely and you'll get lots of support.

 

[Vickie]

So sorry for your loss