miscarried

[not giving up]

I was going to the dr. in 3 days. Everything was going great. 8.5 weeks. And just as quickly as I got excited it was over. When does the pain of the loss go away. It is so hard to pretend to be happy this holiday with family wanting you around but I want nothin to do with them right now. They did not know we were pregnant.

 

[aviolet]

I am so sorry. Time is the only thing that lightens the pain, but the burden will get less the more you do things to remember your little one. I highly recommend telling your family about your loss, chances are they won't know what to do or say...but hiding it from them could hurt you more, and at least they'd be aware that you need emotional support right now. I am sorry for your loss.

 

[moochacha]

Have you given some thought to telling them? I told my family and I'm grateful for the support they have shown me.

Sending you a hug .

 

[kanga]

 

[bluesky]

 

[Weeplin]

 

[zelda]

tell your family,i have told more people about the mc then the pregancy and they have given me the space i need to be sad

 

[BabyQ]

I was going to the dr. in 3 days. Everything was going great. 8.5 weeks. And just as quickly as I got excited it was over. When does the pain of the loss go away. It is so hard to pretend to be happy this holiday with family wanting you around but I want nothin to do with them right now. They did not know we were pregnant.

so sorry hun. For me, a few months on, the pain comes and goes, some days I'm 100% fine, the next all I can do is think about how I wished I was still pregnant. As others have said, time definately helps. I had to find other things to focus on, my wedding and moving house next year.

The burden of hiding it from your family may outweight the pain telling them, i too think you may feel better if you tell your family about the loss. I'm not particularly close to my parents, but i told them, we don't talk about it, but i'm glad they know and they have given me lots of space and don't get grumpy that I haven't called etc..
xxx

 

[hippylittlej]

tell your family,i have told more people about the mc then the pregancy and they have given me the space i need to be sad

This ^^^

I've told more people about my MC than knew I was pregnant and I've had amazing support from friends, family and work colleagues. Also lots of people have shared their stories with me and really understood the pain I am going through.

Sorry for your loss, it hurts, it sucks, but it does get easier.