Missed miscarriage- D&C advice please?

[Steph32]

Hi, I just found out today at what was supposed to be 12 weeks, that my baby stopped growing at 9 weeks... there was no heartbeat, even after seeing the heartbeat strongly at 8 wks. I am scheduled to consult with the doctor tomorrow and possibly do the D&C... he is offering to do it under local anesthesia because I am scared of being put to sleep, never had surgery before and I am really sensitive to meds. I've heard different stories of women who've done it just under local, some say it wasn't that bad, some say it was horrible. Has anyone here had it done before w/ just local and had a decent or bearable experience?? Looking for some reassurance here that I will be able to get through this... I think I have a pretty high pain tolerance (I had my first child naturally with no anesthesia, and it got pretty painful and intense when they had gave me pitocin)... I keep thinking if I got through that, I could get through this??

Anyway, if I choose not to do the D&C, what are the chances it will pass naturally soon? Does it sometimes take a long time? I really just want to be done with this and move on, but I also wish my body would just do what it's supposed to do and naturally miscarry! Why is it that sometimes our bodies don't know what to do? Is it because it's trying to hold on the the pregnancy for some reason?

Any help/advice/support would be appreciated! It's been a rough day and I can't really think straight anymore. Thanks!

 

[JPARR01]

I wish I had some answers for you but I had the methotrexate shot. I hope you can get some answers. Sorry for your loss. xx

 

[Steph32]

Thank you. What is the methotrexate shot?

 

[nicb26]

Hi
I had a d and c and I think it was the best option. I was offered d and c, pills or wait to pass naturally. I just know I couldn't have coped with seeing the baby pass. I went under general anesthetic , which was good because I obviously didn't know anything about it and when I woke up it was all over. I personally would have found it too traumatic being awake.

I also knew, even though I was devastated, that I wanted to get back to trying as soon as possible, so it wasn't an option for me to wait to mc naturally. I also couldn't cope with the thought of my little baby being inside me but not alive, it was just too hard.

That's just my experience, everyones different so you will have to decide what you feel most comfortable with.

I'm so sorry for your loss Hun, I hope you have a supportive oh and that you post on here as much as you need. All the ladies on here were so supportive in the weeks following my mc.

Take care xx

 

[holden_babez]

I too went under GA as I didnt know if I could cope with being awake when it all happened...
I hope with the decision you make mate, is what is best for you. You are the one that has to go through the procedure and I am sure you OH will be there with you every step of the way no matter which option you decide to take

Best of luck and I am sorry for your loss

xx

 

[Tysia]

I'd also recommend D & C under general anesthesia. I got a triple dose of misoprostol to induce natural miscarriage. Got a few cramps here and there, and then nothing. The waiting was the worst hell imaginable. D & C was all like a dream. Doctors were nice, nurses too, no pain, afterwords - very mild pain for a short period of time, very little bleeding, mostly spotting. And I knew it was all over, and this is all I wanted to know ASAP. ... For me the D & C was on March 19... It's true, however, that after that - only greater and greater pain in my heart, unbearable.. I am now on antidepressants, and just don't want to live, and it's getting worse and worse... Hope it won't be as bad for you...

 

[JPARR01]

Thank you. What is the methotrexate shot?

I had the Methotrexate shot cause I had an ectopic pregnancy. It stops the growth of rapidly dividing cells.

 

[Fizzio]

So sorry you have had this awful news I too had ERPC following MMC but under GA. I was scared silly about the GA and procedure as a whole but it only took 10 mins so was not asleep very long at all and was thankfully oblivious to all that went on.

Good luck with making your decision and whatever you choose, I hope it goes well. So sorry you had to join us in here but everyone is really supportive x

 

[Mumof42009]

I had a d&c last friday because I had already had a part mc with one twin and the other one had no heartbeat they did leave me a week to try and pass naturally but it never happened. I must admit it was the hardest week of my life and when had my d&c it felt I could finally have closure. I had mine whilst I was asleep all I had was few cramps and bit of bleeding hope everything goes ok for you massive xx

 

[ljo1984]

hiya, i had the same thing happen to me my baby had died at 10 weeks and was 13 weeks at my dating scan, i had a tough time deciding what i wanted to do and in the end opted for the d&c, but please reconsider and have a general! i know it is scary that was the one thing i was thinking of the pill for, but this process is already stressfull enough without been awake through the process, you really are best been asleep and not knowing what there doing. so sorry you have to go through this at all though. xxx

 

[Steph32]

Thanks everyone. I did end up doing it under local, and yes it was painful, but I got through it. I didn't realize how strong I'd be through it all. Now, the aftermath... we've all been through it here, so you guys know how I feel right now. Don't really know where to go or what to do from here. Going to wait 3 mos like the doc said, it's so hard to wait but I know I need the time to heal. Anyone here have a successful pregnancy soon after having a D&C?

 

[ljo1984]

glad you manage to get through it! your so brave to have it under local. xxx
i didnt wait 3 months! infact not many drs still say this as there is not reason to wait 3 months, its now personal preference. i fell pregnant with my DD in april 2 months after d&c. GL to you, i'll send loads of baby dust your way to get your next BFP quickly. xx

 

[StephBord]

I am glad you got through it. I had a d&c this past Thursday and I would make the same decision again in a heartbeat. I have not had any bleeding but I was very sore yesterday. My doctor told me we could try again after one cycle.

 

[new37]

i had a similar story timing for the mc and chose to do the misprostol - it was very painful for one night but the mc did happen. Although i bled for a while after that and still passed a bit of tissue at the 3-4 week mark. it was really frustrating bc i passed a lot of tissue over that time - seemed like it took forever. In hindsight, i think i would recommend the d&c. My girlfriends have said its not an easy experience but it seems like the recovery or 'after miscarriage' experience, at least physically, is shorter.

Good luck - so and sorry for your loss, you will get through this. xo

 

[Hoping21]

Hi there - I had d&c in December. I was completely under. No pain at all - just bleeding/spotting for awhile afterwards. I would recommend d&c- you get it over with and then your body can heal. For me, it was the emotional pain and knowing that I had to wait to try again.