Missed Miscarriage

[Baby-Cakes]

Hi I'm new to this site and just wondered if anyone had been through the same thing?:

I'm 23 and married, at 20 I had a 'natural/normal' miscarriage at 7 weeks, 6 months later I fell pregnant and went onto to have my son (now 2yrs). Just after christmas this year we found out I was pregnant again at only 5 weeks I wanted to keep it a secret but due to my job I had to tell my boss and word got around. I was one of 5 expecting at work and was so pleased!.

I got to 12 weeks everything fine, sore boobs, tummy getting big, nausea and tiredness, then the day before my 12 week scan I started to bleed old brown blood just a little so didn't panic and went to scan as normal. Then the ultrasound lady put her hand on my arm and delivered the dreaded words 'I'm sorry there is no heartbeat'. Apparently the baby stopped growing at 8 weeks + 2 and I have to go in for an ERPC on friday.

How did I not know? I still felt pregnant and even thought that I'd felt movement! I feel so stupid and am dreading going back to work and having to see all my colleagues with their healthy bumps.

Anyone experienced same, I'd appreciate any advice

 

[Peach Blossom]

Hey hon,

I am so sorry for your loss. 2 weeks ago I went in for a scan as I'd had a small amount of bleeding. I too heard that dreaded sentence. I was officially 10+5 and they said the baby had stopped growing at 6+4... that didn't make any sense because I'd seen the hb 3 weeks earlier. I went on to have an erpc the same day. The doctor's told me that my body still thought I was pregnant as the was placenta apparently still releasing hormones. I too questioned how I couldn't have known, but according to my body I was still pregnant, even my hcg levels were good.

I'm so sorry for you loss.

 

[dan-o]

Hi baby-cakes, exactly the same thing is happening to me. I'm so sorry

I was scanned every week from 7 until 12 & watched my baby grow, get a HB & then fade away, but my stupid sac carried on growing.
I also still have sore boobs, nausea & expanding waist etc & no bleeding. I feel like my body is tricking me.
It's been demoralising & heartbreaking, I'm so sorry you are going through this as well.
I also have my ERPC on friday xxxx

 

[MrsO29]

Yeah I had one at 12 weeks, measuring 8-9 weeks.

I know this sounds bad, but I didn't get so upset with my 'normal' m/c at 6 weeks, but with the mmc, you get to the stage where you think you are out of the danger zone, only to be told last last month was a waste, as the baby had stopped growing. I found out a few days before my 13 week scan, as I had started spotting brown. To be only a few days away from the 'safe' part, to lose everything then is just crushing. I had even told people a few days before.

I completely sympathise, I too had pg symptoms, although looking back, not nearly as bad as I had with my dd, or as I am having now. I also had no idea anything was wrong.

I don't have any advise, just to say you will be okay, and there is an even better chance of your next pregnancy being a healthy one.
Good Luck

 

[Baby-Cakes]

Thank you, I've never heard of this type of miscarriage before and just can't quite believe it at the mo!

Of all days our ops on Friday 13th! any other time I think I'd laugh at that.

 

[rachjim98]

I hadn't heard of this either until it happened to me. I was a little further along but was also told those dreaded words. Your baby has no heartbeat, I was 19+5 weeks when we found out. They told us it was a MMC because my body was still carrying on as if she was still alive. She had been gone since 18 weeks, our bodies can decive us and we not even know.. so sorry for your loss and the pain you are going through.

This site is a wonderful blessing, so feel free to let it out or ask anyone they will help anyway they can.

 

[pennypoptart]

Hey baby-cakes, welcome to the forum, but sorry that it is under sad circumstances. I went for a scan at 11 weeks, to be told that my baby died at 6(+4) weeks. Like you, had all the symptoms, including putting on 4 pounds, and feeling tired. I put the lack of sickness down to just being lucky! I'm really sad that this has happened to you, and can empathise about telling people. I had told a few colleagues, but in a way, pleased that I did, as I need their support more than I could have imagined.

I had my EPRC yesterday, and having known for a week before the op have been able to come to terms (as much as I can), with what has happened. Like you, it was a much wanted baby.

However, I believe that the EPRC is a good 'cleanser' for your womb, and will leave you healthy to start TTC again. I know it is not something that you want to think about at the moment, as you need time to grieve, but in my mind, it gave me some closure.

If you want to ask me any questions about the EPRC procedure, feel free to PM me. I had mine yesterday, and although a little tender today, am up and about and not feeling too bad physically.

Just want to let you know that we'll all be thinking about you tomorrow.

Pen x

 

[Baby-Cakes]

Hi Pen,

Thank you for your kind word's, this might sound strange but I'm not worried at all about the actual procedure it's tomorrow evening when I'm sat at home trying to keep it together.

Don't know if I should be thinking this already but all I can focus on is TTC again, I've tried talking to my DH but he doesn't want to think about it yet and doesn't think I should either.

I'm a bit all over the place at the mo, wish I could cry (properly) and see if that could make me feel a bit better.

xx

 

[Peach Blossom]

Hey hon,

All I have been able to think about since I went in to hospital for the erpc is TTC again. Its the only though that has kept me going through this difficult and devastating time. What you are feeling is entirely natural. I'll be thinking of you tomorrow. I hope it all goes well.

 

[pinkgem100]

Hi, sorry for your loss. I was 20 weeks when i lost Harry, his heart had stopped at 19 weeks, 1st dec 08 i had the scan, had Harry on the 3rd Dec. This was my first pregnancy and i was so excited about it, we kept it quite till i had my first scan @ 14 weeks (only told close family before, mum dad etc). With Harry i had nothing, no bleeding and i had only had a scan at 18 weeks due to an illness i picked up. The hardest thing that i had to cope with through out the pregnancy is that my best mate had a baby on the 4th Dec and my cousin had a baby on the 27th Jan and seeing them killed me at first, but me personally found it helped more to talk about what i had been through and what my friend and cousin where upto with their little one. Its been just over 3 months and not a day goes by when i dont want to break down and cry but i have to get be brave a work and then go home and do what i like, cry!!!

If you are not ready to go back to work right a way, take a bit longer, i didnt go back till Jan and that did me some good as it was a change to come back to work after having a long period off. Just remember you have been through a lot and need time to grieve and learn that life is never going to be truly the same but u need to find your new normal life again.

 

[Chilli]

I'm so sorry for your loss baby-cakes. I had the same thing and it is awful. I had just told everybody as I thought I was 11 1/2 weeks, then had a small amount of brown blood after DTD, took myself for scan and heard those words. I still feel sick thinking about them. In retrospect some of the symptons had stopped, but I stupidly thought I was "lucky"!!!??? and also hadn't had much with my first (sucessful) pregnancy so wasn't worried at all. Even when I went for the scan I thought I'd be sent home and feel foolish for wasting everybody's time!! Unfortunately that's not how it worked out and I like Peaches and thinking about TTC all the time. OH is exhausted!!!
Iwas worried about the D&C but it was fairly straightforward. Something to consider is that they don't automatically offer for you to keep the baby's remains. However we requetsed to and them buried which really helped us... I guess you have to do what's right for you.
Take care and you'll be in my prayers tomorrow

 

[Shelby2007]

I had never heard of this either! I had some brown bleeding at 5 weeks (couldnt get me into scan until 9 weeks) - when we went to the scan - found their were identical twins - one who had passed at around 5 weeks.. and the other just a couple days before the scan - i too got the dreaded words.. " your babies has no heartbeats. and no movement" - i didnt have a d&c.. but rather induced my mc.. this is a terrible thing to go through.. and there was no way you could have known.. please dont blame yourself honey.. we are all here for you.

 

[dan-o]

Hi baby-cakes, hope it went OK for you today xxx

 

[chella]

Hi I'm new to this site and just wondered if anyone had been through the same thing?:

I'm 23 and married, at 20 I had a 'natural/normal' miscarriage at 7 weeks, 6 months later I fell pregnant and went onto to have my son (now 2yrs). Just after christmas this year we found out I was pregnant again at only 5 weeks I wanted to keep it a secret but due to my job I had to tell my boss and word got around. I was one of 5 expecting at work and was so pleased!.

I got to 12 weeks everything fine, sore boobs, tummy getting big, nausea and tiredness, then the day before my 12 week scan I started to bleed old brown blood just a little so didn't panic and went to scan as normal. Then the ultrasound lady put her hand on my arm and delivered the dreaded words 'I'm sorry there is no heartbeat'. Apparently the baby stopped growing at 8 weeks + 2 and I have to go in for an ERPC on friday.

How did I not know? I still felt pregnant and even thought that I'd felt movement! I feel so stupid and am dreading going back to work and having to see all my colleagues with their healthy bumps.

Anyone experienced same, I'd appreciate any advice

Hi

So sorry to hear of ur lost , mine is kind of simular i had 1st scan few wks ago where they told me baby had weak heartbeat then at 2nd scan was told the worse that baby had died and had my miscarriage brought on yesterday 12th march its like a big blow to ur head as ur gettin all these syptoms but but deep down ur baby is no longer there? I too am dreading going back to work as my work friend was due a month before me and reallydont know how im going to manage, also 3 of my other friends are also due around the same time aswell i want to be happy for them but then i feel so gutted that its not me with a growing bump and preparing for a new baby , here if ever need a chat as i know in a way how ur feelin but hopefully time can ease (well i hope so as feel so low and bet u feel the same) xxx loadsa hugs from me xxx

 

[Baby-Cakes]

Hi baby-cakes, hope it went OK for you today xxx

Hi, all went fine thanks, in alot of pain last night but feeling better now. How did it go for you?

 

[dan-o]

Hi baby-cakes, hope it went OK for you today xxx

Hi, all went fine thanks, in alot of pain last night but feeling better now. How did it go for you?

Hi, glad you are doing OK hun sorry to hear you were sore last night.

For me it was more emotional than anything else. Mind you, I was a bit painful yesterday too, I just took a load of painkillers, lol!
I feel great today tho, just a dull ache 'down there' & the lightest of spotting.
I'm pleasantly suprised, I imagined a lot worse!!
It's a bit surreal if I'm honest!

 

[moomoo]

Im so sorry you have had to go thru this, i had similar last october my sac measured 10w6d but baby only measured 7 weeks

I have had to deal with 3 people expecting at work, one of which was due 2 weeks before me!! I really struggled being there sometimes, esp when everyone comes in and fluffs around the pg people..and your left sat there feeling very deflated!

If you need to chat feel free to message me

x

 

[Orange lady]

Hi there
Yes I'm afraid the same happened to me.
I'm 33 and married. This was our first pregnancy. Everything seemed to be going great. Then we booked a private scan just before Xmas. My baby had died at 8 weeks too. No heartbeat at all. But all my symptoms were still there. I still felt pregnant, sore boobs, swelling tummy and the "feeling" of having something in there. I had no bleeding, no pains, no signs at all. It is so heart breaking and makes you feel a fool for not knowing. But how could you? The body is a cruel thing.
I had an ERPC 5 days later on and the day after that my pregnancy symptoms started to go off. It was a quick procedure and was the best thing for me.
Time does help, but I will never forget my tiny first baby
xx

 

[honey08]

hiya hun very sry for ur losses, this happens a lot, as u will know posting on this site, its common and extemley upsetting and heartbreaking
i had a mmc in march last yr, my first pregnancy, i had awful morning sickness, sore boobs, tender tummy, i felt VERY pregnant !! and then to think id nearly got to 12wk was so reassuring (so i thought) i started spotting a little day b4 my 12wk scan, went for the scan and was told the most heartrencthing news, baby had died at 5wk ,but the sac was 12wk in size, so i had a dnc, there no way of knowing , its just one of those awful things, iim now 22wk+ pg with a littleboy, so dont give up hope hun

 

[honey08]

dan-o i remember that dull/dark feeling/aching like it was yday hun, i remember it all like yday, it will never go away,these were ours babies,BUT it will make u stronger and more determined to get the healthy baby we all deserve and want so much
takecare xxxx