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[hoping4babyY]

My husband and I have been ttc baby#1 for 19 months with no luck. I have PCOS so I dont get my period but I've had 4 cycles of clomid with no luck, 3 cycles of Femara and clomid and nothing. My family is well aware of the problem but I dont feel they are supportice at all! When we started trying no one in our family wanted more kids and now 6 of
them had another child and my sister in law which was supposedly done with kids(has 3 already) is pregnant with twins and all without any problems or medical help. How am I not supposed to feel like crap! Oh and everyone in my family are well aware that I've always wanted a girl and know the name my husband and I have picked out and now
that my sister in law knows she is having twin girls now she decided to use the name I love for one of them... I just feel
like this was a slap in my face and that they are kind of making fun of me like if they are saying "we are gonna have what you want"..... help!! is it bad for me to feel this!?!.. I mean I'm happy about having twin nieces but at the same time I feel betrayed by my brother and her and just completely worthless because I can get pregnant!

 

[xxdoovde]

Hey,

I know how you feel I have been ttc for two years now with no luck.
It feels like everyone but me can get pregnant, all my friends are announcing their pregnant all the time and my cousin has just had her little girl. I felt awful for feeling upset about it because I should be happy for them but its hard to be when you have been trying for a lot longer than them, my cousin wasn't even trying!

So I dont think it is bad for you to feel like this at all I think it is just completely natural for you to feel like that.

And about the name you picked I think its very ignorant and insensitive for your sister in law to use that name for her own when she knows its the name you picked!!

it can be really hard especially when your own family dont support you but just remember there's loads of women on here who support you and I wish you luck on your journey.

 

[wantbabynow]

Hey, I know exactly how you feel, my sister in law has 3 under 3 - work it out it seems she just has to look at her husband and they get pregnant - she constantly complains to me that he doesn't touch her and is not interested in sex with her. My husband and I have a loving relationship and regular sex we cant seem to get pregnant. Trust me I know what you mean about unsupportive families. My husband has 7 sisters who after my miscarriage in July last year constantly ask me "are you guys trying?". and give me bogus ideas and advise of how to get pregnant. F**cking ignorant and insensitive, I said to one of them "have you ever thought of joining the Samaritans?" seriously the one thing I realised was people don't mean to piss you off they are just purely ignorant to your plight; don't let it get you down. Let me tell you I went through a phase of not bothering about the way I looked, I didn't want to look sexy as sex is for women who can make babies and clearly my broken body wont let me. Remember its not personal just ignorant - feel sorry for them - you're time will come my dear xxxx

 

[hoping4babyY]

thank you to both of you! I dont feel as bad now that I now that I'm not the only one that feels like this. I just feel like people don't care about my feelings at all after I've always been there for all of them.... Anyways yesterday was a really bad day for me and today was really good until a few minutes ago when my friend posted pictures of her newborn twins which she had without even trying. I'm trying to take this day by day and not let everything bother me but some days it is not possible.