mixed feeling is it normal?

[Kathleen1994]

Me and my boyfriend had a talk about My pregnancy.. and we both almost cried because i said it will change our lifes.. and the worst is That Security guard company just laid him off :/ i am scared.. and where I live appartements are Expensive but I Am Living with his mom currently.. i am Just feeling sad, dont get me Wrong my girl is my Life and i Love her but it's how i Feel

 

[teenmommy15]

lately i have been having alot of mixed feelings and sadness about alot of things to so i completely understand where your coming from and i dont like talking about my problems so its makes it ten times worse when im feeling like this but you kind of just meddle through its totally normal for your emotions to be all wacked out.

 

[magic93]

The last few days ive been having some mixed emotions myself, thinking about everything. Im so stressed out that im scared im going to go into labor early. I cant wait for my baby boy to be here but i am so stressed out about so much right now, not sure what to do. So I can understand where you comin from

 

[MummyMana]

It's scary having a baby due soon when your partner's just lost/losing his job, I know how you feel on that part :/ my OH has been given an end date as they can't afford to renew his contract, the end date is a month before I'm due :/ that gives him a month to find another job :/ I hope your partner finds work too

 

[kayla93]

I think its normal to have mixed emotions, especially when one of you loses a job. I have felt that way since finding out I was pregnant because we moved into an apartment the month we found out, and its too expensive with the baby coming too. We decided to move back home and live with my parents because it will be so much easier. Money unfortunately is a huge stressor. I hope your man finds another job soon so you two can both be less stressed.

 

[magic93]

Yeah definately is a worry! Good Luck to all of you ladies! Idk how I am going to manage, looks more and more like im going to be starting off on my own everyday. Jus hate I dont know whats goin on. My dad doesnt want a baby here either, so if OH doesnt come home in the next month I am somehow going to have to find a way to get my own place.

 

[magic93]

My due date is getting so close too and I have no idea what is goin to happen

 

[Feff]

I feel the same sometimes, do you have any other people you can talk too? My mam is really supportive and helpful (I still live at home and I'm single) and whenever I feel down or scared I always talk to her, or some close friends the good days have been outweighing the bad lately though so just try and relax and enjoy the quiet time before baby is born lol!

 

[lizmageeful]

I totally understand the feeling! tbh, ive had mixed emotions a lot of the time. Like, i already love my daughter more than my life itself, but I keep thinking about the fact that me and OH are getting married in 2 weeks when, tbh, im not sure we would still be together if not for Lux. dont get me wrong, I love Trev, but its still like, ok, im getting married at 16 for a baby we probably wont be able to afford till hes working full time in the military... and its a lot to take in. and its stressful.

 

[tinkerbelle93]

I know how you feel.. before you get pregnant and these things happen (losing jobs etc.) it's stressful but manageable and you can see a way out.. but when you've got the impending arrival of a baby to consider it just makes everything seem so much more scary!

I fell pregnant at not a great time.. I was just having my last A-level exams and due to go to uni in a few months and didn't have a job, my partner was working at his job as a mechanic but was still on Apprentice wages (very, very low!)- we had no money, no savings, I felt as though I'd ruined my education and we were living with my mum and dad! I remember us looking through houses to rent and writing down the cost of bills etc. and realising we couldn't afford it, we'd both have conversations and be near to tears because everything looked so bleak.

It worked out okay in the end though, mainly because my parents were happy with us living at theres with the baby. Is his mom okay with you being there after the baby is born? It was less stress because I found a job full-time then we saved up until Oliver was one, and my OH qualified and was on good money and manged to get a part-buy home. I look at us now and think 'phew! I never thought we'd be this comfortable' Sometimes it seems like everything's going wrong but it sorts itself out. xx

 

[ClairAye]

It's normal, having a baby IS a huge thing and of course it will completely change your life, so it's normal to be scared!

My OH was in and out of part-time jobs when I was pregnant and still isn't in full time work, he still has a lot of time to find a new job, and should you not be able to apply for benefits?

 

[mayb_baby]

sorry your OH is losing his job and I can see how scary it is when there's a family to support, my OHs job has been threatened with work shortages a few times but thankfully he has never been paid off.

I was 3 months pregnant when I was doing my A-Levels, I was supposed to start university in September and my OH was working full time.

He had savings but didn't want to move in together and I couldn't stay with him if we were to live apart as I felt I would be doing everything with LO and he would be able to come/go as he pleased.

I differed my entry for a year and had to settle for my second choice university, I was so jealous of my friends moving into their digs and me settling, buying furniture, being on benefits and worrying about money.

I remember us looking through houses to rent and writing down the cost of bills etc. and realising we couldn't afford it, we'd both have conversations and be near to tears because everything looked so bleak.

You may struggle and things may look bleak at times but you will get by and all the awful worries and stress does subsidize a bit, just get your OHs CV out there and stay positive though its hard