MMC

[annio84]

I woke up this morning with some brown discharge and mild period like cramps. I managed to get referred to the early pregnancy unit and went to be checked. I had a scan and they told me the baby was measuring as 11+6 and no heartbeat. I should be 14 weeks tomorrow.i can't believe this has happened, I had my 12 week scan and was dated 11+5 and baby was fine and wiggling around so I thought I was into the safe zone. I just don't know what to do or how to tell people. I rang work because I was supposed to be in today and tomorrow and ended up crying down the phone to my colleague. Telling my 3 year old was awful. She sobbed of 10 minutes and kept asking when the baby would come back.

I've been given information about my options and told to think about it and let them know. I'm inclined to go the natural route but I'm scared to pass the baby at home. What am I supposed to do with the baby? Also I'm worried about being alone with my daughter. Does anyone have any advice for me?

 

[LoraLoo]

I am so sorry Hun. I had 2 late losses at 15 and 18 weeks. They admitted me and I had medical management and passed baby in hospital. We chose to bury them but im not sure at what gestation this becomes possible.
It was fairly painful thought, don't think I'd have liked to have gone through it at home although I was that bit further on.
I would start weeing Ito a bowl, I know it sounds awful but baby will often come out when you're on the loo, especially once the contractions start.
I've read stories where other people have buried baby in a big pot and planted a tree so that baby can always stay with them, not sure how you'd feel about that, most hospitals also offer cremations although this is usually with other babies and the ashes scattered.
Thinking of you x

 

[sunshine2014]

I'm so sorry this is happening. I also had two missed miscarriages, and it is the worst feeling - you feel so betrayed by your own body. I hope you have lots of support around you. It DOES get easier, I promise,

 

[annio84]

Thank you for replying ladies. It's so strange I've been saying right from getting my bop that I didn't feel the same about this pregnancy as I did my daughters. Normally I rely heavily on my instincts but I tried to ignore it, especially after having a normal dating scan. It's kind of hard to get my head around because I still feel pregnant.

 

[sunshine2014]

I could have written your last post. From the minute I got my bfp on Jan 1, it was so light, that my instinct didn't feel it. I continued to test (which I've never done in the past, after a bfp), and it was fainter still. I was pretty sure I Was having a chemical pregnancy.

It's so upsetting, but having had two mmc later on (13 weeks and 8 weeks), I'm sort of relieved that it happened early this time. It doesn't make it easier, but I know it will be okay...

I hope you will too.

 

[annio84]

Ladies I have a question. So after I wrote this post I miscarried the next night and then spent sunday in hospital because I nearly passed out when the placenta got stuck. Fortunately it eventually passed on it's own but anyway.

After that my bleeding slowed right down and was very light to the point of almost stopping. I then had 2 days of passing more clots and bleeding more heavily on thursday and friday last week. Again it settled and on monday morning this week I thought it had completely stopped. I then did some exercise and started again. Yesterday I again woke up with nothing. Did some more exercise and actually thought I'd gotten away with it but then when I was putting my daughter to bed last night nipped to the loo and there were a few small clost and quite a bit of blood. I'm still bleeding this morning. I guess I just want to know if this stopping and starting is normal or if I should be going to the doctors. Also how much longer is this likely to continue. I just want it to be over so we can try again. I'm 32 which I know is not that old in the grand scheme of things but I'm not sure I'll be done at 2 and if I do want a 3rd I don't have time to waste. Plus I don't imagine anything is going to make me feel better except being pregnant again.

 

[Sweetkat]

Sorry about your loss.

I have had 3 MMCs and the first one was at 8-9 weeks. I thought I had miscarried after having the medical management pill and had no bleeding for 2 weeks and then had very heavy bleeding out of the blue with big clots and cramps.

I think what you are experiencing is totally normal. There may be some retained lining/ placenta left.

Big hugs xxx

 

[HelenJane]

Normal. My miscarriage was at 14 weeks and i bled for 5 weeks then had a couple of days where i didn't then did again. It was like you are describing. Bleeding is different for everyone so there is no time limit we an say it will stop by but i believe on average 4 to 5 weeks. It can stop start just depends how active you are i guess but it will stop then you will get your period. Try not to worry