Mom is at it again!! worst advice ever...

[lanaross]

I am overfeeding my BF baby and I need to give him water at night and feed him every three hours during day. I mean seriously we've been through this before with DD when I listened one night and she screamed the house down in front of my mom, why repeat it?

At first I thought she was joking. But then she kept repeating it, I had to ask if this was not a joke? And apparently she's pretty serious. Saying that he has reflux because I am overfeeding him and they never had these problems when I was a baby??? HUH? What gives??

Anybody else got the worst advice of the century?

 

[surprisedmama]

I am overfeeding my BF baby and I need to give him water at night and feed him every three hours during day. I mean seriously we've been through this before with DD when I listened one night and she screamed the house down in front of my mom, why repeat it?

At first I thought she was joking. But then she kept repeating it, I had to ask if this was not a joke? And apparently she's pretty serious. Saying that he has reflux because I am overfeeding him and they never had these problems when I was a baby??? HUH? What gives??

Anybody else got the worst advice of the century?

My grandmother (so my kids' great grandma) told me to "put one of those locks on the top of their door on the outside so they can't get out at night". I had to nod my head, smile, and say thank you. Needless to say, when I left, I needed to pick my jaw off the floor.

 

[AmarettiEtJus]

I was told to let my then 4 week old son CIO, as it would give him a beautiful singing voice like Bob Marley.

I couldnt stop laughing at the absurdity of it all lol

 

[ruby09]

My baby had severe reflux and was throwing up everything he ate. He was in so much pain he couldn't lay down at night and had to sleep sitting up, so we put him on zantac to help (later diagnosed as a milk allergy.) A very opinionated friend of the family (one who had never even met my baby) thought it was so horrible to give my baby medication and told me he just has colic, give him fennel tea and he would be fine. When I said no, she proceeded to call my mother in law to have her talk some sense into me.

 

[lanaross]

I am overfeeding my BF baby and I need to give him water at night and feed him every three hours during day. I mean seriously we've been through this before with DD when I listened one night and she screamed the house down in front of my mom, why repeat it?

At first I thought she was joking. But then she kept repeating it, I had to ask if this was not a joke? And apparently she's pretty serious. Saying that he has reflux because I am overfeeding him and they never had these problems when I was a baby??? HUH? What gives??

Anybody else got the worst advice of the century?

My grandmother (so my kids' great grandma) told me to "put one of those locks on the top of their door on the outside so they can't get out at night". I had to nod my head, smile, and say thank you. Needless to say, when I left, I needed to pick my jaw off the floor.

I actually read an article about this I think in guardian or some other UK edition, somebody has recently posted this on BnB -- parents put a lock on the kid's bedroom door i guess sleep deprivation can make some do odd things..

 

[xGracex]

My mon actually told me practically the same thing as yours. Just not about the water. I bf on demand and he wikk eat every 2 hours give or take.. and 3ish hours at night.
She said he needs to be on a 3 hr a day schedule and one feed a night now. Because he is almost two months old. And I must be over feeding him so thats why he has reflux and gas problems.
I know she is just trying to help but it gets annoying.

 

[cupcaker]

Same crap on how babies dont need feeding as much as i did. Was bf at the time too.divs

 

[CertainTurton]

OP you say that is old fashioned but it is actually what a leading 'baby expert' suggests (I don't think Im allowed to say her name as I wasn't allowed to post a post about her...). I can't believe people suggest this for tiny babies!! madness in my opinion. you just keep following your instinct and it will be perfect

 

[Lulu]

My MIL told me the best advice she was given as a new mum and expected me to do them same - after every feed hold baby over a potty til it poos and you'll hardly ever have dirty nappies. This was just after I had my son, so 4 yrs ago now. I tried to explain to her that some days he didn't poo so I'd be sitting there a while and quite frankly I har better things to do - plus I didn't imagine my child would be happy hovering over a potty indefinitely either She hasn't offered any pearls of wisdom this time!

 

[lanaross]

OP you say that is old fashioned but it is actually what a leading 'baby expert' suggests (I don't think Im allowed to say her name as I wasn't allowed to post a post about her...). I can't believe people suggest this for tiny babies!! madness in my opinion. you just keep following your instinct and it will be perfect

oh tell me tell me

 

[lanaross]

My MIL told me the best advice she was given as a new mum and expected me to do them same - after every feed hold baby over a potty til it poos and you'll hardly ever have dirty nappies. This was just after I had my son, so 4 yrs ago now. I tried to explain to her that some days he didn't poo so I'd be sitting there a while and quite frankly I har better things to do - plus I didn't imagine my child would be happy hovering over a potty indefinitely either She hasn't offered any pearls of wisdom this time!

imagine doing it with two kids

 

[katsbump]

My mom badgered me so much to give lo pablum because she needs solids to sleep better apparently that I finally broke down and gave her a teaspoon of rice cereal. The cereal seemed like a better option than the big bottle of formula my mom says would also benefit my breastfed baby's sleep. Cue the worst sleep ever! The next day mom tells me it's my fault for giving it in the evening cuz it's cereal and should therefore be given in the morning or afternoon. Her justification for all of this advice - all babies slept better when I was a baby so we must be doing something wrong with all this breastfeeding until six months. I had to take a day off from talking to my mother due to the constant and unrelenting pressure to feed my baby a bottle or solids.

 

[9jawife]

My mother told me to give my 3 month old EBF son rice cereal.... oy vey.

 

[hopeful4bfp]

My mother told me that Noiee should only eat purees because she doesnt have teeth to chew with. I told her that babies dont get their teeth we chew with till 2-3, she looked at me and said "and?" apparently my daughter can only eat solids when she is 3!! Though she told me a story were my bother almost choked to death on a french fry in his carseat at 9 months old. smh...

 

[Beccaboop]

My MIL told me the best advice she was given as a new mum and expected me to do them same - after every feed hold baby over a potty til it poos and you'll hardly ever have dirty nappies. This was just after I had my son, so 4 yrs ago now. I tried to explain to her that some days he didn't poo so I'd be sitting there a while and quite frankly I har better things to do - plus I didn't imagine my child would be happy hovering over a potty indefinitely either She hasn't offered any pearls of wisdom this time!

Thats crazy! My lo only pooped every other day for about 5 months until he started solids and now its once a day so id be dong the same as you said just hovering him half naked (which he still hates) over a potty all day for 2 days!!

 

[girlnboots]

I had a lady in the store ask where my baby's "plug" is. Because "every baby needs a plug".

I'm entirely unaware of when I gave birth to a bathtub.

 

[Bevziibubble]

My DH's nan told me to press down on lo's tongue with a spoon to get her to accept spoons as she wouldn't be getting any nutrition from BLW. Apparently if you eat things from a spoon it's more nutritious


To drill holes in the wall while LO was sleeping so that she would not be such a light sleeper.


To give a bottle as I must have 'watery breast milk' like she did


Most of the crap advice I've received is to tell me to leave LO to cry from 4 weeks old as she would be spoilt/clingy/rod for own back etc

 

[AngelofTroy]

My Health Visitor told me that it was a mystery why Micah wasn't gaining weight and called him 'an enigma', she actually called his latch "perfect" and wanted to take a picture to pass around the breastfeeding group! She said it must just be that he's not getting the "fatty stuff" so to keep putting him on the same breast and not switch as often…

After several weeks of being fobbed off I finally went to see a professional breastfeeding counsellor who diagnosed a lip and tongue tie, and low milk supply caused by a POOR latch and the block feeding I'd been inadvertently doing which is used to treat OVERSUPPLY!

I subsequently had to combi feed Micah from 8 weeks

 

[lanaross]

I had a lady in the store ask where my baby's "plug" is. Because "every baby needs a plug".

I'm entirely unaware of when I gave birth to a bathtub.

lol what on earth did she mean?? a paci?