money advice of part time working mums in UK

[wishing4baby3]

hi ladies im not a single parent but need some advice for my husband,his ex has got csa involved cause she feels we dont pay enough towards his son even though we have 3 kids togetha too and believe we do it as fairly as we can,the thing is she will not let us pay a penny of it in her bank,it has to go into her mothers and we are wondering why,also when my husband mentioned this she all of a sudden doesnt want csa involved even though she has it so hard
she works 17 hours,has 1 child at 6yrs old and in full time school and says apart from her wage only gets working tax credits and no other help ie housing benefits ,income support n what not which we dont believe,so please with ur help before we go get some advice what do you get as a single parent working around 17 hours if you dont mind sharing,
we arnt doing this to get out of paying more as we will happily do so if we have too but we feel like we are being taken for a ride by her seeming she can happily spend £800 in 4 wks on his bday and christmas,
thankyou for looking and sharing

 

[lemontree12]

is the csa asking for more money than you ordinally agreed?
insure the money is going into her bank as it can all get messy and she could actually say your not paying when in reality you are.
i personally dont think what ever benefits she recieves should matter, the child is both theres and they should be an equal balance. my fob pays 174per month worked out by the csa. and 174 doesnt come close to half to bring up my little girl. so the csa will not ask for a stupid amount and they will take into consideration your 3children.
the money she recieves from any benefits is for her and the child, it should matter nor should it mean there should be a less payment from matience.

the csa will be the fair way

 

[lemontree12]

also she wouldnt recieve income support and possibliy not housing benefit. so tax credits does sound a likely story

 

[wishing4baby3]

what it is my husband has had to go part time just so he can see his son as she will only let him have him on sundays and it was the only way his work would let him have every sunday off,we cant have him over night or longer than 6 hours to take him out on day trips with our kids,she will not let us pay it into her account and when we push to she drops all matters of money so we are wondering if she is playing the system as i have heard the goverment only allows you to live of so much so will keep some if it goes over this to pay bk to the goverment,we pay what the csa asked of us yet she stopped it going to them to go into her mums account instead saying she was worse off

 

[Shezza84uk]

Agree with lemontree, she will receive housing benefit, council tax benefit and working and child tax credits. She will not be on any other benefit also as above please pay into her own account I think part of the reason she would prefer not to is the council takes into account maintenance and occationally ask for bank statements, her benefits will get reduced which I can understand this might cause hardship for her and the child.

 

[lemontree12]

matience isnt taken into concideration when recieving benefits. iv never been asked if i recieve money from matience, my little girl is 7months so iv not long applied for benefits.

 

[lemontree12]

she may think shes playing the system because before i applied i thought money receieved from fob was taken into consideration, but i think it was last year it changed.

i would take her to court to sort out days which suit you all. and recieve some over night access. also if you have over night access the csa ask for less money

 

[wishing4baby3]

thankyou ladies,if she is telling the truth or not we have now decided from the info we have off you that we will start the csa claim back up ourselfs just so we know we are in the right,we treat all kids the same as my oldest also isnt my husbands so we know how little some mums get as we only get £40 a month off her dad for her where as my husband pays alot more for his son plus buys clothes when he needs them,we just couldnt understand why so many games were being used when the money side is up for debate but with the csa involved we are doing it proper,thankyou for you time ladies

 

[lemontree12]

you will prob find, you have to pay less via the csa. its 20% shared between his 3 chilldren of his wage

 

[wishing4baby3]

i think your right as the amount we pay is what it was before our youngest was born and we are happy paying this amount but getting fed up of her demands for more plus threats my husband wont see him if he doesnt do what she is asking for,my husband was asking all of these questions because of wondering if it was a good enough case to take court without causing to many problems for both partys but he is to nice and wants to avoid it if poss which is why he wanted to know if she was telling the truth

 

[Ceejay123]

Best of luck honey, if in doubt.. Go through CSA. Money can be a hard matter that can cause arguments. CSA take it out of both parties hands. X