Money as a wedding gift

[Wobbles]

So we've been invited to a wedding however the couple who are getting married have requested pennies instead of gifts for a honeymoon ... I get this as not everyone can afford holidays and don't have families/Dads who help/can help towards their wedding day etc which some people are lucky to have and the poem was really sweet but how much would you give them?

x

 

[sbl]

In Ireland we only give cash for weddings nowadays.
Minimum is usually €100!
Wedding season gets pretty feckin expensive 😣

 

[kirstybumx3]

It's so common now isn't it to ask for money instead of gifts. I guess because people are already living together etc before marriage house gifts and such things aren't needed.
I'd give between £50-£100 depending how close I am with the people getting married personally.

 

[vaniilla]

I would give £50, it's what we're giving in a couple of weeks time when we go to a wedding.

 

[Kate&Lucas]

We tend to give £20 for distant friends/relatives and £50-£100 for anyone close.

 

[Nibblenic]

In the north east I would say £25 for friends, £50-£100 for close friends or family

 

[Wobbles]

Thanks lovelies

Think it'll be the £50 mark and maybe a little gift!

 

[MindUtopia]

I usually go by roughly the cost of what I would give as a wedding gift and also if you are actually going to the wedding (if not, usually less). Generally, we give about £50, give or take. If they are minted, honestly less because I doubt they need it. If they're younger and just starting out, more. But if I had to pay to go to the wedding (destination) or take off work (week days), frankly I take a bit of a deduction for that too! We had a family wedding this month that we didn't go to (scheduled for a week we had planned to be out of the country since last year). I gave them £40.

 

[lau86]

I go for £20 evening guest £50 day guest friend, more if family

 

[Bittersweet]

It would depend if we were all day or just evening but I'd give about £50-£100

 

[george83]

If it's just for their honeymoon I don't give much maybe £10/£20, we had four days in Devon for our honeymoon as we couldn't afford a 'real' one so I'm selfish about then paying for other people's holidays. However if they ask for money and it's not specifically said it for a honeymoon is give £50 for close friends/family £30 for not so close and £20 for evening guests

 

[kbwebb]

We did this at our wedding. some paid 20 some paid 50 our in laws gave us 300!!! (although i think that is because they didnt pay towards the wedding)

we didnt mind at all if people gave us nothing or if they could only give a bit. we didnt even expect to get over £100 in total.. ended up with £700!
Paid for our 'familymoon' wedding photo CD and for my dress to be cleaned

 

[Vickie]

It's common in DH's culture to give money for weddings. I believe we give about 100$ but we've only been to a few weddings for his family/family friends.

 

[jd83]

Casual friends/aquaintances we give around $25, close friends/family, $50-100.

 

[Radiowave]

I go for £20 evening guest £50 day guest friend, more if family

It's the same about me, I see nothing bad in money as gift, especially if people don't describe their exact wishes for gifts

 

[LoveCakes]

I'm Personally not a fan I'm not sure completely why maybe as it would be too easy to compare who gave what. We've mostly given off a wedding list as our friends have been starting out. Or bought an experience on their honeymoon if that's what it's for.

Actually now I think we had friends who already had a house etc... and asked for money as they didn't want loads of duplicates and we bought them a lesson in a cookery school as they loved cooking. It went down well as a date night once the excitement of the wedding wore off.

To the OP it depends on your circumstances and theirs but £50-100 seems to be 'normal'

 

[kazzzzy]

We were at a friend of DH's wedding on Saturday & gave them €150, think that is about average in Ireland.

 

[2have4kids]

We actually had a wedding where we asked for no gifts please cash towards a new bed & matress only. We had lived together previously and had an overseas wedding. Most guests gave $100 and up. We had everything we needed as we had purchased a home together 7 years prior to our wedding. Except we had this god-awful squeeky cheap bed that was killing my back. So we picked out a very expensive beautiful Bob Mackie leather sleigh bed and custom matress. Best gift ever.
But we put up our 42 guests and their children in a luxury hotel in Scotland for 2 nights and fed them a welcome tea snack, two dinners and breakfast. It was the best party I've ever been to and no one complained about us asking for cash only towards the bed (especially after hearing about our crumby piece of crap 20 yr old original).