Moving, #1 starting reception, pregnant, help!!

[justmeinlove]

Hi all!

I'll be grateful for any advice as there are so many things that I just can't work it out.

So I am currently 28 weeks pregnant and we are in the process of selling our house (waiting for exchange date). Currently we live in Surrey but due to various issues are planning to move across country, probably to Exeter.

To throw a spanner in the works however, 5 weeks ago my husband had an accident which ended in 4 weeks of hospitalisation, numerous operations and a skin graft on his leg. Currently the most he is allowed to do is get up to get a drink or go to the loo - and I know they take months to heal properly.
Because of this we haven't actually been able to visit Exeter or choose an area or house to rent.

Our daughter is due to start primary school in a few weeks. #2 is due mid November.

What I can't decide is whether to say sod it and rent in our local area for six months, give our daughter six months to get used to the idea of school, and then move in the Spring - so she gets a term making friends at new school - or to just push and push and move to the new area now. Option 2 feels pretty stressful as assuming husband's leg is up for it I'd be driving us down on a scouting expedition at around 30 weeks and then I think we'd be moving at around...35 weeks? (true with either option I suppose).

What would other people do? (other than scream and hide in a hole and pretend none of it is happening)? 😉

 

[LoraLoo]

Id be looking to move now. Moving is always going to be stressful, i would rather be moved in and settled for the new baby arriving and so that dd can start fresh at her new school rather than move her. That said- they do adapt really quickly at that age so if you did stay where you are for a few months it wouldn't concern me too much, but i think its just delaying the inevitable! Good luck in house hunting!

 

[housewifey]

To be honest, I'd probably go with the moving sooner rather than later option. Although it's difficult for me to imagine how difficult life is with regards to your husbands well being right now.

I'd just prefer to have everything all moved in and situated before new baby arrives, have your daughter start school along with the rest of her classmates and hope that hubby can plod along for the ride. As long as your healthy pregnancy wise, I wouldn't see any harm in driving back and forth a bit to house hunt. Do you have someone who could help with your daughter? Then that's one less thing to worry about whilst you deal with the rest?

Hugs for you, life seems to throw everything at us at once I think.

 

[justmeinlove]

Part of the problem i think is that husband has started talking about moving somewhere we won't need a mortgage. Which is a fab idea but definitely wouldn't be Exeter!

No one to help unfortunately.

I did really like the idea of moving and having our little girl start school with everyone else but as this drags on and we're looking at October, it feels like more of a huge disruption.

I think sense says move now, heart has questions about where and is just trying to make the chaos go away for a bit 😉

 

[justmeinlove]

Plus I will add that no matter where we move it will be a rental initially followed by house hunting and buying after six months to a year. Does that make any difference to answers?

 

[Eleanor ace]

I'd push to move now, unless you think it would really be too stressful. I think that moving house twice in a short space of time would be hard on all of you (moving house sucks!
I'm in Exeter, if you need a tour guide/advice on the area and schools let me know!