Moving On

[Miss_Quirky]

How do you even begin to move on from FOB? I am currently stuck living with him, mostly because of our financial situation, neither of us can currently afford living on our own, but also because we are staying with my parents at the moment.

I am still completely in love with him, and he says he loves me as the mother of his son but not romantically anymore. He has tried to make this as easy as possible for me, but it's just...not. And it won't be..it hurts that he just doesn't love me anymore, and I know it will take time to get over him, but he is happy continuing to live together and seeing the girl he cheated on me with...and it is just crushing me. He says he's not seeing her, but I know he is and is just trying to make me feel like he's not left me because of someone else.

How did you start to move on? How long did it take before it didn't just break your heart to see him anymore? I am trying to focus on getting a job and finding a place of my own, but it's hard.

 

[jemmie1994]

Was very simple with FOB he vanished so it was easy to hate him, not to say I wasn't upset and when he came back and said he missed me was very hard not to give into him. Evie gets me through it I'm just so happy with her and realized I don't need him Is hard but you get there in time although will be harder with you living with him still just focus on being a mummy to Devlin the pain does go away

 

[davidjoemum]

sorry darling but to be able to move on you have to move out!you cant stay there looking at his mug all day and seing him going out with the girl he was cheating on you its only gets worse you and LO need to peace and quiet!do you want your LO to see you sad at all the time?i dont think so!if he cannot afford to live on his own thats his problem he should not be cheating and hurting you he can go live with B...ch who he was cheating on you with(OMG IM SO AGAINST THAT)
kick ******* out file for child support ask social security for financial help towards rent until you get some job!will be tough at the beginning but it will get better!
good luck!

 

[Miss_Quirky]

Thanks...I don't know what to believe anymore I talked to his sister and she said he had been cheating for months, but he still says that she is wrong and he never really slept with her, just messed around once -.- I just don't know.

We are getting kicked out of my parents' place right now, and temporarily gonna stay with his mum until we both find jobs. He told me today that he wants to try dating again,but not right now because things are overwhelming..Tbh I don't know if I want to try again at the moment. I won't date him while he is still in contact with her, and if I tell him that then we are definitely not getting back together. Which right now I am okay with. I want to be okay with being single for a while, I haven't been in years.

 

[Laura2919]

In all honesty you will not be able to get over him while your living together. He chose to end the relationship so should take the steps to find somewhere else to live.
It is hard but slowly slowly you get there. As they say 'time is a great healer'

 

[SilasLove]

Why don't your parents just kick him out so that their daughter can get on with her life and move forward? Living with him you will never move on hon! Its just the simple truth, especially if he is playing mind games ie. saying he wants to get back together.

 

[Miss_Quirky]

They don't want me or my son here.... My mum keeps going back and forth, saying she loves us being here then the next day asking when I am leaving. I don't want to deal with it anymore.

Being this depressed is hard. I really feel like I just want to give up on everything...

 

[SilasLove]

Have you no options to get help from government? I am trying to remember if I read anything in previous posts or not ... just hang in there dear. It will get better.