Mutual Friends......

[AbbynChloe]

Do any of you wonderful ladies share mutual friends with your Ex??

Here is my problem. Ever since the little shit moved to London, he hasn't seen his daughter - fair enough his choice!

However I am no facing a dilemma. I don't really like out mutual friends anymore. I know it's no one should get in the middle of us - but I hate the idea of spending time with them then they hang out with him and discuss Chloe - think that is totally inappropriate.

I want to be able to share pictures of her in facebook without them showing him.

Would it be so awful to block them on facebook???

 

[teal]

Awww hunny I guess it depends on how close you are to your mutual friends?

That's something that would really bother me too xxx

 

[AbbynChloe]

It swings - but they spend more time with him than Chloe and I, and in that sense I don't really like them??

I guess i just answered my own question, which is a shame, but I think it's unfair on us if people ignore his behavior and not call him out. If they think it's ok for him to behave that way or just avoid the topic all together they can just keep him.

I don't think Mutual friends make sense in this situation anymore!

 

[xSophieBx]

I deleted everyone tht had a connection to FOB.

Facebook have all new settings now.. What about just selecting the 1s u don't want seeing your stuff and blocking them from seeing your pictures and updates etc.. but their still on your friends list... If that makes sense? x

 

[AbbynChloe]

Lol - sounds like too much effort - and whats the point really?? I think it's more than just facebook - just feel let down by them really xxxxxxxxxx

 

[xSophieBx]

Ok hun, I'd def delete them then... their obviously more for him! You'll feel better once u've done it Don't need nosy ppl in your life!! x

 

[mamashakesit]

I am grappling with this issue myself. I kept in touch with his best friends more then he did when I was pregnant. They were good to me and let me talk and cry...but they got sick of hearing me bitch about him after awhile. They always have been nice and asked about the baby...but I knew from the beginning that he was their friend, not mine. I'm trying to decide if I should remove them. Probably.

 

[AbbynChloe]

I've just decided to remove them - If they ask i'll be honest and just say i'm trying to move on from that part of my life and I can't really be involved with people who still hang out with FOB - just puts everyone in an awkward situation.

I do feel much better

 

[teal]

Glad you feel better removing them

I agree about it feeling awkward because they're either ignoring his behaviour or think it's ok

massive hugs xx

 

[xSophieBx]

Glad you feel much happier x

 

[Laura2919]

I think removing them was best. FOB is still on my FB and he has the girls every other weekend and one day during the week so he sees them anyway but I can see where your coming from. We have mutual friends but I know which ones are more for me and the mutual friends that are more for him and I stay away from those. I also have friends which actually hate FOB so that makes it better

 

[jessrabbit]

My block list gets longer everyday! LOL

Seriously I always feel better after I have blocked people. I havent blocked all mutual friends, but most of them now.

The way I see it anything he wants to know he can ask me rather than finding out on the grapevine that is facebook!

 

[Laura2919]

Facebook is the root of all evil and has a lot to answer for. So does all social networking sites. I hate the fact FOB girlfriend and her mates can see my kids.. Makes me so annoyed.

 

[xJG30]

I've got quite a few mutual friends with FOB. I still show my pictures off because I know full well they won't pass them on.

 

[TTCinBC]

My fob's SIL is one of my best friends. Was really hard in the beginning. I deleted everyone else who had. Connection with him. He doesnt see or speak to my dd. But now im totally at the point where i dont care if he sees a picture. I want him to be reminded or what he is missing out on. I actually have his gf on my friends list as well. Definitely did not happen right away. Took a long time, but did it for the reason i mentioned. Its his loss and I want him to know it! I get a small sense of satisfaction from it too, lol

 

[mamashakesit]

Well, I finally blocked his "family." His best friend in Oregon and that guys wife, daughter and mother. I kinda hated to do it, because I know the friend's wife and mother think he's a POS. But...they obviously have close ties to the best friend, whom I no longer trust. I remembered the other day that FOB had told me he sent them (the best friend and wife) $500 to help with a legal issue they have. It became very clear to me suddenly...they were willing to bitch about him and support me when he was a drunken, unemployed loser, but now that he's their meal ticket, they ignore me and won't even answer texts or emails that have nothing to do with him. Who needs that kind of "support?" Especially when they know he doesn't take care of his own daughter...but he takes care of them. That was unforgivable to them a year ago. Suddenly it's OK and I'm the idiot.

 

[AbbynChloe]

Mutual friends are a minefield!
Facebook is evil - FOB and me are not friends, but I can see his wall and it aggravates me so much that he cant respond to a text but can write stupid statuses urgh!

Its sad because with friends on the one hand I feel like I should not drag them into the middle - but on the other I cannot stand people who stand by when one of their friends are so obviously doing wrong?? how can you be friends with a person with such little moral character??

I have just blocked a few people for now, and I am sure my list will increase as this sad tale plays out.......

thank you ladies for your contribution xxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[Laura2919]

What annoys me the most is when they upload pics to wind people up. FOB sister does it a lot. She will upload a picture of her, twins, her son, FOB, and their parents and put our family walks or will put a status like I had a lovely afternoon with my family. Sometimes thats when I wish I didnt have them on there.
I wanna write erm no, the girls are my family. Its all point scoring, they wanna make out they are such a loving family but before me and FOB split they couldnt give a flying karate chop about us. We never did family outings.