My 3 year old son wants to live with daddy

[Cazza7]

I split up with my sons dad in 2012, he left me for someone else, he didnt see him for 2 months then eventually his mum made him, my song turned 3 a few weeks ago, and he loves going to daddys, he counts down the days till hes back there again, he goes every monday-tuesday, and every friday night and saturday, so he has him 3 days, i have him the rest... well I work full time, so its hard...

He came back last night, saying that he wants to live with daddy, I will admit he is an amazing dad, very hands on now, really good with him, he doesnt work so he has lots of time etc, he doesnt pay for him either thats all me, he lives at home with his parents still, who pay for everything, I just feel so hurt, I am the one who works hard, I am the one who buys him everything, I took him on holiday, i dont get no help. He puts our child to bed when he has him then he goes off out etc while his mum watches him.

Its just I know my little boy would happily live with his dad.

 

[MummyJade]

Dont feel so bad, it could be just cos of Daddys he is getting attention of the grandparents as well as Daddy.. And that he sees it as a holiday at Daddys, he could get spoilt by them all... Kinda grass is green...

x

 

[Dezireey]

That is hard. But you could always do a trial run and let him stay full time at Daddys for a few weeks and you will soon find that a) he wants his mummy and misses you and b) Daddy hands him back once he realises its a full time job and not a holiday. The grandparents will also realise that they have to pay for everything and not just a few days a week. Its an idea but you know your LO best and sometimes they say these types of things but it has no real meaning and you know that. He loves his mum and he will only love you more the older he gets and the wiser he becomes. You are working hard to provide for him and he is too young to understand that right now.