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Lost7
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Okay, so I've had 8 miscarriages now. Through out the years starting in 2005 all the way up to this year. I have 6 beautiful healthy(ish) children but 8 angels in heaven.
The first one in 2005 was hard to deal with as they all are but given time I bounced back, I remained positive for the future but remembered the angel(s) I'd already lost, remembered them every day, but felt like there was some kind of reason for the losses and it was probably just 'one of those things' but now, 8 miscarriages seems a bit too personal. No one suffers this amount of losses with NO reasons as to why.
Because I've not had 3-in-a-row yet they will not investigate, at all.
We're on our 10th cycle of TTC, this is our 4th cycle after our last loss. This is the last baby to complete our family.
When I had betas done in March (first time they've ever ordered betas), when I was told it had gone from 31 to 24 and 'Miscarriage was now imminent' I was also told it was 'natures way' and 'natures selection' and ''probably for the best'' (WTF)
Now, this week I've had to deal with a few announcements. One lesbian couple who miscarried the same time as me, fell pregnant on her third cycle after loss.
Another who moaned at me that her husband never finished inside her, both got their that day. To top that off a british tv soap (Eastenders) told the story of an actor who recently found out she was 5 months pregnant. That very evening (and tipping me over the edge) I have an app on my phone, whisper it's called. I had a notification someone had whispered something about 'pregnant' and 'husband'. I swiped it too quickly to see exactly what was said.
I feel like such a bitter person now, people announce their pregnancy and I ought to be happy FOR THEM. Not angry. A friend fell pregnant whilst I was miscarrying too, another friend had her baby, another friend had her baby the same day as all these announcements.
One woman who found out her the same day as me in February is now 25 weeks. I sent her a message, stupidly asking how the pregnancy was going. She replied some garbage about how her boyfriend of only 3 months left her, blah blah (I think she's 17, she's very young) and my bitter reply was 'at least you've still got your baby'.
How could I say such a nasty, bitter thing back? Why couldn't I be supportive of her (I've removed her as a friend as I couldn't bear the bump shots), I've been there with my last baby, the Father left me at 29 weeks. I know what it's like yet I couldn't resist one ounce of bitterness to wish her well and that it'll all be okay. She's young, she's pregnant with her first and she's probably scared.
Who am I turning into? I feel really down about it all at the minute, everything, everyone everywhere is either pregnant or giving birth and here I am broken hearted and empty womb.
Sorry for the vent, I just feel like I am not me anymore, the last miscarriage is too much to bare and that I am changing into a very nasty bitter person.
The first one in 2005 was hard to deal with as they all are but given time I bounced back, I remained positive for the future but remembered the angel(s) I'd already lost, remembered them every day, but felt like there was some kind of reason for the losses and it was probably just 'one of those things' but now, 8 miscarriages seems a bit too personal. No one suffers this amount of losses with NO reasons as to why.
Because I've not had 3-in-a-row yet they will not investigate, at all.
We're on our 10th cycle of TTC, this is our 4th cycle after our last loss. This is the last baby to complete our family.
When I had betas done in March (first time they've ever ordered betas), when I was told it had gone from 31 to 24 and 'Miscarriage was now imminent' I was also told it was 'natures way' and 'natures selection' and ''probably for the best'' (WTF)
Now, this week I've had to deal with a few announcements. One lesbian couple who miscarried the same time as me, fell pregnant on her third cycle after loss.
Another who moaned at me that her husband never finished inside her, both got their that day. To top that off a british tv soap (Eastenders) told the story of an actor who recently found out she was 5 months pregnant. That very evening (and tipping me over the edge) I have an app on my phone, whisper it's called. I had a notification someone had whispered something about 'pregnant' and 'husband'. I swiped it too quickly to see exactly what was said.
I feel like such a bitter person now, people announce their pregnancy and I ought to be happy FOR THEM. Not angry. A friend fell pregnant whilst I was miscarrying too, another friend had her baby, another friend had her baby the same day as all these announcements.
One woman who found out her the same day as me in February is now 25 weeks. I sent her a message, stupidly asking how the pregnancy was going. She replied some garbage about how her boyfriend of only 3 months left her, blah blah (I think she's 17, she's very young) and my bitter reply was 'at least you've still got your baby'.
How could I say such a nasty, bitter thing back? Why couldn't I be supportive of her (I've removed her as a friend as I couldn't bear the bump shots), I've been there with my last baby, the Father left me at 29 weeks. I know what it's like yet I couldn't resist one ounce of bitterness to wish her well and that it'll all be okay. She's young, she's pregnant with her first and she's probably scared.
Who am I turning into? I feel really down about it all at the minute, everything, everyone everywhere is either pregnant or giving birth and here I am broken hearted and empty womb.
Sorry for the vent, I just feel like I am not me anymore, the last miscarriage is too much to bare and that I am changing into a very nasty bitter person.