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How do you handle it when your best friend hates and mocks the name you chose for your baby?
To say that she's hurting my feelings at this point is a gross understatement. Most recently she gestured like she was calling a dog using the name I picked for my baby.
No one else has a problem with the name, everyone likes it. But my "best" friend says there's a reason why it's not overly used. She has no children and doesn't plan for any. But her "strong" opinion is starting to make me angry. What should I do?
ETA: LilMiss, it's sad, because she HAS put me off with the name. Her constant discontent with it got me rethinking and even viewing the name more negatively. I don't think that's fair! We're adults! I'm 35, she's 40! This is so childish. I never expected such a reaction, let alone from my #1 friend. It just hurts.
ETA: Onetwothree, the name this post is about was Phoebe. I know it's uncommon and I know that it hasn't gotten many votes in my polls. But it just felt like the right name. Since then, however, we found we are actually having a baby boy. Now I told people I have Nicholas picked out but since have fell in love with the name Keaton. But I do NOT plan on telling anyone about Keaton as a prospective name because of how my friend acted over Phoebe.
pinkpickle, I think you're right about her feeling that she has place to feel so strongly. But she's not considering my feelings in it. It should be obvious to her that I picked a name I love whatever the reasons. She's not generally hurtful toward me about anything, I'm usually the "honest" one but I don't go overboard like she has with this. Loathing the name is one thing, mocking it is crossing a line in my opinion. I just have gone from hurt to angry about it.
Thank you everyone! I appreciate the support.
To say that she's hurting my feelings at this point is a gross understatement. Most recently she gestured like she was calling a dog using the name I picked for my baby.
No one else has a problem with the name, everyone likes it. But my "best" friend says there's a reason why it's not overly used. She has no children and doesn't plan for any. But her "strong" opinion is starting to make me angry. What should I do?
ETA: LilMiss, it's sad, because she HAS put me off with the name. Her constant discontent with it got me rethinking and even viewing the name more negatively. I don't think that's fair! We're adults! I'm 35, she's 40! This is so childish. I never expected such a reaction, let alone from my #1 friend. It just hurts.
ETA: Onetwothree, the name this post is about was Phoebe. I know it's uncommon and I know that it hasn't gotten many votes in my polls. But it just felt like the right name. Since then, however, we found we are actually having a baby boy. Now I told people I have Nicholas picked out but since have fell in love with the name Keaton. But I do NOT plan on telling anyone about Keaton as a prospective name because of how my friend acted over Phoebe.
pinkpickle, I think you're right about her feeling that she has place to feel so strongly. But she's not considering my feelings in it. It should be obvious to her that I picked a name I love whatever the reasons. She's not generally hurtful toward me about anything, I'm usually the "honest" one but I don't go overboard like she has with this. Loathing the name is one thing, mocking it is crossing a line in my opinion. I just have gone from hurt to angry about it.
Thank you everyone! I appreciate the support.