My due date is coming up :(

[MrsHopefull]

My due date would have been July 18th. The closer it gets the more sad I am. I am not over it, I won't ever be over it, but I thot I was dealing with it. I am a mess. No one understands, no one considers it a death. But it was, that was my baby. I should be big and waddling and getting ready for a baby. instead I'm over here still ttc and wondering if I'll have an only child. It seems like having babies comes so easily for everyone in my life except for me.
Sorry, but no one in my real life understands. People really just want you to get over it and move on, don't talk about it, it wasn't really a baby.

 

[mrs unicorn]

Mrs H. I read somewhere that the grief associated with a mc is the loneliest kind of grief. It's very true and I wish more people could understand it. Unfortunately I've found that it's only the people who have gone through it themselves who understand just how dreadful it is. I'm so sorry for your loss and that you are still TTC. Some months are harder than others and I'm sure this one will be very difficult for you. I have the same thoughts, I'd have a lovely big bump by now but instead I'm here, empty. My EDD was September, a couple of weeks after my own birthday. I don't think I'll even mention it to friends and family because they won't get it and will probably just think 'aren't you over it yet' and I can't stand that. I don't even talk to them about it anymore, I find the ladies here are far more understanding because they are going through it themselves.

Have you made any plans for the day? I've spoken to a few women who marked the day by doing something they enjoy. Going for walk or out for cake or simply lighting a candle and being a alone with their thoughts. I'm thinking I might do all 3, although I imagine I'll cry most of the day so maybe I'll stay in. Just let yourself grieve, feel sad, angry or whatever it is. It's totally understandable and perfectly normal to feel the way you are. I just wish it wasn't so painful

 

[Mummy2Corban]

I'm so sorry lovely. I think anniversary stir up lots of new and old feelings. It is tough for others to understand... They just don't get it. Lots of us feel this way. Like the last poster said do what you feel to mark the day. If it's cry then do that. Don't be hard on yourself. Take care xx

 

[Trying4first1]

I know how you feel. I have yet another due date coming up. Last time, once the date came and went I felt much better and I just accepted that I wouldn't be pregnant again for it. I am getting my head Ito that place again now. I don't think it's going to happen beforehand as I never fall again quickly after a loss.
Feel how you want to feel. If you need to cry then cry. If you wake up on the day and feel alright then that is ok too. Any emotion is valid after a loss. Xx