Deutschette
Mum of 1!
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Last night, my mum, who lives back in my home town in Arkansas, wrote an e-mail to me about a box of things she was going to be shipping over for LO and also said that any other items that don't fit in the box, she'll be bringing over in May. MAY?!
Recap: my mum originally wanted to come and stay here for a month, starting in the week I was due to have LO. She expected to even be in the birthing room, which I immediately said I was against. I told her not to come so early because 1.) we wanted some time with our daughter, 2.) what if I'm overdue? and 3.) it's common in Germany to spend up to a week at the hospital after giving birth.
So, apparently, she thought May was enough time, despite being due the 22nd of April. I had left my instant messenger on accidentally, so she started writing to me shortly after we had read her e-mail. I could tell my husband was fuming and took the chance to chat with her.
He flat out told her that we don't want her to come here because we need some time with our daughter, that the birthing experience is something strictly between the mother and father and that if she comes over here so early, that wouldn't be fair to my father (who owns a landscaping business and can't come over until the weather is cold). My mum is generally pushy and ignores my own requests, but really seemed to get things through her head this time after hearing things from my husband, despite attempting to give us a guilt trip about not being able to see her granddaughter during the conversation. He told her not to come until at least Autumn, which would give us some time to ourselves and would also give my father a chance to come, as well.
I thanked my husband so many times after the conversation was over. I'm rewarding him by letting him sleep in as long as he likes today without nagging one bit. I love my husband.
Recap: my mum originally wanted to come and stay here for a month, starting in the week I was due to have LO. She expected to even be in the birthing room, which I immediately said I was against. I told her not to come so early because 1.) we wanted some time with our daughter, 2.) what if I'm overdue? and 3.) it's common in Germany to spend up to a week at the hospital after giving birth.
So, apparently, she thought May was enough time, despite being due the 22nd of April. I had left my instant messenger on accidentally, so she started writing to me shortly after we had read her e-mail. I could tell my husband was fuming and took the chance to chat with her.
He flat out told her that we don't want her to come here because we need some time with our daughter, that the birthing experience is something strictly between the mother and father and that if she comes over here so early, that wouldn't be fair to my father (who owns a landscaping business and can't come over until the weather is cold). My mum is generally pushy and ignores my own requests, but really seemed to get things through her head this time after hearing things from my husband, despite attempting to give us a guilt trip about not being able to see her granddaughter during the conversation. He told her not to come until at least Autumn, which would give us some time to ourselves and would also give my father a chance to come, as well.
I thanked my husband so many times after the conversation was over. I'm rewarding him by letting him sleep in as long as he likes today without nagging one bit. I love my husband.