My mom fed my 2 month old mashed potatoes

[MelliPaige]

I told her specifically not to but as soon as I turned my back she had it in his mouth.
Yesterday he had a tummy ache and spit up a few times which is unusual for him and today he's almost inconsolable..I've finally settled him down with a right swaddle (which he's hated since 2 weeks old)
Will this last forever?

Btw I'm super pissed off because everyone who witnessed it is saying its my fault he's crying because he's breastfed and I ate onions..I eat onions all the time and this is the first time his hole life he's acted like this

 

[zorak]

If my Mum did that she wouldn't get near my son again.

 

[catty]

If my mum did this id be having serious words and wouldnt feel comfortable with her having any one to one time with him. Its only now that lo is 9 months that my mum will sneak him something like a little bit of a biscuit, if she dared give something without asking me at 2 months id be soooo furious. He could choke, his digestive system is not ready and she is not his mum

 

[britt1986]

That is not even right. Poor baby. His little tummy can't no where near handle that. I would be fuming!

 

[Pink Petals]

Why the hell do grandparents think they have the right to feed the LOs what they want, when they want?! It's like my MIL continually asking if she can feed LO icecream. The asking started at 4 months and now that LO is on solids, it has started up again. And she gets sooo hurt and upset when we say no.

Personally, if my mother did that, I would put her in her place. Potatoes are not good for 2 month olds. It is a matter of LO's health and you don't want it happening again!

 

[cherrylips100]

I would print off some guidelines to show her that there are proper reasons why a two month old should not be eating yet. I think a lot of older generations put later weaning down to 'paranoid young mums' rather than official recommendations. I'm still just giving milk and get a few raised eyebrows.

 

[bcos21]

He's uncomfortable because you ate onions LOL. I've read a lot of guidelines on food since i breast feed too and if i understand correctly your diet isn't likely to affect baby (of course it CAN but typically doesn't...) I eat Indian food all the tube no prob

 

[Amygdala]

My mum would not get a chance to do that a second time! It's extremely disrespectful to you as his mother and it's downright dangerous for him. His gut isn't closed yet. Feeding him solids now can cause him all sorts of digestive problems later in life. Not to even mention the fact that the mash was most likely salted and salt can be very damaging at that age. Plus anything but liquids at that age is a choking hazard. I agree with a pp, print off some feeding advice or give her a book on infant feeding and make it very clear that you will not tolerate people going against your wishes when the health and wellbeing of your child is concerned.

 

[Mummy Bean]

Like the other ladies I would be fuming and not be letting her near my LO any time soon. She completely under mined you doing something your specifically asked her not to as well as doing something that is potentially harmful your child.

Like some one else said I would print the current guidelines off and give them to her, and state that until she has read them, fully understood them and willing to adhere to them she is not allowed near him again.

I am sure you little one will be fine, just might have a tummy ache for a few days.

 

[Eleanor ace]

Urgh I'd be raging. If it was just a misguided act then fair enough, I'd be annoyed but let it go after explaining why she shouldn't do it. But for you to tell her not to and her to do it- unacceptable. I agree with printing info off (if she's likely to read it) and hold off on letting her have any unsupervised access to your LO until you feel confident she will follow your requests.

 

[girlinyork]

The poorly tum is almost definitely from the potatoes. Potatoes are very starchy and hard to digest for tiny tums. He will almost definitely be fine but your mum needs putting in her place!!

 

[Yipee]

That's just crazy! I wouldn't even give my 6-month-old mashed potatoes (we are just barely now starting on some mashed banana). I'm guessing these were even grown-up mashed potatoes with milk, butter, salt, etc? Not just plain mushed up potato, which would be bad enough?

One thing I wanted to mention though; are you sure he swallowed any? I'm thinking it would be pretty hard to get a 2-month-old to swallow food, but if your mom had enough time alone with him, I'm sure she could have gotten some of it down.

I would be so angry though, and probably wouldn't ever leave my baby alone with that person again.

 

[MelliPaige]

Yep..butter, milk, salt everything. And he must have swallowed some because that would be the only different thing and my boy is miserable

 

[Jes.shortcake]

I would be pissed! It's one thing to give an older baby bites of your food here and there..but 2 months? Absolutely not.

We didn't start giving solids till 6 months but I remember when he was 4 months I kept hearing comments about it. But he was a preemie and just wasn't ready.

 

[Sarah125]

My mum would not get a chance to do that a second time! It's extremely disrespectful to you as his mother and it's downright dangerous for him. His gut isn't closed yet. Feeding him solids now can cause him all sorts of digestive problems later in life. Not to even mention the fact that the mash was most likely salted and salt can be very damaging at that age. Plus anything but liquids at that age is a choking hazard. I agree with a pp, print off some feeding advice or give her a book on infant feeding and make it very clear that you will not tolerate people going against your wishes when the health and wellbeing of your child is concerned.

Exactly this. I'm sure your LO will be fine though, besides the sore tummy, as it would have been such a little bit of food that got swallowed so try not to worry Just don't give her the chance to do it again.

 

[steph.]

The tummy ache will be without a doubt from mashed potatoes. I gave my 6 months old solids for the first time earlier this week (baby rice), and she was miserable for 2 days, to the point that I called a helpline and almost took her to a&e. After she pood she was fine.

I would be angry, but what is done is done. Tell her not to do it again, supervise her when there is food around, and move on. I think the older generation do things they used to do because they think there is no harm. Not out of malice.

 

[sue_88]

But it is malicious to do something specifically asked not to do!

Your poor boy, OP, I hope he's feeling a little better. Early weaning can be so dangerous

I'd have gone nuts on her, my mum wouldn't dream of undermining my parenting or feeding my LO something that's she's not asked me about. It's just basic respect!

 

[steph.]

By malicious I meant she didnt do it with intent of hurting baby.

 

[Nela]

Yeah, I'd be livid. I'd have taken him and walked out. I don't care if others think that's overreacting but no one will disrespect me that way and disrespect something I said for my child. I mean, seriously? Poor kid, probably has a nasty tummy ache. Can't digest that, never mind the risk of choking. Unbelievable. I don't care if she didn't mean to harm him, if she chose to go right over my head, she'd have a lot of apologizing to do and I couldn't trust her alone with him.

 

[Bevziibubble]

I would be so mad! It wasn't her place to feed your baby mashed potatoes. A baby's first solids should be an event for the parents and shouldn't have the moment taken away by your mum. And at two months old is just awful. Aside from the fact he's not ready for them yet, it's a choking hazard.


I hope your LO is better soon