My name is Lauren.

[Lets do this]

I'm 16 years old & just about 6 weeks pregnant. I really need some advice. When I told the father all he did was yell. He told me to get an abortion & when I refused he told me that he wouldn't take any part in this. About 2 weeks ago I called & told him that I got an abortion just so he wouldn't stress over it. The way I see it, he has the opportunity to finish out high school normally; he isn't forced to face this in the same way I am. Only my best friend knows & I plan on telling my dad next week. Everything is so rough right now but I'm so excited about this baby. I already picked out names. I'm just so afraid of miscarrying because this baby is all I have, & I know having this baby is the right path for me. I just need to hear from someone who's been through this before.

 

[Abbys_Mummy]

hi hun i know this is a hard time but you really need to be honest with everyone about this you are going to need all the help you can get as for the father it takes 2 to tango there is no reason he shouldn`t have to deal with this the same way you do fair is fair. Please feel free to PM me if you want to chat

 

[Aidan's Mummy]

hi hun

i know its hard but you really do need to tell him you are keeping the baby cos he is gunna have a bit of a shock when he sees you with a bump. he cant force you to have an abortion hunni and i admire you for going through with it, im 16 and nearly 21 weeks pregnant with a lil boy and im calling him aidan at first i was thinking about an abortion but i didnt and now i love this lil man inside me more than anything. try not to worry about misscarraige hun quite alot happen at 2-3 weeks and as you get further on the risk of misscarriage reduces more and more. chin up hun and if you ever need to talk just let me know
xx

 

[xarlenex]

Hey, congrats on your pregnancy I do think you'd be better telling the father the truth. He might, as time passes, realise all those things he said are wrong, it was just a shock at first. Theres also the fact that this kid will have a whole other family, maybe wanting to love and spoil him/her. Let him know the truth, just tell him you couldnt go through with it, it wasnt right for you, and then its up to him if he wants to step up xx

 

[Jayden'sMummy]

I'm 16 years old & just about 6 weeks pregnant. I really need some advice. When I told the father all he did was yell. He told me to get an abortion & when I refused he told me that he wouldn't take any part in this. About 2 weeks ago I called & told him that I got an abortion just so he wouldn't stress over it. The way I see it, he has the opportunity to finish out high school normally; he isn't forced to face this in the same way I am. Only my best friend knows & I plan on telling my dad next week. Everything is so rough right now but I'm so excited about this baby. I already picked out names. I'm just so afraid of miscarrying because this baby is all I have, & I know having this baby is the right path for me. I just need to hear from someone who's been through this before.

First of congratulations on your pregnancy [an being happy about it, not every 16year old would be!]
I'm 16 an I've got a 12 day old little boy who i absolutely adore he is the best thing thats ever happened to me.
I know how you feel about not wanting the babies dad to know because same thing happened with me, but to them its just the shock, don't forget it is a really big thing an takes a while to come around to the idea. He will find out one way or another and it will be ten times worse because he thinks you got an abortion. My babies dad ignored me right through my pregnancy but now he couldn't be happier that he is a daddy an is very proud of his little man now that hes over the shock.
Good luck with telling your family, an with the rest of your pregnancy [an don't worry, its normal to be scared about the 'whats ifs' while your pregnant so just take it one day at a time an enjoy it]
Here if ya ever need a talk or summit xxxx

 

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[polo_princess]

I agree i really think you need to tell the father. You cannot bring his child into the world and lie about it i think thats very wrong.

Just because he does not want the baby or any involvement doesnt mean that he doesnt have a right to know.

Good luck with your pregnancy!!

 

[nikky0907]

I have to agree with telling the father.

You see...he doesn't have a chance to finish high school normally.Because he is responsible for this baby too.This is his consequence too.
So he shouldn't just go on living his life like nothing happened.

He at least needs to have some financial responsibility...and that something you can force him to do.There is absolutly no reason for you to go through it alone finance wise.

Good luck and have a happy and healthy 9 months.

 

[leeanne]

Congratulations on your pregnancy and as well on deciding to keep your baby.

Like others, I would have to say that I agree that you should tell the father.

 

[brownhairedmom]

Yep, tell him!! Its the best thing to do. You shouldn't be the only one being responsible for this baby

 

[lily24]

I think i agreee with everyone, tell the father.

You sound really mature and have made a big decision on your own, which can be the most difficult and stressful thing ever.
am sure you will find your own way whatever he does/says

Good luck in the future

 

[Lets do this]

The only reason that I'm reluctant to tell him is that we weren't dating when everything happened & he's actually involved with someone else right now. Plus, he lives in a different city than I do so he won't have any way to find out on his own unless someone tells him.

 

[lily24]

The only reason that I'm reluctant to tell him is that we weren't dating when everything happened & he's actually involved with someone else right now. Plus, he lives in a different city than I do so he won't have any way to find out on his own unless someone tells him.

At least if you tell him, he knows he has a child. He has that right at the end of the day, he cant turn round and say he didnt know in years to come. And if he doesnt want to know, fine! thats his loss.
But at least you can say u tried...
it may take a load off your mind knowing that you have informed him.

Good luck

 

[chrissy&marty]

hey, yeah i agree with the others, i think you should tell him about the fact you are keeping the baby, say to him that if he doesnt want anything to do with it you dont mind but give him the choice, u never knw he might decide in a few mounths time that he would like to help you and get involved.

hope everything goes ok and feel free to Pm me if you want to talk xx

 

[jobee2222]

hey girl, congrats on the pregnancy and dnt worry about miscarrying, the important thing is that you stay calm and happy. As for the father of the baby he has no right to tell you what to do, but there's always a very real possibility that he might not be there for you and the baby. Not to bring you down babe but you may have to picture your life with you and the baby alone for awhile. But dont worry you seem like a strong girl and you'll get through this either way for baby's sake.

good luck

xxx

 

[CareBear]

I agree with the others that you need to tell the father he has a right to know and take responsibility for the fact that his baby is coming into the world, it doesn't need to wreck his or your life - you both will be able to finish school

 

[Blah11]

I think it was a bad idea telling him you got an abortion.. it just means you're going to need to tell him all over again that you're still pregnant. I'm 20 and my dad isn't happy either but it's my decision and what I do with my body is no concern of his. However, I don't live with my dad and he doesn't contribute much to my life. Do you live with yours? If you do then I'm afraid he is going to have a part in you and the babys life so you need to tell him ASAP so you can work things out.

 

[Blah11]

Oh for gods sake, i thought you said your father.. my bad.