I know where your coming from too Laura!
OH is cr@p with the newborn/baby stage...its only now that DD is talking and playing etc that he joins in with her and helps me out, more doing the fun stuff though...although hes great with bath times now as he will play with her in the bath for ages and it gives me half an hour to do nothing...thats the only half an hour I get tho!!
He hardly does anything with Theo, he will make him laugh and hold him occasionaly, but he soon finds an excuse to hand him back then dissapears upstairs or outside for a cig
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Hes never got up with either of them in the night, not once! Apart from the time he had him overnight when I had gone out...but even then he moaned & was ringing me up asking when I was coming home etc
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I think men really don't understand how hard it is to look after a newborn/baby/toddler...although Rob has admitted I deserve a medal sometimes, he stil doesn't understand fully though....us mummys are on call 24/7, my OH gets 2 days off a week and his evenings to goto football or out to his mates to play the ps3 etc....I have to ASK if I can goto the shop, or nip to my friends for a coffee, he just goes out and doesn't even have to think about the kids once!
Sorry going off on one there...I could go on all day! I do love my OH but sometimes I wish he would be abit more helpful with the kids, so I totally know where your coming from!!
Me and OH have little chats every now and then about what we want each other to do and I always say I wish he would help out more, tbh it does make a difference, he will help out a little more but it doesnt last long LOL...
Anyway I hope he pulls his finger out soon, it might all just be a little daunting for him at the moment...maybe try sying things like, ooh do u want to change this nappy, or ask him to give her a bottle while you go have a shower etc...just find loads of little excuses to make sure he helps out more!!!
Good luck
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