my partners showing no interest. dont no what to think

[hope88]

Hi ladies me and my partner have had 2 previous mc's one at 5 weeks and one at 7 weeks when i was pregnant with those 2 pregnancys he was always mentioning it and talking to my belly and talking about names and asking how we are etc. Im 5+1 this time hes not interested what so ever hes not once asked me how far along i am hes not interested in anything i have to say related to this pregnancy. My midwife contacted me today to book my first apointment i told my partner and he just said oh and carryed on with what he was doing he didnt even ask me when it is. Id had enough today and said to him that he hasnt even asked me how far along am i, and hes got in a big huff and said fine how far along are you?, so i told him and he didnt say anything just carryed on watching tv. Its like he thinks im going to lose this one as well so whats the point. But its just really upsetting as im feeling like im in this on my own. Sorry for going on ladies just dont have anyone else to talk to

 

[lch28]

Hey honey. I am thinking that maybe he is just scared to get excited/attached to the baby. I know that must hurt you, and i am sure that everything will be okay this time. I bet once you get farther along he will get excited. Perhaps he just is hurting from the other mc's and doesn't want to be disappointed?

 

[hanfromman]

It just sounds to me like he's scared and hurting. Men can often struggle to show their emotions and he's probably got it all bottled up inside, and so he's just kind of shut down! He probably doesn't want to burden you with his worries and probably doesn't realise that he's really upsetting you. He just sounds scared.
I had a MMC and am pregnant again, and while my DH is still very interested, he's refusing to get excited, and your husband just sounds like he's doing the same thing but a bit more severely. Also men can feel really helpless during pregnancy and he's probably just trying to block it all out, in case it goes wrong again.
Try talking to him and explaining that you understand how he feels, but that he can talk to you about it and hearing how he is scared won't make you scared or upset you or anything Maybe after the first scan he will open up a bit more

 

[jessy1101]

Hi sweety! First of all congrats on the pregnancy and i'm sure ur beany will be fine!

As for ur partner like everyone else said i'm pretty sure he's terrified of getting attached again. He's not actualy dealing with that in the best way tho but men pretty much always have trouble expressing themselves compared to us.

I had my mc at 11 weeks and we we're both devestated. When the dr told us it was in such a brutal way i started crying so bad and blamed myself. My DH started to cry too and gave the dr soo much shit it was crazy.

When i got my BFP this time and told him he just sat down and looked stunned. So naturaly i started to cry and said that he wasnt happy and didnt want the baby and etc. And then he turns around and I saw that he was crying. He said that he had no idea what to do and felt lost because of last time. That it broke me so bad and he couldnt see me go threw that again. Once i got an 8 week u/s and saw and heard the heartbeat with him he jumped right back into that whole gaga baby mode.

I promiss that once u get the reassurance that everything is perfect with ur bean he will jump right back into the same mode as he was the last 2 pregnancies. Men are just...weird LOL like that some times.

 

[hope88]

Thanks for all the replys i think u were all right i just thimk he doesnt want to get his hopes up and i feel alittle bad now for expecting him too i definently think things will be better when we get a scan which isnt till 12 weeks was hoping for a early scan but fingers crossed everything will be ok. Hope all u lovely ladies have a healthy and happy 9 months

 

[jessy1101]

Thanks for all the replys i think u were all right i just thimk he doesnt want to get his hopes up and i feel alittle bad now for expecting him too i definently think things will be better when we get a scan which isnt till 12 weeks was hoping for a early scan but fingers crossed everything will be ok. Hope all u lovely ladies have a healthy and happy 9 months

Pfff hunny with all the whack hormones u got going on i think it's perfectly normal to be uber sensitve. God knows I am. I've officialy turned into a big cry baby LOLOL