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So, I am the mother of 3 children. 2 biological. 1 step with my partner of 16 years. My eldest would be my step daughter Kaylee, 22, and then my 18 year old AnaLisa and my youngest turns 17 coming up in June.
AnaLisa's biological father has not been a part of her life for years, upon his own choice. And my husband, has been her father since she was 5 months old. She is practically the only dad that she knows. And Joshua would be my child with my husband.
Kaylee's biological mother committed suicide in 2001, just a year after sending Kaylee to live with us permanently in Arizona. Kaylee has never been close or tried to develop a relationship with either of her biological parents. Upon coming to Arizona she clung to me. She refused to refer to Bruce, my husband, as her father and never had a relationship with him. Unlike AnaLisa, which took to him rather well. She made little cards and books about the Best Daddy Ever, growing up, making cards and pictures for him. She went to car shows with him because he liked it and she took to it too. She always wanted to learn new things from her father. He taught her everything.
Kaylee and AnaLisa were relatively close. Not as close as Kaylee and Joshua but close enough. Anyways, Kaylee moved out at the age of 19 to move to New Mexico to live with her my sister, because she couldn't handle the rules and regulations of the household with us. Then she moved out of my sister's house when she didn't like it there either. And she moved in with her boyfriend Matthew.
Well, AnaLisa of course stuck by her dad always. In July AnaLisa at the age of 17 moved out, for reasons I will not specify, but she remained close to the both of us. Unlike Kaylee who cut off relations with all of us but AnaLisa. Kaylee apparently was bad-mouthing Her father and I. And referred to me as manipulative and told AnaLisa she would pay good money to see Bruce buried alive. I confronted Kaylee once about this and she didn't deny any of it.
AnaLisa had the final straw with Kaylee in early January and told Kaylee to stay out of the family's life because what Kaylee was doing and saying was not what family did and referred to her as a "ding-dong b*tch" But she pretty much made it clear that she didn't tolerate Kaylee's ways.
I have cut off ties with Kaylee. And my husband did too up until recently which is where the problem lies. Kaylee called up my husband recently trying to develop a relationship with him and AnaLisa disapproves especially because of the fact that AnaLisa has heard all Kaylee called Bruce. Bruce has now seemingly taken to believe that AnaLisa is a liar and that Kaylee is the one being truthful although we both had proof from Kaylee's own mouth of what she had said, proving AnaLisa was honest.
Well, last night while AnaLisa was visiting Bruce was on the phone with Kaylee, AnaLisa was prepping to head back to her place and Bruce barely acknowledged or said bye to her and referred to Kaylee as "princess and sweetie" AnaLisa's nicknames growing up from him. Well. AnaLisa did not like that AT ALL. She was hysterical and angry. She called Kaylee and told her to leave her family alone and that Bruce was HER dad, not Kaylee's and my husband is trying to convince her that he is father to all of his 3 kids. But AnaLisa doesn't seem to agree. Bruce told AnaLisa that Kaylee was revealing my past history of cheating to her and is now finally getting the truth from someone, although AnaLisa before had tried to tell him even with substantial to validate my affairs (I am ashamed of them) but he said that his "flesh and blood" is giving him the truth and he has to believe her. AnaLisa feels betrayed and angry, because he said Biological meant sh!t at one point when it came down to it because her b.f. didn't want to be apart of her life. And now Bruce seems to be changing his mind.
She is still beaten up pretty bad emotionally over Bruce's remark. I am just wondering what I should do for my daughter or if she is wrong? I don't believe she is, but I am at a loss for words now.... Help?
AnaLisa's biological father has not been a part of her life for years, upon his own choice. And my husband, has been her father since she was 5 months old. She is practically the only dad that she knows. And Joshua would be my child with my husband.
Kaylee's biological mother committed suicide in 2001, just a year after sending Kaylee to live with us permanently in Arizona. Kaylee has never been close or tried to develop a relationship with either of her biological parents. Upon coming to Arizona she clung to me. She refused to refer to Bruce, my husband, as her father and never had a relationship with him. Unlike AnaLisa, which took to him rather well. She made little cards and books about the Best Daddy Ever, growing up, making cards and pictures for him. She went to car shows with him because he liked it and she took to it too. She always wanted to learn new things from her father. He taught her everything.
Kaylee and AnaLisa were relatively close. Not as close as Kaylee and Joshua but close enough. Anyways, Kaylee moved out at the age of 19 to move to New Mexico to live with her my sister, because she couldn't handle the rules and regulations of the household with us. Then she moved out of my sister's house when she didn't like it there either. And she moved in with her boyfriend Matthew.
Well, AnaLisa of course stuck by her dad always. In July AnaLisa at the age of 17 moved out, for reasons I will not specify, but she remained close to the both of us. Unlike Kaylee who cut off relations with all of us but AnaLisa. Kaylee apparently was bad-mouthing Her father and I. And referred to me as manipulative and told AnaLisa she would pay good money to see Bruce buried alive. I confronted Kaylee once about this and she didn't deny any of it.
AnaLisa had the final straw with Kaylee in early January and told Kaylee to stay out of the family's life because what Kaylee was doing and saying was not what family did and referred to her as a "ding-dong b*tch" But she pretty much made it clear that she didn't tolerate Kaylee's ways.
I have cut off ties with Kaylee. And my husband did too up until recently which is where the problem lies. Kaylee called up my husband recently trying to develop a relationship with him and AnaLisa disapproves especially because of the fact that AnaLisa has heard all Kaylee called Bruce. Bruce has now seemingly taken to believe that AnaLisa is a liar and that Kaylee is the one being truthful although we both had proof from Kaylee's own mouth of what she had said, proving AnaLisa was honest.
Well, last night while AnaLisa was visiting Bruce was on the phone with Kaylee, AnaLisa was prepping to head back to her place and Bruce barely acknowledged or said bye to her and referred to Kaylee as "princess and sweetie" AnaLisa's nicknames growing up from him. Well. AnaLisa did not like that AT ALL. She was hysterical and angry. She called Kaylee and told her to leave her family alone and that Bruce was HER dad, not Kaylee's and my husband is trying to convince her that he is father to all of his 3 kids. But AnaLisa doesn't seem to agree. Bruce told AnaLisa that Kaylee was revealing my past history of cheating to her and is now finally getting the truth from someone, although AnaLisa before had tried to tell him even with substantial to validate my affairs (I am ashamed of them) but he said that his "flesh and blood" is giving him the truth and he has to believe her. AnaLisa feels betrayed and angry, because he said Biological meant sh!t at one point when it came down to it because her b.f. didn't want to be apart of her life. And now Bruce seems to be changing his mind.
She is still beaten up pretty bad emotionally over Bruce's remark. I am just wondering what I should do for my daughter or if she is wrong? I don't believe she is, but I am at a loss for words now.... Help?