My sister is having a baby and I wanna scream

[kellze]

It started with the sippy cup scandal. She says how unreasonable it is that mums are too lazy to watch baby drink from a normal cup and that her mum managed to watch her as a baby. I'm a bit because she basically just called me lazy and useless because I use a sippy cup for my children. (Well cleaned I might add) but I have better things to do than make sure baby doesn't toss her entire drink all over the place.

Plus.....she is not her mother, nowhere near as capable and she has gone all PFB even before the PFB is born. I just wanna scream at her that she is demented. But, we have a strained relationship because I don't take any f her crap ever and she hates that.

I don't want to say it out loud but dear god she is in for a great time. Her baby is going to be vegan and never use a sippy cup and I am sure it will only fart rainbows.


Rant over. Sorry ladies. X

 

[george83]

Ha ha I'm sorry your feeling it atm. I've lots of friends who are having their first babies - and not for one second do I think I'm doing a great job or that I was any different when I was expecting my first - but I love hearing the idealistic things they come out with. I'd love to live in a perfect world

 

[RainbowDrop_x]

We're all perfect parents until we have children.

The shock will hit her full force and if I were you I would sit back and enjoy it when it unfolds

 

[AP]

bookmark this thread and laugh at her this time next year

 

[SarahBear]

I sure hope she doesn't feed her baby vegan! It doesn't provide proper nutrition. In terms of the sippy cup, her arrogance around it is rude, but it certainly isn't unreasonable to never use a sippy cup. Personally, I don't bother with them.

 

[Spudtastic]

I had a friend who said her child was not going to watch more than two hours of TV per week max. They came to stay when the child was three and she had her own laptop to watch her favourite dvds and yes she watched more than 3 hours of cartoons per week Lol.

 

[LittleLala]

What the heck is wrong with a sippy cup?? It's a great transitioning tool from a bottle to a cup. My baby wants to drink out of a big boy cup sooooo badly, but that would result in water EVERYWHERE haha.

I had a friend who was CONSTANTLY talking down her SIL's (great) parenting. She used the phrase "when I have a baby, I won't let my children do that" A LOT. Well, jokes on her, because she gave birth to the antichrist himself seriously, her kid is just THE WORST. I can't help but laugh and think that she gets what she deserves for being so ridiculously judgemental

 

[Blu10]

She clearly hasnt got light coloured carpets.... she will soon come to her senses!!! Oh and the bit about farting rainbows made me spit my tea out hahahaha 😂😂

 

[SarahBear]

What the heck is wrong with a sippy cup?? It's a great transitioning tool from a bottle to a cup. My baby wants to drink out of a big boy cup sooooo badly, but that would result in water EVERYWHERE haha.

I think the problems with sippy cups happen when they are not treated as a transitioning tool. Supposedly, they can cause dental issues when misused and over used. From my perspective though, one thing I don't like about them is that they're supposed to be a transitional tool that you only use for a few months... I don't want to buy something like that that is only supposed to be used for a few months. I want something that will last. My other issue with it is that it doesn't actually work toward teaching a child how to drink from a normal cup. I tried a sippy cup with my first before I "knew better." It was one that was poorly designed for a baby or older toddler, so we didn't try using it for very long when she was really little, but we did use it a little bit while traveling around when she was an older toddler. We lost it though. We aren't going to bother replacing it.

 

[yazzy]

It's never the same when you have a child...lots of great ideas go out of the window lol!
However, the comment about being vegan...If this is how your sister eats then there is no harm bringing a child up this way. If the diet is well rounded it is actually perfectly fine.

 

[Eleonora]

I thought I was being environmentally virtuous to bring a re-usable, non-leaky sippy cup to the park when I went out with my toddler. Am I supposed to buy multiple little bottles of pure alpine water and carry a proper glass with me?

 

[SarahBear]

I thought I was being environmentally virtuous to bring a re-usable, non-leaky sippy cup to the park when I went out with my toddler. Am I supposed to buy multiple little bottles of pure alpine water and carry a proper glass with me?

When I go to the park, I usually just bring my water bottle. In the car, I'll often bring my water bottle and a stainless steel cup for Violet to use. Violet has been able to use the water bottle for some time now, but it can be a bit cumbersome in the car when full. When I traveled with her as a toddler, I did have a sippy cup for her... until I lost it... then I bought her her own water bottle... which broke. This summer when I travel with my kids, they will be 3 years 8 months and 1 year 3 months. I do not plan to buy (and lose) another sippy cup. I will, however, bring a water bottle for myself and share the water with my kids. I'll pour a bit of water in a cup or let my older one drink straight from the bottle. Who knows how much my younger one will even drink. I think Violet relied solely on nursing for hydration at that age... she went on a bit of a cup-strike shortly after a year. Taking a sippy cup to the park certainly is convenient, but there are other options that work. It just depends on how you want to choose to go about it.

 

[loeylo]

A vegan diet is perfectly okay, as long as its balanced. I'm not vegan, I am vegetarian, my partner eats meat, my wee one will probably get a mix of both until she is old enough to decode for herself.

She's only 4 months and uses a sippy cup for water. Sippy cups don't cause tooth decay, if you have a free flow style.

To the OP - I was also full of ideals before I had my baby. I swore no dummy. She's addicted! Lol

 

[minties]

Does a vegan diet exclude breast milk? No animals products, and we are animals.

 

[SarahBear]

Does a vegan diet exclude breast milk? No animals products, and we are animals.

It does not exclude human breastmilk. However, if you don't put certain nutrients into your body, they either aren't going to go into your milk or your body will leach them from your stores. Veganism and nursing is dangerous business...

 

[Kiwiberry]

No parent should ever criticize another parent unless of course there is abuse or neglect involved. As for how you parent, every parent does things differently and should not be judged on how they want to raise their child. There is not a lot of things I agree with, and things I wish I could do but don't when it comes to being a parent. However, if there is one thing I have learned it is to never judge each other. We all work hard as parents to do our best for our children and honestly that is all that matters. OP I am so sorry for how your sister treated you, and I hope that one day she can learn to drop the judgement and just be your sister.

One thing to remember, nobody is a perfect parent. No matter how they make it seem.

 

[Cjayne]

Mums are just like this before they have a baby. My sister was (and is) a nightmare.

My child won't watch any TV.

My child won't drink any juice, just water.

My child won't be clingy.

I won't pick my child up every time they cry.

Trust me - Over a year on, she's worse than me at ALL of those.. Whereas DS2 isn't clingy, doesn't even look at the TV and isn't clingy. I think Mums just think they know it all, until reality hits them. Don't take it to heart x

 

[catty]

Both of my children used sippy cups and both drink capably out of an open cup. If you want to buy something that will last you can just take the top off and there you have a perfectly good little cup or fun bath toy.
I only give open cups at mealtimes when I am hovering other than that they get straw cups in between meal times but it used to be sippys.

Oh iv met many of these people though, actually heaps. When I was getting my son off a dummy 'see that's exactly why I won't give a dummy look at the hell your going through now' well yes but I had 2.5 years of peaceful heaven beforehand (ok not heaven but it was a good soothing tool and very handy for many many situations)

 

[stickylizard]

Had to laugh at the farting rainbows! I use sippy cups to prevent spillages because we rent a house (though I only put water in them, I don't want any damp patches). A vegan diet is absolutely fine. You can get all your nutrients through plant based sources, I'm vegan and nursing and my baby is 1 year old and fine, shoot me 0:] "vegan" is more than just not eating animals and their biproducts but also to be cruelty free. Breastmilk is totally cruelty free and how nature intended. So, it is vegan :]

But the holier than thou attitude she has will drastically change, and if she thinks she can parent perfectly then she is only setting herself up to feel like a total failure when her kid throws a tantrum in the shop like all kids do!

As said before, just watch and giggle!

 

[wookie130]

You know, I'm not going to even bother sharing if I use sippy cups or open cups, or what I think of vegan-parenting, etc...

BECAUSE NONE OF THAT IS THE POINT! Frankly, I don't need to explain any of those mundane daily parenting choices to anyone. Someone's always going to critique them anyway, and at this point in the game, I don't have any time for that business. I just simply do as I do, and carry on.

The point is, is that the OP's sister is in for a rude awakening. There will come a point, when that baby will do some pretty gross (but hilarious) things, parenting in sweat pants happens (A LOT, if you're me, but yeah), there will be a lot of wayward excrement and urine, sippy cups will probably happen at some point (after round 8 of regular cup being tossed gleefully off the highchair), the kid may or may not eat Cheetos off the floor in the living room as the television blares the 3rd consecutive Peppa Pig episode, and he or she may body paint her vegan lunch all over herself 2-3 times a day, before the mother resorts to fish sticks, fruit pouches, and some type of non-vegan cracker item. There are times when that child may even *gasp* be breastfed while mother sits on the toilet in a sleep-deprived coma. It ALLLLLLL happens. And it's ALLLLLLLL okay.

Newborns, toddlers, and young children have a way of accentuating our imperfections. I say sit back, and enjoy how it all unfolds. It won't be necessary to tell her that you "told her so."