my story

[franky]

hi guys

i have been lurking for a few weeks and just wanted to share my experience. I miscarried at 9 weeks and 5 days on 20th feb, little nut had stopped growing at 8 weeks 3 days I went back to work a week and a half ago after having two weeks off and i still feel really down. i cant concentrate on work or anything else.

i am not sure if i even want to try again as i cant imagine going through that again! we havent been trying since the mc but we havent been using protection either so i am not sure what I will feel if i fall pg again!

it will be 4 weeks on friday since my mc and i am just waiting on the witch to show up.

i dont know why i am posting this but feel i needed to vent. i feel i need a good kick up the backside to get me feeling "normal" again

x

 

[Chilli]

Hi Franky,
Sounds like you've been very brave and had quite a hard time. I went through almost the same thing at the same time so just wanted to let you know you'rew not alone... and the confused, not being able to concentrate thing sounds completely normal to me. You don't need akick up the backside, you need lots of unconditional hugs....so I'm sending you one now

 

[mazza2003]

hi there. You dont need a kick up the backside just TLC. I know what you are going through. 3 weeks ago today i had what I thought was a mc. A week ago I found out I was still pregnant but it was ectopic.
I envisage that the pain will go on for a while, however I have great support from my oh and family. Do you have people who you can talk to?
I am so scared about trying again, but I want to have kids so I will, and this is what is keeping me going.
You need to try to find a focus, not neccesarily trying again, just something, anything to give you something to aim for.
I truly feel your pain and am thinking of you. Hugs XXXXXXX

 

[Abblebubba]

Didnt want to read a run, i understand what you are going through i misscarried in june at 12 weeks, and it took me months to even go outside, i think you are very brave, keep strong, my thoughts are with you xx

 

[chella]

hi guys

i have been lurking for a few weeks and just wanted to share my experience. I miscarried at 9 weeks and 5 days on 20th feb, little nut had stopped growing at 8 weeks 3 days I went back to work a week and a half ago after having two weeks off and i still feel really down. i cant concentrate on work or anything else.

i am not sure if i even want to try again as i cant imagine going through that again! we havent been trying since the mc but we havent been using protection either so i am not sure what I will feel if i fall pg again!

it will be 4 weeks on friday since my mc and i am just waiting on the witch to show up.

i dont know why i am posting this but feel i needed to vent. i feel i need a good kick up the backside to get me feeling "normal" again

x

Hi,

Just read ur story and i feel just the same luckily ive been signed of wrk for 2wks as i had an induced miscarriage last thursday at 8wks and its hard to function , not sure if ur the same but do u feel ok one minute then the next minute in tears at points of the day??

but thoughts are with u and hope that u do feel u again, but its hard' im also scared bout tryin again as we really dont want to go thru this again but i guess if i went on in life like that i guess ill never kno if i could hav completed my family, so have decided even though very scared that when the bleeds, etc stops and had a cycle we shall try again, and i wish u the best aswell and also sorry for ur loss xxx sendin loadsa hugs xxxx

 

[Schmelly]

Vent as much as you need. You have to let it all out before you can start healing. Be patient with yourself and don't give yourself a hard time

 

[QTPie]

Definitely vent and say what you like.

Definitely NO kick up the backside, just lots of understanding and

Give yourself time, patience and understanding. I don't think that there is nearly enough information about or support for miscarriages (and I am ashamed to say that I didn't really understand them until I had one - a difficult "life lesson"... )

This place is invaluable: you are surrounded by people who understand and who can give support and advice.

Take it easy.



QT

 

[kermie219]

Everyone is so right no kick hun just lots lots and tlc. I had an induced mc on Sunday and I think you are very very brave. Today is the first day I've made it out of bed and still can't open the windows...I think you are doing great just try and be nice to yourself and try to relax whenver possible. I wish you all the best and hope you can continue to be as strong as I think you are Good luck with everything hun.

 

[buffycat]

lots of hugs.....:higs:

take all the time you need.....we're here for you too......

you are incredibly brave, but remember that you are a wonderful person too....love yourself a little more....

take care...