Natural MC at 12 weeks

[MrsHudson]

I would be 13 weeks pregnant tomorrow but Friday we found out our little baby passed at 9 weeks. I had bled for a day when I was 5 weeks but we had an ultrasound the day before the baby passed and all seemed fine. The Saturday before last, I started spotting. Then we got into an awful car accident, that were lucky to have survived and the bleeding got worse. I was rushed to the hospital and the nurse said she had found the heartbeat. I saw the monitor flashed 170 but I never heard it. I've had a baby before and know what that sounds like. The Dr came in and gave me an ultrasound and she said she did not see a heartbeat but she had bad equipment. I had a prenatal appointment the next day. That morning I started bleeding pretty heavy. I called the midwife and she was OK with us waiting until my appointment. She did a pelvic exam and thought the bleeding was from my cervix. She also did not find a heartbeat but I have a tilted uterus. She thought that was why but referred me to get an ultrasound as soon as possible. I was scheduled for Friday afternoon. Throughout the week I continued to bleed. I was a bit in denial but DH pointed out that I should probably call the midwife. Instead of calling I sent an email. An email they didn't see until Friday afternoon. They called as I was leaving for my ultrasound and said I needed to go in immediately. I went in and as soon as the tech put the wand on my belly I knew it was bad news. The baby didn't move, looked small and didn't have a heartbeat. She placed her hand on me and said, "I'm so sorry but there's no heartbeat". She had remembered seeing it the day before it passed. I saw the ob and discussed my three options. I decided to let it pass naturally. So far the baby has not come out and my bleeding has slowed. I plan to bury it if I hopefully find it. Should this go on more than a couple weeks I'll ask for the medicine.

I'm sorry to all the mama's that are reading this and have suffered a loss as well. It's so hard. I know it wasn't the right time for my family but it's still very devastating to lose a child.

 

[MrsHudson]

I still haven't completed the miscarriage. Saturday will be two weeks. I went ahead and got the cytotec from my ob and will take it Sunday. I have a 15 month old son and I just want this to end. Not so I can forget but so that I can heal my body and be able to do my normal things with my son. This is so hard.

 

[HelenJane]

Wow you've been through the mill. Its a terrible time and i know how you feel. My baby died at 14 weeks. It took about 5 weeks in total to stop bleeding after i gave birth (i had to go to hospital as was too far along). It might be less for you but you'll just have to wait and see.
I understand how you feel though.

 

[MrsHudson]

Thanks for that. I know there will be more bleeding but the anticipation of essentially giving birth is killing me. I know the cytotec will most likely get things going and whatever bleeding after that is fine.

 

[HelenJane]

I know, i was really scared and did not want to go through it at all.
In the end it just took 20mins and I am glad i did as I felt i gave my baby justice in a way. Like i was honoring her. You are very brave and you will be ok.

 

[MrsHudson]

You are so right about honoring the baby. I know in my heart my baby was a girl as well.


I ended up taking cytotec to complete the miscarriage. I took it at 830am. Around 530pm nothing had happened so we decided to run to target and get dinner. Of course it started while we were out and got bad at dinner. I basically went into labor. DH said my cntx were 30-40 seconds apart lasting 30 seconds. I took Percocet and that took the edge off and I could get into a good rhythm. I was laying on the bathroom floor in fetal position. Then I started falling asleep between cntx so I decided to get in bed. Around 930pm the cntx were right on top of each other. For some reason my instinct told me to get on the toilet. I did and my water broke. Wasn't expecting that! Then the cntx were gone. I started bleeding really heavy and then at 230am I changed my pad. When I lifted my leg to get back in bed, the baby passed. It was slightly bigger than a golf ball. I couldn't tell that's what it was but the Dr said it'd look like a gray ball and that's exactly what it was. I was able to put it in a nice box. Yesterday morning we took it to be buried. My body and mind feels so much better.

Now it's time to heal myself. Physically and mentally.

 

[vermeil]

*gentle hug* please take good care of yourself and the time to heal...

 

[Bevziibubble]

I'm so sorry for your loss

 

[Lawes1987]

I had my third loss in April and I know exactly how you are feeling. It does feel better when you get your body back, so to speak. I tried to miscarry naturally the first time but I passed out and became anemic so I had no choice but to have an ERPC. I've had to have 3 now as they won't let me miscarry naturally after the first time. After the 3rd ERPC they left retained products and I bled and had pains and knew something was wrong for 2 months and its only when they sent me for an ultrasound they found the retained products. I had to have 4 tablets inserted up there to contract my womb and I passed the clots/tissue later that day

The relief was overwhelming. Its a horrible experience losing a baby and getting your body make is the beginning of the healing process.

I hope you have better luck next time babe, I have to have tests now, when I muster up the courage to ring to book my referral to the recurrent miscarriage clinic. Which I don't right now.

x

 

[MrsHudson]

Thank you everyone and I'm so sorry for your losses Lawes. Everything went so smoothly with my son it's been quite a shock but it wasn't the right time for us. I don't even plan to try for at least 9 months when ds is 2. I just got dressed and I'm surprised how quickly my stomach has already flattened out.

 

[Bevziibubble]

 

[maggietrot]

I still haven't completed the miscarriage. Saturday will be two weeks. I went ahead and got the cytotec from my ob and will take it Sunday. I have a 15 month old son and I just want this to end. Not so I can forget but so that I can heal my body and be able to do my normal things with my son. This is so hard.

I'm with you - it's horrible when you have suffered the loss and now have to go through this for 2 weeks - dig deep in the bravery chest