need a little help..

[jinglesypp]

Hi there everyone,

Not really sure where to start but will give it a go! Im 18, soon 19 and just found out that im 7 weeks pregnant, not really sure what to do about it. Part of me is really happy and really wants this baby even though it was all unplanned, but im confused as to what i should do.

My boyfriend of a year is really not happy about this and has made it very clear. He said hed be there whatever happens but that was only until i mentioned the possibility of keeping it, he got very rude and dismissive.

Im also very worried about what me parents would say, although i know my mum would be alot more supportive, i wanted to go to uni next year which im not sure id be able to and i dont even think i want to stay with my boyfriend anymore. I feel that i cant talk to him about this because of his previous reaction, and i would be really grateful for any advice, or to find out how you managed to break it to the parents! sorry if this post is rather long im just in a bit of a mess atm!

thanks

 

[Serene123]

My boyfriend over-reacted too. Now we're getting a flat together and we're making a real go of it. If you decide to keep it I'm sure he'll realise after time, and if he doesn't, his loss. It's your baby inside you and if you want to keep it, keep it. Ignore all that other stuff and think "do I want this baby?" If you do, all the other stuff fixes itself. Good luck whatever you decide

 

[missjess]

You need to do what feels right for you sweetie! If you feel like you can raise this baby by yourself without the support of your boyfriend, do it! You just need to consider the pros and cons, financially are you ready? do you have the support to help you? (because a baby can be really costy)

About going to university, I strongly believe that you can raise a child and study at the same time. I'm a pregnant teen as well (I will be 20 in june) and I'm planning to go to uni in september and get my degree.

You just need to do what's right for you and for the baby.

 

[Tam]

Good Luck with your decision hun! If you went thru with it, it will all work out in the end, if you and your OH don't make it, the baby will give you strength you never knew possible, and as for your parents, they may be disappointed or concerned for your future initially, but they will come round and they would love your baby to bits when baby arrives!

If you don't go thru with it, there is nothing to say that things would be the same for you and your OH, with something like this when you think differently on the subject, you can feel rejected and hurt and it can show people in a light you may not like.

This is just my experience hun! Good Luck! x

 

[anita665]

Hi.

Try not to worry too much about your boyfriends reaction. Guys in my experience almost always react in that way. Wonderfully supportive if you're doing what they want but not if you want to keep it!

The good news is most guys come around to the idea eventually whether you stay together or not. Even if he doesn't and you do keep your baby I'm sure you'll manage. 18/19 by far isn't the youngest on this board.

It will make uni very difficult & it's a tough choice you have to make.

Take you time to think about all your options and don't let other peoples oppinions influence you.

Good luck.

 

[xarlenex]

Do whats best for you, at the end of the day what ever decision you chose will be with you forever. Studying at uni and having a baby is possible, difficult but possible. Im planing to return to study as well, I think the baby will help me..I know if I do good at college I can give the baby a better life in the end.
I'm not sure about your partners reaction or how you should handle it as I have a very supportive partner, but I think you should maybe give it a little time. Maybe its just been a big shock and he needs to get his head around it?
But just remember in the end it is your decision that you will live with forever. Good luck and I hope you make the right decision for you xx

 

[angels330]

thank you all for your advice, really helping me to come to terms with everything. just have to figure out what happens now! xxx

 

[Always&4ever]

Its your choice hun and your OH will have to accept it, if he doesn't want to be involved then its his loss not yours, maybe its just shock though and he will come around with time. Good luck in whatever you decide

 

[Ellianna]

Heya hun, sorry I only just read this.
I don't really have that much that everyone else hasn't already said but trust me, you will know what you want to do. I think the most important thing to remember is that at the end of the day it is your decision and only you can make it, not anyone else.
Also, about the uni thing. I'm 17, just over 16 weeks pregnant and I'm going to uni to study for a degree in Social Work. I am completely aware that it's going to be challenging, but it's what I want to do and I'm determind to do it. There's no reason why you shouldn't do exactly what you want, you might just have to look at different ways of doing it.
Good luck hun! Remember that nothing you do is going to be 'right' or 'wrong'. I hope it all works out for you

xxx

 

[angels330]

thanks everyone for your replies. im now 34 weeks and mostly happy. i broke up with the bf as he was being very rude and immature. he has since got a new girlfriend and refuses to acknowledge me or the baby exist. he thinks he can forget and not tell anyone in his family which he isnt. he keeps sending horrible txts saying how i broke his heart and has no feelings towards "it"!, really getting me down im so upset about his reaction and he refuses to talk to me. my mum thinks his parents deserve to know and i agree i just dont know if it would be the best thing to do . xx