1sttimemom67
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I'm 16 weeks pregnant and my parents and family are THRILLED! We are all super excited. However, my Husband's family doesn't seem as involved. My Mom and Dad have picked up little things like outfits and shoes (we found out that it was a girl early through DNA sampling). My Dad was so excited that he went to Toys R Us alone and picked out a crib. When we first told his family, they all seemed super excited and his mom even cried (happy tears). However, they don't purchase anything (which I know I'm early and that's not what matters to us, it just adds to what seems like lack of enthusiasm). I invited his Mom to see our 3D ultrasound this weekend. She works during the week as a teacher assistant and can't go to my regular doctor appointments like my Mom does. She never text me back until my Husband called her later to see if she got my message. She said she'd love to come, but it still felt like we had to push an answer out of her. I know it's probably natural for my parents to be more excited because they see me more and I'm their daughter. But shouldn't she want to be a little more involved? Even if it's just to check in on us and see how things are going? Another example would be last week, when my husband got done painting the nursery and putting the crib together, we invited both Mom's to come and see the nursery. My Mom lives 15 minutes from our house, where his Mom literally lives 2 minutes away. She said she was busy (with her boyfriend) going to tractor supply. She passes our house on the way to and from Tractor Supply. My Mom rushed over asap because she couldn't wait to see the room. His Dad passed away 4 years ago and his Mom got a boyfriend 6 or 7 months later, and she often seems more concerned about being with him. (we've invited her to dinner several times but she's always busy with him). My husband normally doesn't get upset about these kinds of things, but I could tell his feelings were genuinely hurt the other day after getting off the phone with her about seeing the nursery. It breaks my heart that she's not more "excited" or doesn't show it. I've heard that the mother-in-law seems to get more involved after the baby is born, but I'm afraid that I'll still be bitter about her lack of involvement now.
Any similar stories??
Any similar stories??