need encouregments(sp:-/) from all you strong girls

[29july09]

hi girls, first and foremost well done to you all, there must be days when you would love even a five minute break, my angel is my world and my mum is great but works long hours so helps when she can but after a few weeks of no help i do look forward to a couple of hours off.
Right to shorten a long story, i love my bf to bits and we are both as bad as each other for causing petty rows but he has major issues from his past. In arguements he says so much to hurt me and sfterwards openly admits this is why he says it and he gets really upset about how he doesnt no how he can be so nasty to me etc etc.
However things came to a head on friday, my daughter wasnt here luckily. He suufers from depression but i have known that since before we got together. I know i shiould leave him but love him so much and i wud b lost on my own esp in the evening. When we dont row we have the best times together and he makes me feel more special than ever BUT we row alot. I put on weight like we all do when we r pregnant and my daughter is now 7 mths and i have 1/2 a stone to go. In rows, since lexie was born, he has always told me how fat i am, how noone else wud want to b with me etc. However the thing that bothers me most (on friday this was) was that he has a 3 yr old to sumone else and he tried all the nasty comments bout my body n personal parts of my body and i didnt get upset so he said lexie will never b as pretty as my other daughter anyway.
The [problem i have is he is so ashamed of this now, but i cant shake how wrong that was!!!! however i am rubbish at ending it bacause i will end it then b all lonely, then worry bout him gettin wiv somone else, then miss him eyc so i always chase him

Help me please what should i do????????????


thank you so much for any advice and sorry its so long guys x x x x xmuch love and be proud, u all deserve to be x x x x

 

[littlekitten8]

Hun if I am totally honest I would say you need to get out of there. I have no idea how he can be so plain nasty about his own child. It sounds like he has serious serious issues and he is dragging you down. Maybe leaving him would be the incentive he needs to sort himself out. And if it isnt then he obviously isn't worth it. I know how hard it is to leave. I waited until my FOB was violent to me to leave. But its the best thing I've ever done. LO is so much happier now and so am I. Yes I get lonely every now and again but all I have to do is look at James's smily face and its all worth it. Massive hugs to you and I wish you all the luck in making your decision x

 

[Linz88]

omg get out of there. he needs to concentrate on himself before he can concentrate on a relationship.. how can he compare his too children like that? thats sick!

 

[sweetlullaby]

Thats sick. Personally I'd get out of there its hard on your own but its doable

 

[AppleBlossom]

Leave. He obviously needs to sort himself out. And that is a disgusting thing to say about your child. It's hard but you will feel much better afterwards, trust me

 

[expecting09]

Agree with the other ladies, get outta there! x

 

[nievesmama]

I agree with everyone, you need to get out hun.
Thats an awful thing to compare the children

 

[mummy_ellie09]

I am in agreement with everyone else sweetie: you must get out of that relationship, and fast.

You can't stick with someone that's going to constantly bring you down and compare his two children. What if he does it when Lexi is old enough to understand? She is going to be so upset and won't understand why daddy's saying these god-awful things to her.

As said, leave and leave now. I felt the way you do about trying to hang on, and keep chasing him etc but you need to break free from this and you could even feel miles better for doing so.

I'm thinking of you sweetheart and I hope you make the decision that is right for you and your daughter.

 

[29july09]

hi girls i am sorry i didnt reply sooner but i have internet at my mums only. thank you so much to each and every one of you girls. i admire you all so much. please help me by telling me how u all managed if u were still in love tho u knew it was wrong? i cant bare the thought of him going back to his ex wife or another girl holding him tho i know its wrong because of both my daughter and me. think io just need some inspiration from all you strong girls for them long lonely nights, not only that but i am struggling with lexie sleeping and at times in the middle of the noght i just feel like such a failure.
Once again I sdmire each and every one of you, you are what a MUMMY is at there best ding it alone
thanks for your help and inspiration xxx
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