need some advice :( how to tell ex's parents since he refuses to

[angels330]

hi all, been sent over here hopefully you can help!

i broke up with the bf as he was being very rude and immature. he has since got a new girlfriend and refuses to acknowledge me or the baby exist. he thinks he can forget about everything and get on with his life and not tell anyone in his family which he isnt. i definately dont want a relationship with this man but im worried that hes disowning his own child just because i broke up with him, in spite. before we broke up he said he couldnt not be involved whatever happens but this has changed completely.

i have had repeated warnings not to put his name on the bc and more nasties like that.. and me and my mum composed a letter to his mum as we agreed they had a right to know. that was more than a week ago and have had no response. i cant believe for a second his mum would ignore something like this. i have no way of telling if she actually received it or not - mum thinks he intercepted it but who knows, might even have got the address wrong..

I still think his parents should know - just wondering that since i dont know if the letter was received how i should get in contact now. i could possibly go to his house when he is not in and give them a letter by hand, or contact his sister and ask for his mums number, what do you think might be best? would appreciate any advice you ladies might have xxx

 

[Younglutonmum]

Ohhh hun, massive to you. I'm sorry your ex is being such a knob end!!

If I was in your position I would go to the house to speak to his mum. She'll probably want to ask alot of questions & she may feel awkward picking up a phone & contacting you if she just recieves a letter from you. Also it may be good for her to actually physically see that you're pregnant. Might sound silly to you but i'm just going by my own experience. My ex's mum accused me of making my pregnancy up. She wouldn't believe me till I had my 12 week scan

Also be prepared for the fact that his mum may well have recieved the letter & has just chosen to bury her head in the sand. Unfortunately some people are like that. But you know this woman so you know what she's like.

If you do decide to visit the house then do take someone with you. I can inmagine things will get very emotional & you'll need support

xxxx

 

[angels330]

thanks very much for your advice, ill be visiting near where they live soon so will pop and see her. ive thought about the possibility that she chose to ignore the letter but i really hope that isnt the case, would be a shame. xxx

 

[Younglutonmum]

It would be a massive shame, but if that is the case then just remember it's there loss!!

My LO has nothing to do with her dads side of the family & we're doing just fine

I really hope it goes well for you & his mum is supportive of you!!

xxx

 

[gemma24uk]

id go to his house when he not there hunny xx

 

[brownhairedmom]

Never fear, experienced letter-writing-to-ex-boyfriends-mother-and-getting-no-response-back girl is here!!


I did this. She ignored it. I then left a message on her voicemail asking her to respond three weeks later, she ignored it.

Some people are just f**ked in the head and they need to drop off the face of the earth. They're ignorant and inconsiderate pathetic wastes of space. If they can't acknowledge a baby, they deserve to be spat at. If I run into her with my baby, I swear I will pick the baby up, turn her away and tell them to get f**king lives.

It hurts, but just know that the more we push, the harder they push back. Stupid dumb pieces of worthless crap.

 

[brownhairedmom]

P.S don't put him on the birth certificate. Don't give him any tools in which he can come back later and pretend he was perfect.

 

[demonmadcat]

how did we all get so bitter and twisted...

oh yeah, blokes..

I'd visit her.. even if she did receive the letter, at least this way you know for sure..

Em
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