Need some advice

[tinkabells]

Hiya ladies,

Just need some advice, ill give you quick background info....

Im gonna be a single mum, me and her father were never proper together we were on and off for a yr, his already got a child which i new about, but he said he was never with the mother etc
Well when i found out i was pregnant, told him and he said he couldnt be a father again and admitted that he had been with her, but they were on and off, which i dont believe, anyway, he wants nothing to do with her, and has kept it a secret from everyone as he doesnt want her to find out, my friends and most of his friends no im having his baby.

Anyway, me and him still talk and stupidly i still flirt with him etc etc, i no i need to stop but its so hard

But i've txted him saying that, we need to talk soon about Hollie and what is going to happen when shes here and what we both want dont want

What im wondering is, what do i say to him? What do i need to sort out about?
Has anyone does this before spoken to the father and gone through everything?!

Or have i just made this so confusing? xxx

 

[Alexas Mommy]

Well, visitation needs to be sorted out, and so does child support payments, so you need to approach him with these questions. Alexa's father and I have just split, and I had to ask him about those things, and we sorted things out fine. If he doesn't co-operate, you may need to take him to court.. Good luck!

 

[tinkerbell940]

hiya hunni
dont let the fact that he is a ass no offence
wreck ur experence of having a child
hes so not worth it n hes the one hu will be missing out
dont let him think he can have u back jst like that jst coz ur having his child
it seems like hes sorta rejecting it he needs 2 step up coz it takes 2 to make a baby
hope everything goes ok congrats take every moment in coz u will never get it back enjoy her life and love urself coz u need better then him
x

 

[edinsam]

like Alexasmum said you need to just establish visitation rights, financial support etc. If you can do that amicably then all the better - nothing worse than having to go through full CSA and Court route like I am having to

Hope it goes well hun

S
xxx

 

[tinkabells]

Oh its gonna be going down that route xxx