Need to let off steam about my idiot of a doctor!

[zoe87]

Had my follow up appointment today from having my hormone tests done (results came back normal) im no further forward in knowing why my AF has gone dramatically different this past year.
My doctor began to tell me how i 'have managed to get pregnant before' so concieveing isnt an issue?!?! i mean how does he know that for sure what if there is a problem with me and hes just going to dismiss it!?
However he prodded my stomach where i told him ive been getting pain and it ws really tender when he touched it but he said doesnt feel like theres anything wrong but will send me for a scan to reassure me!
I am just really fed up now of having up tp 60day cycles and really want me sticky bean very very soon its driving me bonkers

 

[tinybutterfly]

in my experience doctors seem to be in a "you're young, healthy and you did it before you can do it again, and you have plenty of time left to do it in" spirit alot of the time...

and yeah, they might be right, it doesn't stop up from worrying and having our strong desires for a baby.
we don't want a baby "then", we want our babies NOW!!!!!!!

i am glad however that yours has at least referred you for a scan, some would say
"meh you don't need that"

 

[zoe87]

Thanks for your reply...I guess in a way i understand where there coming from...but i just get so aggitated that they can dismiss some things when there could be an underlying problem (even tho theres probly nothin at all to worry about) He told me that to get any help with fertility or to have serious tests done is when ive been TTC for 2 years. ( I have been trying for tht long but my doctors took it from my 2nd m.c)

 

[shaerichelle]

I am dealing with the same thing here in the US. I am 31. Ill be damned if I will tolerate it.. My years are slowly slipping by.

I had my son at 24. You alll arent to young. Doctors need to stop looking at age.

 

[zoe87]

Age seems to a big issue with most doctors, i wish u all a sticky bean very very soon

 

[hb1]

Hi Zoe

I don't know if this is of any use but I have attached a link to the RCOG guidlines for infertility treatment - it may be worth contacting them to see whether your Dr should be counting from your 2nd mc being that mc can be part of infertility - I'm no expert but that seems wrong to me.

If there seems to be stuff pertinent to you ( and you have to scroll right down past all the glossaries etc to get to the actual info ) might be worth printing off and highlighting things that are of interest and taking to the GP's appt.

https://www.rcog.org.uk/files/rcog-corp/uploaded-files/NEBFertilityFull.pdf

I have found the RCOG website full of great info and they set the standards and guidelines for care that the medical industry should work to.

When I was asking about tests that should be done regularly when under treatment for PCOS and mentioned I got it off the internet the GP was all dismissive - as soon as I mentioned that it actually came from the RCOG and that I had never been tested as they say I should I suddenly got tested - strange. V sad that the GP's ( who are paid handsomely and get extra cash for bringing in junior dr's for extra work experience etc ) don't seem to keep themselves abreast of what are quite common problems - not asking them to be experts - then it's worrying!!

Hope you get the help you deserve soon!!

hx

 

[hb1]

https://www.rcog.org.uk/files/rcog-corp/uploaded-files/NEBFertilityIFP.pdf

This seems to be more patient friendly summation of the same guidlines

 

[Jem88]

Hi, we've been ttc for nearly the same amount of time, if you count it from your 1st mc which i think most people and doc's do? which is 1 year 7 months, i know we count it from our 1st mc and out GP did, and she referred us to a fertility specialist because we've been ttc for over a year, we're young aswell, 22 and 24 so really age has nothing to do with it, i'd try and see a diff doc and ask to be referred because of your long 60 day cycles, is there a woman doc you could see, maybe she'll be more understanding? plus i think you said in a diff topic that you've had tests done and there fine, but your OH hasn't? it'll be good for him to have a fertility test done aswell so then you kno if he have a problem.

 

[zoe87]

Hi Zoe

I don't know if this is of any use but I have attached a link to the RCOG guidlines for infertility treatment - it may be worth contacting them to see whether your Dr should be counting from your 2nd mc being that mc can be part of infertility - I'm no expert but that seems wrong to me.

hx

Thanks so much for that link I am going to have a good read up on it now that was really kind of you

 

[zoe87]

Hi, we've been ttc for nearly the same amount of time, if you count it from your 1st mc which i think most people and doc's do? which is 1 year 7 months, i know we count it from our 1st mc and out GP did, and she referred us to a fertility specialist because we've been ttc for over a year, we're young aswell, 22 and 24 so really age has nothing to do with it, i'd try and see a diff doc and ask to be referred because of your long 60 day cycles, is there a woman doc you could see, maybe she'll be more understanding? plus i think you said in a diff topic that you've had tests done and there fine, but your OH hasn't? it'll be good for him to have a fertility test done aswell so then you kno if he have a problem.

Hi Jem, You & your partner are the same age as me and OH! Thanks for your adivice again. There is a female doctor but not sure if she is it my practice or the one at another town. I think it will be worth me seeing a female probably like you said will be more understanding. Are you any furthr forward in getting your sticky bean?

 

[Jem88]

At the mo nope, but its only been 4 months since my 2nd mc(chemical) but i'm positive it'll happen in the next 6 - 12 months.. i hope lol.

 

[zoe87]

Aw sorry to hear chick, i can imagine your in the same boat as me, anxious and worried at the thought of getting pregnant again ater 2 m/c's. Im wishing you a sticky bean really really soon.

Speaking of sticky beans im on cd 49 and expecting another 60 day cycle i was cooking tea tonight and this awful dizzy spell came over me thought i was going to faint , ive never felt like that before...still not getting my hopes up tho lol

 

[danielle1987]

Hi, we've been ttc for nearly the same amount of time, if you count it from your 1st mc which i think most people and doc's do? which is 1 year 7 months, i know we count it from our 1st mc and out GP did, and she referred us to a fertility specialist because we've been ttc for over a year, we're young aswell, 22 and 24 so really age has nothing to do with it, i'd try and see a diff doc and ask to be referred because of your long 60 day cycles, is there a woman doc you could see, maybe she'll be more understanding? plus i think you said in a diff topic that you've had tests done and there fine, but your OH hasn't? it'll be good for him to have a fertility
test done aswell so then you kno if he have a problem.

me and other half are the same age and have gone through similar. we been trying for over two years, had a miscarriage a year ago, and still nothing... going into hospital on the 25th of march for the last of the tests, everything else so far come back clear... this one testing my womb and fallopian tubes to make sure no blockages, but the doctors even at the fertility clinic says "oh your young and you have been pregnant so it will happen again... its so hard

Hope we all get our much longed for bfp

 

[zoe87]

QUOTE]

me and other half are the same age and have gone through similar. we been trying for over two years, had a miscarriage a year ago, and still nothing... going into hospital on the 25th of march for the last of the tests, everything else so far come back clear... this one testing my womb and fallopian tubes to make sure no blockages, but the doctors even at the fertility clinic says "oh your young and you have been pregnant so it will happen again... its so hard

Hope we all get our much longed for bfp[/QUOTE]

Hi if you dont mind me asking how did you go about gettin referred for tests?

 

[danielle1987]

QUOTE]

me and other half are the same age and have gone through similar. we been trying for over two years, had a miscarriage a year ago, and still nothing... going into hospital on the 25th of march for the last of the tests, everything else so far come back clear... this one testing my womb and fallopian tubes to make sure no blockages, but the doctors even at the fertility clinic says "oh your young and you have been pregnant so it will happen again... its so hard

Hope we all get our much longed for bfp

Hi if you dont mind me asking how did you go about gettin referred for tests?[/QUOTE]

we had been trying for 18 months when we went to the dr, i stated off with LOADS of blood work, and oh got a sperm sample done, then once they come back clear, the doctor referred us to the fertility clinic as as far as the doctor could tell we were healthy enough with the results that a baby should have happened, I waited 4 months for the appointment and had the 1st one in December, all the results we discussed and they asked me a load of questions, and then it was decided they would do these tests, so thats me just gt the appointment through. I didnt think we would get referred because i ave been pregnant before x

 

[zoe87]

I can imagine your pleased you are getting things seen to especially ttc for that long. Its driving me mad. my doctor just shrugged it off and said its perfectly normal for women to have irregular periods and not to concieve. He didnt even mention anything about me or my OH having any testing done. Drives me mad as i dont know how to approach it next.

 

[danielle1987]

I can imagine your pleased you are getting things seen to especially ttc for that long. Its driving me mad. my doctor just shrugged it off and said its perfectly normal for women to have irregular periods and not to concieve. He didnt even mention anything about me or my OH having any testing done. Drives me mad as i dont know how to approach it next.

my periods were always so regular before the miscarriage, since march i have had a few months when they are the same day every month and now i get spotting like 5 days before my period is due etc, dr says my hormones have just went haywire they say.... Yeah ly glad to be getting tests done but with everything so far coming back normal feel like im no further forward, surely if me an oh are perfectly fine then it should have happened by now
. you should push to get referred. Im in scotland so i dont know if its diffferent depending on where you live? xx

 

[zoe87]

I can imagine your pleased you are getting things seen to especially ttc for that long. Its driving me mad. my doctor just shrugged it off and said its perfectly normal for women to have irregular periods and not to concieve. He didnt even mention anything about me or my OH having any testing done. Drives me mad as i dont know how to approach it next.

my periods were always so regular before the miscarriage, since march i have had a few months when they are the same day every month and now i get spotting like 5 days before my period is due etc, dr says my hormones have just went haywire they say.... Yeah ly glad to be getting tests done but with everything so far coming back normal feel like im no further forward, surely if me an oh are perfectly fine then it should have happened by now
. you should push to get referred. Im in scotland so i dont know if its diffferent depending on where you live? xx

My periods used to be so regular too, now i dont even get warning when its coming, no pain, spotting etc,! I wish u success very soon and would be nice to hear how you get on.
Im in england, thinking about getting a second opinion.