Need to tell some1, any1.

[Happybeans]

just need to get all this anger and fear out my system and i always feel better writing it down so I apologise now for the following.

I'm 10 weeks pregnant and don't want to be with my ex. He is a physco, violent control freak. 2 weeks ago he wished my baby dead. stupidly i saw him because i wanted him to at least care about my baby. I went to his parents and told them i'd try again with him against my better judgement. Just returned from holiday and told him i don't want to move iin with him and the result is this:-

He told my parents by phone that i was pregnant and that he don't want it and that I'm sick in the head. I hadn't told my parents yet as i knew they'd go mad because they hate him and i really should have learnt my lesson and stopped seeing him months ago.

I then went to get in my car to go to them and face the music to find every tyre on my car had been slashed with knives. so no car.

spent the day with my friend then went to see parents and sister. They hate me and want nothing to do with me or my child. they don't want a grandchild by him. my sister hates me and although 6 months pregnant herself physically wanted to kill me for being so stupid. Basically they all told me to F*** off.

so i did and then walked 3 miles home crying my eyes out.

so heres where i'm at. Living in a shared flat and skint, (ok i have a good job and there being fantasic so thats a positive) my parents dont want to know and neiter does my sister. I currently am without the use of my car. And my ex has promised me he has no much more in store for me. told me get rid of the baby or he will make my life hell for the rest of my life.

But, besides all that, i woke up this morning in a much brighter mood. Just booked my appointment and got my can on 15th june when I'll be 12 weeks and 6 days. and got an appointment at citizens advice.

I'm on my own but i don't care. I love this baby already and will cope because i have to!!!!

Right thats it, enough of boring u (and beleive me that was the short version) Thanks for allowing me to rip of steam.

xxx

 

[KellyMH]

Keep your chin up, its probably your hormones making you feel 100x worse than you need to. It doesnt sound like the perfect situation but think positive

Your family will come round, they will see your not interested in the idiot any more and that it was a mistake, just give them time.

As for the fella... Avoid him like the plague. Make a fresh start! You dont need people around you like that. You'll have the little one to think about, just make sure you move on and make some happiness for yourself. The little one will be able to feel it!!

 

[Welshcob]

Happy Beans! I am so pleased for you about the baby. Don't forget that FANTASTIC part. All the other bits don't matter. It makes it more challenging for us. But we are all strong and capable. I to, think your family will come round. I have the same situation regarding FOB and my family hate him too. After posting on here, I decided to come clean and tell them all who FOB was despite that I should have been staying away from him! These guys are particularly clever and controlling. My family are not pleased its his baby and worry about me...I suspect that under the surface this is what your family are doing.
PM me and let me know what Citizens advice said as I am possibly in a very similar situation. My ex does not speak however and is simply laying plans for something and causing problems for me and the baby.
Concentrate on you and your baby. The other things will fall into place. Your parents will come round! hugs

 

[babystar]

your family will come round. When I had my 1st my father disowned me. He called me every name under the sun told me he hatted me was so disappointed in me etc etc. I wasn't welcome in his family anymore. He eventually came around after my oldest was born.

As for the ex. Restraining Order. If that's what it comes down to. Document everything he does. Report everything he does.

 

[sazzyb1985]

good luck with everything its so amazing being a mum it makes everything worth it x

 

[DizzyMoo]

aww hun i feel for you, my situ with my sons dad was similar although not violent, he would ring me , text me, threaten to put my door in & basically called everynight once my son was born banging on the door & shouting abuse, he eventually got arrested & was warned to stay away or face the injuction or court for harrassment. He did stop & it only happened occasionally afterwards when he got paraletic. I brought my son up alone & loved it, I'm pregnant by the love of my life & guess what he's just left me! So i'm doing this alone too *sigh*

You will be fine hunny, family may come round in time & maybe more so when they see you dont want anything to do with him anymore. But for now just think about you & your baby all the rest will sort it self out in time.

hugs xx

 

[dreams]

I'm sorry this is happening to you. My ex was very violent but luckily he doesn't live around here so there's no chance of bumping into him.

Your parents will come round eventually they're worried about you and your future. I suppose they don't know what to do and are scared that he might hurt the baby too.

Definitely get a restraining order and make a statement with the police. Don't put up with his actions

 

[tinkabells]

Awwww im sorry for what your ex and family have done and are doing, i should imagine your family are just annoyed and will come around eventually, if they dont there missing out.
Your be fine you seem like a strange girl!!
Just vent your anger out on here, we all do!! xxx

 

[Happybeans]

Awwww im sorry for what your ex and family have done and are doing, i should imagine your family are just annoyed and will come around eventually, if they dont there missing out.
Your be fine you seem like a strange girl!!
Just vent your anger out on here, we all do!! xxx

I'm really hoping you mean strong and not strange!!!!!!

But hey I probably am a lil mad. i must have been to keep returning to FOB. Oh well as u say his loss. Apparently he is coming over tomorrow to change all my tyres. I won't hold my breath, but he says he is coming over and then he don't ever have to talk to me again. The way he behaves not a bad thing. I already love this baby soo much it won't feel hard up thats for sure.

Thank you all for your kind words and support

xxx

 

[tinkabells]

Awwww im sorry for what your ex and family have done and are doing, i should imagine your family are just annoyed and will come around eventually, if they dont there missing out.
Your be fine you seem like a strange girl!!
Just vent your anger out on here, we all do!! xxx

I'm really hoping you mean strong and not strange!!!!!!

But hey I probably am a lil mad. i must have been to keep returning to FOB. Oh well as u say his loss. Apparently he is coming over tomorrow to change all my tyres. I won't hold my breath, but he says he is coming over and then he don't ever have to talk to me again. The way he behaves not a bad thing. I already love this baby soo much it won't feel hard up thats for sure.

Thank you all for your kind words and support

xxx

OH MY GOD, sorry yes, yes i did mean strong girl not strange so sorry!!!

Is it wise having him coming to sort your car out, if his been threatening you? Have you got anyone that could be with you when his there so your not alone with him? xxx

 

[Happybeans]

Is it wise having him coming to sort your car out, if his been threatening you? Have you got anyone that could be with you when his there so your not alone with him? xxx[/QUOTE]

i live in key worker accomdation so theres a housing manager and i'm going to leave key with him therefore i don't have to see him. ur right to be concerned as i don't trust him one bit but i'm going to try my best to ensure that i don't see him.

Heres hoping i have my car fixed tomorrow. I had to get 2 buses today and felt very traumatised. lol.

x

 

[tinkabells]

Oh thats alright then, just didnt think it was wise with things his been saying and then coming to help you with your car!!!

Awww hope ya get ya car sorted lol!!! Im used to public transport haha xxx