Need to Vent X(

[horrorheart13]

All has been going well lately. LO is moving alot, me and OH are engaged (he proposed last night ), but of course it can't just all be lovely can it? This is kind of a long story. He has a daughter with his ex and two years ago she told him she was going to find some way to get him out of her life forever (she cheated on him most of their relationship so they aren't very friendly at all to one another) and then about 6 months after that she calls him up saying their daughter claims he molested her. He was crushed that his ex had made up this story and embarassed to even have to defend himself to his own friends against such a lie. So of course he talks to detectives, takes a lie-detector test, which he passes with flying colors and all of a sudden his ex up and moves, not telling anyone where she is. So this entire time he hasn't seen his daughter. He misses her terribly and is afraid of what his ex will throw at him next. A few days ago, she apparently finds out via Myspace that we are expecting little Jerry and now all of a sudden she is sending him messages. At first she was threatening him with talk of child support (which he has offered to pay in the past), etc and now she's trying to make him feel worse by saying "She misses you so much" (his daughter) as if it's his fault. I know she's just doing this because he's having a child with me aka "another girl" and this doesn't sit well with her.

I'm all for them coming to some sort of agreement so that he's able to see his daughter again. I pray that happens. But I will be damned if I'm going to sit quietly while she pretty much teases him with the possibility of reconciling when all she really wants is to cause him more pain when he should be happy (about our LO and our engangement).

It might just be the hormones but I really feel like she is invading my territory and it's making me very angry. It feels as if she can't just let us be happy while I'm pregnant. I feel like my entire pregnancy is going to be overshadowed by her and her manipulative self and becoming a new mom won't be as amazing as it should be because she will be forcing herself into our business and using their daughter as an excuse to do so.

I really don't know what to do. I'm trying to keep to myself, stay positive, and let them work it out. I'm just so scared she's going to take his focus off me and our LO and I know that sounds selfish but I can't help it.

 

[PitBullMommy]

Not really sure what to say, but I sure hope things work out for the best!

 

[Serene123]

What a BITCH! She has issues. Don't let her ruin your pregnancy, easier said than done I know but she's obviously not worth it. Hope it all works out

 

[luckyme225]

I'm sorry she is using his daughter to get in your business. On a happier note congratulations on your engagement!

 

[AquaDementia]

Email the bitch and tell her to step off.

 

[Samo]

His ex sounds really horrible :/ what a bad cookie. Maybe she is still "not over" him and could be a bit jealous he's expecting a child with another woman and although their relationship did not work out, seeing him like this could trigger more fond memories of them before the falling out. I wont be surprised if she starts asking for child support and such but seeing as your OH had already offered it, it shouldn't be a problem.

Hopefully things can be resolved in an orderly fashion and wont erupt into cat fights. Good luck to the both of you. Congrats on the engagement, sounds fabulous (hopefully the hag wont be trying to get in the middle of you two and leave you be!)

 

[BurtonBaby]

YIKES. Thats a hard situation. Sometimes girls, especially jealous girls, can be extremely rude, and invade your relationships privacy. And with him having a daughter with her, he cant do anything but deal with her. I would just keep open conversation with him about it, so he knows he can talk to you about her. As of right now, I dont know yet if I would talk to her, just because it might give her more ammunition to talk to him. But if things get worse, or continue this way, I'd definitely have words with her. And for her to make up lies about his daughter is sick. Perhaps he can try to gain custody of her if the mother is unstable? If she is making up lies about abuse, that is NOT a stable woman.

Good luck hun. Exes are never an easy thing to deal with, and when they are kinda crazy, its like a battlefield.

 

[horrorheart13]

Thank you so much for your input. This girl is f*cking insane, really and from what I understand the only reason she made up the lies is because she was getting questioned by her daughter's school about her being abusive. I guess the lie about him was to keep the heat off her. For now she's saying all these things about how much his daughter misses him (even though it's her fault) and how much she's grown which I imagine is driving him up the wall missing his little girl. She has the power to change his mood with all of this and it's driving me crazy. What she did to him is unforgivable but he doesn't have a choice but to play nice so that he has a chance to see his daughter. All I keep thinking about is how if all goes well and he is able to see her again, my son is going to have a half sister (which is wonderful) who has an evil bitch mother (which is awful) and I don't want that woman in anyway involved with my son. I'm just freaking out a bit.

But thank you everyone It makes me feel alot better knowing I'm not wrong in despising that stupid bitch

 

[Serene123]

I forgot to say congratulations on your engagement before! Got caught up in the bitchiness, so CONGRATS!

 

[horrorheart13]

I forgot to say congratulations on your engagement before! Got caught up in the bitchiness, so CONGRATS!

LOL I know, I'm supposed to be on but my head is just filled with bitchiness!

But thanks! I'm excited!

 

[AquaDementia]

that's some maury povich material right there!

oh and congratulations on getting engaged!

 

[supernurse]

yeah, congratulations. It's just a shame that you can't really celebrate much with all this on your plate.

I don't understand how she could use her own daughter just to get at your OH, that is so cruel and low. Hope it all gets sorted though. x

 

[clairebear]

tell the bitch to back off.

try to stay chilled for LO

congrats on engagement xxxx

 

[charlottecco2]

wow congratulations on your engagement. Thats brilliant news!!! it sounds like that women is a waste of space. grrrr i hate people like that, she has no right to mess with other peoples lives. Sorry to hear you have to put up with that xx

 

[Vickie]

Congratulations on your engagement.

 

[Always&4ever]

Congrats on the engagement as for the ex, I'm sorry if she is causing trouble for you and I hope it gets sorted soon

 

[snugglemuffin]

Congrats on your engagement!!

You don't have to listen to her crap and if you think she will make trouble you can always get her first. By accusing your partner of what she has, she has already broken the law quite badly! By the sounds of it she won't have a leg to stand on if you decide to go a legal route. Also if she isn't that bright (she doesn't sound like the sharpest tool on the box (( a tool none the less)) you could always just tell her that that you intend to take her to court and to press charges for defimation of character so on an so forth.

Hope there is a similar thing in American Law just realised your from the states DUH!

Just don't give in to any blackmail the only way to do that is take the amunition away. If she is using his daughter he needs to show her he is in a better position than her and its her who is up the creek. I cant imagine how pissed off you must be! but hopefully if psycho pants chills out and stops using her child as a weapon you can all come to an agreement. I really hope she can Sending you calming vibes!

 

[taylor2]

The x sounds like a psycho! If she has made up a lie so horrible as molestation, she obviously has serious issues and who knows what else she could have up her sleeve! I would stay as far away from her as possible! If your man wants to work things out as far as custody or child support, let him do it for his daughters sake, but I say to you... stay away from that psycho bitch! You never know what someone with jealousy issues could do. Congrats on the pregnancy and engagement! I wish you nothing but the best! Good luck hun!

 

[babybels71]

sounds like she has a case of the green eyed monster, try not to let her get to you, enjoy your pregnancy. Just cos things didnt work out for her!!
Congratulations on your engagement and I wish you both all the best for the future....xxx chin up!!!

 

[horrorheart13]

Lately she's just been sending him messages trying to make him feel guilty as if he's "forgotten" about his daughter, which he hasn't. I also think she's being a jealous bitch. Even though he's a bit distracted about the engagement, LO has finally started kicking so hard he can feel it and he loves that So that gives him something to be happy about. And his mom and me have been talking about the engagement so that gives me someone to talk to about it. I'm just hoping he's not getting more involved with the bitch than he needs to. I don't want to be giving birth while he's in court over something with her

Thanks everyone