Need your advice

[imready4it]

Ladies, I’m currently on cd40 following a d&c after a mmc. Last night out of the blue I got very nauseous early in the evening. Later around 3am I woke again and was very nauseous again. Perhaps more than earlier. I never did actually vomit but wished I would’ve. Then today out of the blue I had bright red when I wiped. There isn’t enough to validate using a tampon or pad. It’s only there when I wipe. Normally AF is preceded by back cramps but definitely not nausea. Did anyone else have anything like this with their first AF. Btw, I took a Dollar tree Hpt on Sunday but it was negative. I believe I was 12DPO if I actually ovulated. I had EWCM two days during this awkward time and hoped I ovulated. Any advice??

 

[momwithbabies]

Hello! Did you ever find out if it was AF or BFP?

I’m sorry for your loss. The six weeks (at least) after my D&C was way off physically and hormonally. I wish you the best!

 

[imready4it]

Yes...a very, very light AF lasted for 3.5 days...I then fell and broke my Tailbone on New Years Day...two days later I have tons of EWCM...trying to contemplate BDing this evening with a broken tailbone. DH will probably think I’ve lost my mind.

 

[momwithbabies]

Whoa! I can’t imagine the pain from a broken tailbone! I’ve only bruised mine, but that hurts enough.

Hope you feel better soon!

Good luck!

 

[imready4it]

Well, didn’t get to BD last night...DH has completely shut down...I told him we should try last night and he acted like all was well until it was time. He literally got into bed, said “I love u”, and rolled over. SMDH! I asked him what was wrong and he says nothing. We’ve only BD’ed 6 times since my D&C back on 11/17. I’ve asked him several times if there’s a problem but he insists there’s nothing wrong. I’m getting very frustrated. Any ladies experience anything like this after MC?

 

[momwithbabies]

That’s frustrating. Do you think he took the loss really hard?

 

[imready4it]

Who knows??? Men are the worst at expressing their feelings and he is the King of them all in that respect. It is really starting to drive a wedge in our relationship. I feel totally ignored and I have told him that a few weeks ago. Once again he apologized for making me feel that way and that wasn’t his intention. Later that evening he told me he didn’t want to “go through it again” but that he would keep trying if I wanted to. I thought we were on the same page. Guess not.

 

[imready4it]

Sometimes I feel like maybe he never wanted to try again in the first place (before we got pregnant earlier in the fall) and now he is using the MC as an “out”. Who knows? Maybe I’m not being fair.

 

[momwithbabies]

That sounds difficult to navigate. I hope you’re able to talk to him more and get open responses.

I don’t have advice, but I can sort of relate. I know when you don’t agree on TTC, it does strain your relationship. My husband is also not fully committed to TTC as I am, and it can make me so angry! He says that he’s happy with what we have, but he’s open to more. I’m willing to do anything for another baby. We’ve had several blow ups throughout our now 8 years (off and on) of TTC. Now my age is becoming a factor, so I told him that this is basically our last chance.

Hopefully he’ll see how much you want a baby and get on board fully. It is so difficult, but it’s worth it. Or that’s what I keep telling myself.

 

[imready4it]

Yes my age is weighing heavily on my mind as well. I’ll be 40 in May and sometimes I think I must be crazy for wanting to TTC again. I told myself for years that I was finished having children and didn’t ever want to “start over.” I had a change of heart last summer when I thought I had gotten pregnant while on the pill. After that it was all I could think about.

 

[momwithbabies]

I don’t know about you, but it seems like everyone else is pregnant! It makes me so bitter! DH says it’s just because I notice it more, but I swear...

Are you trying anything to help your odds? We are doing Clomid this cycle, but only 50 mg. Praying for a miracle!

 

[imready4it]

We haven’t used anything like that yet. I went off the pill in September and I was pregnant two weeks later. I didn’t think I would catch so quickly but my DH said I would. Now, I have to get him to BD.....going to try to talk to him again tonight. Last night he slipped off to bed as soon as I got the kids in bed. I asked him what the hell he was doing and he said he was tired. I ended up yelling at him and slamming the door. I was furious. I’m suppose to O today and he is not getting with the program! I just want to scream.

 

[momwithbabies]

Yeah, sometimes I don’t think they understand that timing is everything!!! And all of this monitoring of our bodies crap gets old really fast. The least they could do is try to perform.

Good luck!