Need your opinions ladies

[Dream.dream]

Need some honest opinions ladies.

So tummy princes dad and I broke up and moved out of the place we had shared back in July . He wasn't taking te reponsiblity of having another child seriously , was fighting with me constantly over going out drinking with his one buddy, buying video games instead of paying off debt before baby got here, spending all his time gaming and not going to work everyday . Before I found out I was pregnant he I had kicked him out for 3 weeks because he had not paid the power bill and not told me about the disconnection notice until the power went out one evening so when he came back he had made all theses promises the first time that he broke

Since July though he's been a lot different. He's gone to Counselling with me once a week, he goes to birthing classes with me and asks questions, he's bought a stroller and car seat and clothes diapers and a ton of baby stuff , and has been coming across the city twice a week to see my older son and spend time with him, and yesterday he sold his long board, roller skates, a signed hockey jersey , his wii, and play station so pay down like 80% of his credit card .

He's says he misses us and that's why he's done everything because he wants to prove he's changed and he wants his family back .

He wants me to take him back and start looking for a place again before the baby gets here , I'm hesitant because I don't want to have things go back to the way they were before .

What would you do? So you think he's proved enough yet or should I maybe wait a bit and see?

 

[weebubba]

Personally I would wait a bit longer. Maybe take more time to see if he continues in this new manner or if it's just an act to get you back on-side.

I genuinely believe that people can change and I hope his new persona is real. If he has made the changes because he really wants to there is a very good chance it's permanent.

Good luck with whatever you decide but remember it is your decision and you need to do whats best for you.

 

[Dezireey]

Sounds promising but I agree, give it more time and tell him he has to be patient with you as it is not easy to trust someone that easily if they have let you down before. It does look good though that he is doing such drastic things let's hope he keeps it up and is changing for you and kids and also for himself as well.

 

[Dream.dream]

Thanks . My gut tells me I should probably wait

Think I'm only considering it because it's an uncomfortable situation right now where me and my oldest are . I'm sharing a room with him and there's no room for baby's stuff and all my furniture is in storage

 

[lauram_92]

I would wait a bit longer, just to make sure it is not just a phase he is going through. It does seem like he has changed, so fingers crossed for you!