Hi everyone! I am new to this community and was hoping I could find other ladies who could relate!
I'm 28 years old, have been married for 5 years and I'm starting to feel the motherly instinct and urge to become a mother. Hubby has wanted kids for some time now and would love nothing more than us getting pregnant. We had been living day to day and up until about a year ago got serious about our finances and paying off our debt. We are now hoping to build up our savings (emergency/baby fund and house down payment). I started a new job this past April and due to work deadlines and such, we decided we would be better off to wait until next Spring or so before we begin TTC (less stress plus I would qualify for family leave, 12 weeks of unpaid leave). Hubby has since also received a promotion so we hoping to save up faster than we were able to years before.
I had some irregular periods last year and came off a copper IUD (shifted twice) to hormonal BC. One of my doctors was worried I suffered from PCOS but the other disagreed, overall my period has been mostly regular since getting on BC. I am very concerned and aware about fertility now that I am closer to turning 30...We have received some comments from people around us about "the perfect time not existing" which don't help the cause. In addition, for my height my BMI is too high and I need to lose about 40 to 50 lbs to be at a healthy range. There are other factors in my life such as living 1 hr away from my parents (due to housing costs) which bother my mom especially, amongst others which I suppose are weighing heavy on me as well.
I am trying to get my priorities in order for the new year, I found it helped a lot last year when I did a similar exercise after deciding to transition out of my old career which would not be sustainable with a family.
I'm sorry for the rant, I guess my question is whether anyone has any advice or suggestions?
I'm 28 years old, have been married for 5 years and I'm starting to feel the motherly instinct and urge to become a mother. Hubby has wanted kids for some time now and would love nothing more than us getting pregnant. We had been living day to day and up until about a year ago got serious about our finances and paying off our debt. We are now hoping to build up our savings (emergency/baby fund and house down payment). I started a new job this past April and due to work deadlines and such, we decided we would be better off to wait until next Spring or so before we begin TTC (less stress plus I would qualify for family leave, 12 weeks of unpaid leave). Hubby has since also received a promotion so we hoping to save up faster than we were able to years before.
I had some irregular periods last year and came off a copper IUD (shifted twice) to hormonal BC. One of my doctors was worried I suffered from PCOS but the other disagreed, overall my period has been mostly regular since getting on BC. I am very concerned and aware about fertility now that I am closer to turning 30...We have received some comments from people around us about "the perfect time not existing" which don't help the cause. In addition, for my height my BMI is too high and I need to lose about 40 to 50 lbs to be at a healthy range. There are other factors in my life such as living 1 hr away from my parents (due to housing costs) which bother my mom especially, amongst others which I suppose are weighing heavy on me as well.
I am trying to get my priorities in order for the new year, I found it helped a lot last year when I did a similar exercise after deciding to transition out of my old career which would not be sustainable with a family.
I'm sorry for the rant, I guess my question is whether anyone has any advice or suggestions?