neighbours young kids chucking all sorts over the fence?

[GeorgeyGal]

Since the new neighbours moved in next door their two 6 year olds have been chucking toys, planks of wood, even garden furniture over the fence most days, we save up a collection and every week take loads of it back, the parents never apologise or seem bothered. The mum pretty much leaves the kids to 'entertain' themselves alot of the day in the garden, and we hear her screaming at the poor kids all the time, the couple also argue alot and they dont care who hears them. The fence is also full of holes where we have seen the kids pull and kick at the panels and theres gaping holes all over, they have made a half hearted attemp to cover the biggest hole up but the plank fell off or something a day or so later. Its their fence so their reponsibility for the upkeep although we are going to put something up for out privacy.

Today I saw one of the kids chuck some pretty big heavy toys over the fence and they landed where we could have been sitting, LO and I right near the chairs and our french windows. Im not confrontational but I dont know if it would help saying something to the parents but I hear them scream at their kids to behave so its not like they listen to them anyway. I feel sorry for the kids they must be bored out of their brains! Just upsets me thinking LO could have been hit by a UFO!

I want to keep the peace as this is a lovely neighbourhood, villagey and peaceful, well it was until they moved in. Anyone had experiences like this? I avoid going out in my garden now.

 

[AP]

i would just go for it and exp,ain your french windows are at risk. in a nice way like.

 

[xcharx]

I think you've been very patient but now you need to say something.. the parents need to take responsibility for their children & their actions.. x

 

[Tor]

TBH if you've been taking them round then the parents know that the children are lobbing stuff over and obviously don't care enough to stop them. I know if one of my neighbours came round with things my children had thrown i would be making sure it didn't happen again and i would apologise. I would maybe try saying something to the neighbour but honestly i dont think things will change.

 

[shimmy]

Maybe talk to the kids next time u see them throw something over , say hi and this is your lo would you mind being a bit more careful because s/he is very little. If that does not work I would still talk to the parents. X

 

[GeorgeyGal]

Maybe talk to the kids next time u see them throw something over , say hi and this is your lo would you mind being a bit more careful because s/he is very little. If that does not work I would still talk to the parents. X

I have thought about this but really I dont think its proper to tell other peoples kids what to do even in a nice way, spesh if the kids went to their parents and told them that I was having a go or something taken out of context.

The kids dont seem to listen when the mum shouts at them anyway, they bang on their timber shed and when she shouts they just do it more.

If LO and I were sat outside I would probably say something actually as Id be so concerned about LO Id have to, maybe if I was outside the kids wouldnt do it anyway.

Or...maybe we should just stop taking the stuff round there and get them to come and ask for it back?

The last thing I want is any disputes just incase they turn nasty.

 

[freckleonear]

Firstly I would stop taking stuff back round. Sooner or later they'll run out of stuff to throw and if the parents come to ask for it back then at least they're taking more notice. Secondly, next time it happens I would talk to the children and explain how dangerous it is when you have a baby in the garden. They may not listen when their parents shout as they're used to it, but children often pay more attention to a stranger. And quite frankly, unless they actually do something and make sure it doesn't happen again the parents don't have a leg to stand on if they complain about you telling off their kids.

 

[KayBea]

Firstly I would stop taking stuff back round. Sooner or later they'll run out of stuff to throw and if the parents come to ask for it back then at least they're taking more notice. Secondly, next time it happens I would talk to the children and explain how dangerous it is when you have a baby in the garden. They may not listen when their parents shout as they're used to it, but children often pay more attention to a stranger. And quite frankly, unless they actually do something and make sure it doesn't happen again the parents don't have a leg to stand on if they complain about you telling off their kids.

I would do exactly this hun
Xx

 

[kanga]

i would throw anything that comes over the fence into the bin, and if asked, deny all knowledge

the children would soon learn!

 

[GeorgeyGal]

Firstly I would stop taking stuff back round. Sooner or later they'll run out of stuff to throw and if the parents come to ask for it back then at least they're taking more notice. Secondly, next time it happens I would talk to the children and explain how dangerous it is when you have a baby in the garden. They may not listen when their parents shout as they're used to it, but children often pay more attention to a stranger. And quite frankly, unless they actually do something and make sure it doesn't happen again the parents don't have a leg to stand on if they complain about you telling off their kids.

Firstly I would stop taking stuff back round. Sooner or later they'll run out of stuff to throw and if the parents come to ask for it back then at least they're taking more notice. Secondly, next time it happens I would talk to the children and explain how dangerous it is when you have a baby in the garden. They may not listen when their parents shout as they're used to it, but children often pay more attention to a stranger. And quite frankly, unless they actually do something and make sure it doesn't happen again the parents don't have a leg to stand on if they complain about you telling off their kids.

I would do exactly this hun
Xx

I have tried this a few times before, the little boy came round and banged on the door for ages, I was feeding LO at the time so couldnt answer the door, the mum came round later and she seemed nice enough, but didnt apologise or anything just asked for it back, I thought maybe that would be the end of it but no. I havent done it since as dont really want them banging on the door when its not convenient iykwim. I guess its been a few months on so could try this again. TBH ive been putting it off. OH said he'd go round there but Im the one in the house all day seeing it happen so think it would be better if I said something..

 

[SarahP13]

I totally understand that you want to keep the peace but it sounds like you need to do something about it!

I agree with Shimmy that you could have a quick word with the kids next time you see them outside. Just a smiley hello, introduce yourself and LO, ask their names and then just say LO is only little so could they be a little more careful when they're playing. You might be surprised at their reaction (fingers crossed!)

I also would stop throwing things back over to them. They'll soon get bored of having to come round to ask for their things back! I used to look after an 8 year old boy who kept kicking his balls over the fence, his parents used to go round and ask for them back as he was too embarrassed. I refused to ask and told him that he had to go and, lo and behold, he stopped kicking them over!

Sure it won't be that simple but worth a shot! ;-)

 

[WhiteGeisha]

The neighbours kids here do the same. I've had mops, shoes, hose pipes, toys, balls....

I just stop throwing them back so they run out of things to throw.

My LO is too young to play in the garden, plus I have gravel so she wouldn't anyway so it's not too much of an issue in the sense they could hurt LO. I would just go and knock the door and explain about the heavy big things and say you are a little concerned they will hit LO. Mother probably hasn't realised the full extend of what is going on if she isn't keeping an eye on them x

 

[GeorgeyGal]

The neighbours kids here do the same. I've had mops, shoes, hose pipes, toys, balls....

I just stop throwing them back so they run out of things to throw.

My LO is too young to play in the garden, plus I have gravel so she wouldn't anyway so it's not too much of an issue in the sense they could hurt LO. I would just go and knock the door and explain about the heavy big things and say you are a little concerned they will hit LO. Mother probably hasn't realised the full extend of what is going on if she isn't keeping an eye on them x

oh yeah we have mop heads as well! yer we havent been in the garden much but will be next summer, will be different if we are out there and it happens, maybe they wont do it if they hear us out there next time. we've got a nice pile of all sorts building up, surely they will get fed up of having to come round and ask for stuff back!

 

[supertabby]

Don't take it back to them, and when they come round for it tell them you threw it away - as far as I'm aware if someone dumps something on your property without prior permission then you're legally entitled to do what you want with it. They'll soon stop their kids doing it. And if they throw over worthless things like branches go and put it on their doorstep or on the driveway so they have to move it before they drive away. If they're not willing to listen to you maybe that will work!

Or give them a taste of their own medicine and throw over some dirty nappies lol (only joking of course, think that would get you into trouble but its a fun thought lol!)

 

[keeks1987]

I was thinking that you could not send them back, and when they come around to ask, like they did last time (the boy then his mom) you could say "I'm sorry. It's not a convenient time for me to throw them back over. You'll have to wait until i'm next in the garden" then leave it for a couple of days. See what happens then?

 

[WhiteGeisha]

I got fed up of going out up to 8 times a day. they stay in my garden now. the brat boy will learn not to throw his toys over if he actually wants to play with them again and tbh, it has eased off massively since i stopped sending them back over the wall....either he's learning or ran out of things to throw LOL x

 

[Babushka99]

I'd speak to the children, their mum actually has no right to get angry at you for that. You are making them aware of what they are doing not giving a 'telling off' and if she comes over to have a go (very unlikely I'm sure she would understand) just repeat the same thing to her.

 

[GeorgeyGal]

I'd speak to the children, their mum actually has no right to get angry at you for that. You are making them aware of what they are doing not giving a 'telling off' and if she comes over to have a go (very unlikely I'm sure she would understand) just repeat the same thing to her.

Well since 2 days ago when I banged on the window when I saw the little boy purposely chuck a load of toys, one after the other as far over as he could there hasnt been anymore. If Im out there and it happens I will tell the kids not to do it, nicely. The only thing Im worried about, you know sometimes little kids exagerate or say things the wrong way, the parents might think I was being nasty to them.

 

[EllaAndLyla]

I would explain in the nicest way that your LO could be in danger of being hit and your french windows because they are expensive!! Hope all goes okay xx