Nervous about telling people

[Loui1001]

Hey girls,

I'm 12+4 following a mmc in August and still can't stop worrying Would love to start spreading the news but still wondering if I should eave it a week or so

I had my dating scan 2 weeks ago at 10+4 and everything was fine then but the hospital aren't planning to see me again until the 20wk scan which seems a lifetime away. I'm booked in to see my Community midwife next week after her holidays but at the back of my mind I'm still stressing that something has gone wrong and I just don't know it. It probably makes me sound like a right eejit because I've no reason to think that - just good old paranoia!

Anyone any ideas of what to do that might settle me down a bit? Probably doesn't help that my doppler arrived yesterday and I haven't got the hang of it yet

Any advice appreciated xx

 

[heva510]

Hi Hun I feel th same I'm 14 + wks now and had dating scan a couple wks a go I had a mmc in march with twins and worry that something willgo wrong between nowand 20 wk scan I'm paying for private gender scan in 2 wks to ease my mind x

 

[marnie79]

aww hun, its such a worry telling people, esp when things have gone wrong before i didnt tell people this time until my 12 week scan (except a select few) and i was about 18 weeks beforfe i told my children as i was worried it was tempting fate iukwim.
once i did tell them i actually felt ok and so far fingers crossed everything is going ok !!
i think u just have to do it when u r ready too, if ur not comfertable with telling peeps yet then dont, hope u can get the hang of ur doppler soon xx

 

[Loui1001]

thanks girls, hopefully I'll feel a bit better after the midwife appointment, will maybe ask about a private scan as well - would be so worth it for peace of mind!

 

[Aerdrie]

I'm already in the 2nd tri now and I'm still holding back.
I've founds its much easier telling Randoms than the important people. Wierd.
Anyway I agree with Marnie, there is no 'right time' just go with what you feel comfortable with. I will say that seeing other peoples joy has helped me start to feel more comfortable and (dare I say) excited about everything.

oooh private scans, if you can do it, are sooooo worth it. Somehow it's way less clinical and much more of a holistic experience

 

[Sarah&Ady]

It's such a heart aching thing to do.... I dithered untill 29 weeks to tell everyone, only my boss, OH and Mum know before then x

 

[hb1]

I reckon maybe a private scan in a couple of weeks and then it'll bridge the gap to the 20 week scan.

Maybe you'll feel better telling folk after another scan?

Personally I told people straight away incase it did happen again - so I would have the support if I needed it.

hx