Nervous wreck!

[babyboo085]

Morning all, I hope you are well.
I am 6.5 weeks pregnant if all is going well- I had a scan just over a week ago. By lmp I thought I was 7 weeks but measured just 5.5 weeks no heartbeat. I have a follow up on wednesday.
I had a chemical back in july, a mmc in 2012 and an ectopic in 2010.
I am a mess. Since the scan I have felt sick and struggled to sleep, waking most morning around 5am because my brain won't switch off. I know it could be bad news on Wednesday. I'm trying to keep busy but feel so sick! Does anyone have any advice to stay calm? Xx
Thank you x

 

[Linnypops]

Hey there, don't have a success story of my own to share yet, i'm also pregnant after loss in the early weeks. It's a very stressful period though and I feel for you - I also went for an early scan at around 5ish weeks and they saw nothing as well. I went in again 2 weeks later and saw a strong heartbeat. So, don't despair. I got this from the miscarriage association website:

"All too often, a scan at 6 weeks shows very little or nothing, even in a perfectly developing pregnancy"

If you're not charting then being out on your ovulation dates by a few days is perfectly plausible.

I'm going in for another scan this week after spotting last week, the only thing I can suggest is my own approach which is to try and keep myself focused and busy on other things and also to remind yourself that more often than not a pregnancy works out (Even after a few miscarriages previously) X

 

[babyboo085]

Hi Linnypops,
Thank you so much for your reply. Congrats on you're pregnancy! What day have you got your scan this week? I hope everything is well.
I'm trying to keep busy this weekend but today I have just no energy and I am very weepy and cannot stop thinking about it all. What are you doing to keep yourself busy? Xx

 

[Linnypops]

Boo - Thanks love, it's tomorrow morning. For me it's mainly about being around other people, so I see friends often and go out with DF to the movies/dinner as often as possible. Another thing which is really helpful is to keep a diary and write down all the worries and fears. I find if i don't do that I end up ruminating a lot more and getting depressed. I don't know why it works, it just seems to.

And, I cling to the statistics, i've read enough of them now to feel that the odds are in our favour mostly.

All that aside, I really do understand, and i've found myself feeling depressed and teary quite a few times....especially the day i got the spotting. But each day that goes by without an obvious miscarriage it's one step further towards a safer period. I really hope you're able to get some relief from your next scan on wednesday X

 

[babyboo085]

Thanks Linnypops, you too. I've had backache today so that's a new worry!
I'm going to a friends later so that should lift my worries for a while then back to work tomorrow!
How are you feeling in yourself? Are you feeling well? Xx

 

[Linnypops]

Heh, there's always another worry to contend with isn't there? I also had some back ache a few days ago, along with cramping when i spotted - is it muscular or nerve pain for you? I think both are perfectly normal in early preg. At least going to your friends will help lift the worries for a few hours...I think that's all we really need, just a wee break from it each day.

I'm ok, I feel mid nausea most of the time or else have acid reflux/heartburn and am exhausted. But I know many women have it far worse, how about yourself? X

 

[babyboo085]

I'm not sure, feels a but worse than my normal pms back pain, it's right in the middle at the bottom of my spine; is that similar to your backache? Same with the nausea, feel it all day but pretty mild. Not as tired today but that's because I literally have done nothing! What have you done today to keep yourself busy? X

 

[Linnypops]

Boo - yep that's the one. I never got that with pms so it was unusual....but if you think about it - everything in there is getting bigger, so my rational head says it's normal

Today i've had a bit of work to do and general pottering about but nothing too taxing. Are you going in on weds morning or afternoon? The good thing is weds is just round the corner...I've got all my crossables crossed for you X

 

[babyboo085]

You've got a great way of thinking! Wednesday afternoon, 1.15 on my lunch break..... Might book a half day holiday so no one gets suss if I don't go back to work.
What time is your appointment tomorrow morning? I'll be thinking of you and keeping everything crossed too! X

 

[Linnypops]

Boo - A half day sounds like a good idea to me, I don't work mondays so only ever have US then. I couldn't think about going in to work afterwards. Mine's at 10:30, i'm glad it's early so i don't send all day ruminating!

Thanks love, i really appreciate it! X

 

[babyboo085]

Good luck!! Xx

 

[babyboo085]

I hope all is ok? X

 

[Linnypops]

Hey love, yep, all was well! just got back as popped into town for some lunch.

Good luck to you too lady! You go in in 5 mins right! I've got everything crossed for you X

 

[babyboo085]

Ah fab news!! Glad all is well.
Not until weds for me x

 

[Linnypops]

Ach, sorry yes. For some reason i thought today, despite clearly being able to see it was weds! How are you feeling about things today? Any better? x

 

[babyboo085]

Sorry for the late reply! I hope you are doing ok?
Terrible actually, having short sharp pains very frequently now, I calmed down yesterday but im scared again today!
Xx

 

[Linnypops]

Yes, doing ok thanks. When you say stabbing pains, where do you mean? I got these a lot on the left side in the first few weeks. I think now it was implantation pain. Can you call an epu?

 

[Linnypops]

Sorry, i'm being daft - you have your scan tomorrow right? The thing to cling to is whatever's happening right now you will know much better tomorrow what's happening. Anything now is just going to be a guess and most of that will be based on fears from previous losses...does that make sense? You can't trust your instincts right now...none of us Pal'ers can!

I was almost certain i'd see nothing on my second scan, and especially the third time after bleeding. But I was wrong, because my instincts are shite now. I just don't have the capacity to trust things might turn out ok after last time.

Now, obviously had it not turned out ok...i could try to say my instincts were right but even a stopped clock is right twice a day. Ignore your instincts at the moment, they're doing nothing but scaring you, the only thing which is real is the scan tomorrow and the fact that - you are still pregnant until proven otherwise.

Big hugs
X

 

[babyboo085]

Very wise words again! You are right. X

 

[Linnypops]

Hey love, good luck today! Did you manage to take a half day? x