Never pushing a DNA test or child support

[QuintinsMommy]

I never took my FOB to court, he asked for a DNA test and such and I said if you want quintin in your life bad enough you can take us to court..(he never did)
anyway sometimes I wonder if I have made the wrong choice never pushing to have quins dad in his life, hes a drug addict and always in and out of jail
is awful that I think my son is better off never knowing him?

 

[lilgemsy]

Nah not awful at all, because youre right.
Why would you want someone like that influencing your son, whether its his dad or not?

Me and my FOB had the same situation (he wasnt involved with drugs though... or at least if he was I didnt know about it. Hes just a major mind fuck with all his mind fuckery!) and he hasnt bothered taking me to court. If they really cared then theyd take you to court no matter what.
Ive decided that unless Ollie asks about his dad when I think hes old enough to make his own decisions then fair enough if he wants to meet him. Untill then, I dont want my baby getting hurt (and I know he will if his dad lets him down big time again) sooo I think hes better off without.

They dont miss what they never had

 

[QuintinsMommy]

thank you!

 

[Strawberrymum]

I moved countries to keep my LO from seeing her FOB ! I don't feel guilty at all he's a horrible person who breaks the law all the time and does drugs ! My daughter is better off without him and I hope she can see that when she's older

 

[xSophieBx]

You are his mother and you know best. If thats how u feel then it is the right decision(I also agree with u from wot u've put) He will be much better off... If u pursued the DNA/child support u could risk a whole load of trouble so personally your better off x

 

[sie35]

you dident push for him to be involved but you dident stop it he chose drugs and his lifestile not you one day he might step up but that day was when they were born feeling guilt for his choices is daft just be proud of yourself

 

[QuintinsMommy]

thanks everyone