Hey all,
I'm new here. I'm hoping people here will be able to understand the way I'm feeling.
I have been with my OH for three years, I'm 23 and he's 22. I know we're young, but we've never been the type to go out and party or whatever, and the life we lead now (him in full time work, me a house-girlfriend
) is suitable for a baby. Our socialising is done by friends coming round to our house, not going out clubbing or anything.
I've been broody for ages, and it's not going away. I feel it like a physical ache. But he's not ready. I am. I want to finish having children by 35, and we want three (and I want a four year gap between each, I ain't doing two in nappies!). That means I should have my first one... now! OH is the type to look at one goal at a time and work towards that, I prefer to have things planned out roughly for the next five years at least. Before kids we need to get married and move house to be nearer my family. He says we can't afford to get married now (yes, we can) and that we can't afford to move yet (ok, he's right on that one). I just worry that his first goal is moving house (another year or two), then he'll need time to settle, then he might think about proposing and it'll take another year after that to plan the wedding and so on, then maybe a year ttc. I'll be 27 by the time we have our first at this rate!
Ooops, I seem to have written something of an essay. Sorry!
Hello everyone anyway!
I'm new here. I'm hoping people here will be able to understand the way I'm feeling.
I have been with my OH for three years, I'm 23 and he's 22. I know we're young, but we've never been the type to go out and party or whatever, and the life we lead now (him in full time work, me a house-girlfriend
) is suitable for a baby. Our socialising is done by friends coming round to our house, not going out clubbing or anything.I've been broody for ages, and it's not going away. I feel it like a physical ache. But he's not ready. I am. I want to finish having children by 35, and we want three (and I want a four year gap between each, I ain't doing two in nappies!). That means I should have my first one... now! OH is the type to look at one goal at a time and work towards that, I prefer to have things planned out roughly for the next five years at least. Before kids we need to get married and move house to be nearer my family. He says we can't afford to get married now (yes, we can) and that we can't afford to move yet (ok, he's right on that one). I just worry that his first goal is moving house (another year or two), then he'll need time to settle, then he might think about proposing and it'll take another year after that to plan the wedding and so on, then maybe a year ttc. I'll be 27 by the time we have our first at this rate!
Ooops, I seem to have written something of an essay. Sorry!
Hello everyone anyway!
welcom to WWT - Im 22 no how you feel about the broody thing i have already got one and like you i have tried to plan my life out, fingers crossed it all goes to plan - me and oh sat down and discussed everything and yey have decided to TTC at the end of this year. im not bothered about getting married and with the way things are going at the moment it would be ages before we could afford i house - hope you can change his mind and bring the wedding forward (us women are good at persuading),
Then when that's over you can concentrate on a home and a baby or even baby and a home. Don't forget, kids are potty trained around what? 3 years old? So you can have a 2 1/2 or 3 year gap cause for 9 months you'll be preggers so no changing double diapers. Just something to think about!!!
