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[charm2mama]

Hello ladies. I just found this board this morning, while trying to stay positive on Thanksgiving morning I am 36, TTC baby #1 for 1 year and 3 months. My SO is 42. We have gone to see a specialist after 1 year of unsuccessful TTC and we know that we think we are dealing with male factor (only had 1 SA) and possible anovulation (I am temping now for first time. Also have tried using OPK a couple of cycles but wasn't sure if I was truly getting a positive). Unfortunately, the SO is very apprehensive about going to see a urologist (first analysis was low volume/count/motility). we are still talking it through and looking into supplements. For myself, I am trying to lose weight to get into the normal range of BMI.

The RE was wanting to try IUI/clomid first (before getting the SA results), and after the SA (they want a repeat) they are saying IVF. We have no insurance coverage for either at the moment. IUI is possible, but IVF is cost prohibitive. Every month that goes by, I feel a sense of panic. The more I read about infertility at older age I panic.I find myself this morning (it is Thanksgiving) being thankful for a lot of things, but it is overshadowed by the thought of maybe never being able to conceive.

I have found several TTC forums, but it seems that many of the women are very young. Most are very supportive, but when I read 25 year olds saying they feel they are running out of time I get depressed (not that I don't understand their feeling). I'm really glad I found this forum. I hope to learn lots from everyone and find support here

 

[vix1972]

Hi and welcome.

Dont lose heart yet you have a few years left in you! There are a lot of threads on here for various supplements and treatments and peoples experiences. This may help you, support you and give you a good laugh sometimes! Good luck and FXd for you getting a BFP

 

[hmommy219]

Welcome Charm2mama! First off, you are NOT alone!

I have been on this site for a while and find it helpful, informative, supportive, and sometimes, when you just need a good laugh or cry, all these wonderful women from around the world are here to HEAR you. I am in a similar boat to you, and my hubby will be 47 in a couple of weeks also with slightly low count after a recent SA.

A few things I've just picked up from my new fertility specialist: have hubby stop drinking alcohol if he currently does. My hubby loves his beer and wine and the FS said that this lowers count and morphology. Also, have you had an HSG done yet? For me, that gave me LOTS of answers as to why things weren't happening. We're just now addressing these things and I'm feeling more hopeful than I have in the recent months.

Also, I use the OPKs with the smiley face so that there's no question as to when I'm at peak fertility. Don't loose faith, and those women who worry about time running out at 25 are just worrying like every other woman worries and you shouldn't compare yourself. Truly, in today's world, having babies in your 30s is not such a huge deal, and is actually a preferable situation on the whole.

Keep your chin up, and know that the best things come to those who persevere. Your time WILL come. Good luck, and I'm sending you loads of for a December BFP.... or, as my hubby says "Baby New Year!" lol...

 

[charm2mama]

Thank you ladies. I am trying to stay positive. Most of my friends have had their first babies in their 30, many close to their mid 30s. So I know it is possible, but fortunately for my friends, it seems they felt ready and they got pregnant right away. When you are TTC, there is a sense of losing time, and I know in my mind this feeling of wanting the BFP now is the same whether you are 25 or 35.

I feel at peace with starting TTC for baby #1 at 36. It took me a while to meet Mr. Right. And I never really felt strongly about having kids until last year when I turned 35. Now I'm completely terrified with the thought of never getting our BFP. I know there are other ways to become a parent, but for now I am deafened by my biological clock to focus on TTCing.