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Just had a very horrible break up with the partner or many years and father to two children, as well as my current pregnancy. He was extremely physically and emotionally abusive and my little girl in my belly finally gave me the strength to leave. He still tries to manipulate me. I'm so hurting and alone right now. I was with him for so long, and he was emotionally abusive so played the pull and push game to keep me under his control. It's so hard to separate myself from him.

 

[NKL120309]

Stay strong! Congrats on your baby girl.

 

[Dezireey]

Hello sweetie, welcome.

Congratulations on your babba and congratulations on being so brave. I know what its like being with someone emotionally abusive (mine never hit me, he just made me feel so insignificant).

Its very, very difficult to cope on your own in the beginning when your self esteem is so low, you tend to think 'I love him, so I should be with him regardless and try to see the good things' You can lose sight of the terrible treatment he gives you. Having the strength to leave is the first step, then its the slow process of getting your self esteem and happiness back. Somedays I can still hear my ex's voice in my head rabbiting on about other women and how stunning someone he just met was (never realising at the time that he never said this sort of thing to me and this was another way of him manipulating, controlling and slyly putting me down) I used to tell him that it is totally unacceptable in a relationship to talk about other women and flirt so openly in front of me but he used to look at me as if I was crazy and just ignore me.

It takes time to get over this sort of relationship but you will get there. Always think what is best for your kids. It is always best for them to have no father around than an abusive one who ruins their lives.

Hugs xx

 

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xx