New Member, LTTTC Baby #1 Naturally After MC - Would Love Support Group/Friends!

[MuseMama13]

Hi everyone,

I've been stalking the BnB forums for some time, and I finally decided to join. It would be great to have some support/friends that understand what I'm going through, and this seems like a very welcoming place

My story, as brief as I can make it (also, sorry I don't know all the abbreviations used here yet) : I had an unplanned (but exciting) pregnancy when I was 18 that sadly ended in a miscarriage at 13 weeks. At 24, my long-term boyfriend at the time and I tried for 6 months to conceive. He already had a child from a previous marriage, so I figured the problem was with me. My dr put me on Clomid. After 2 rounds, we conceived. Though he didn't do any testing, my dr prescribed progesterone due to my previous miscarriage. Again, I lost the baby; this time at 7 weeks I am now 28 and married. My husband and I have been casually trying for the last 2 1/2 years. We have been actively trying for the last 4 months with no success so far.

I have a bicornuate uterus and Factor Five Leiden (a genetic blood disorder that causes clotting; while not proven to affect fertility, some studies have shown women with FFL have increased difficulty conceiving). I have very regular cycles (same day every month) that are generally not heavy at all.

Though my dr has again prescribed me Clomid, I have not been taking it. I have decided to take a more natural course, trying vitamins and supplements instead, as my DH prefers it, and I actually have never had any tests done that show there is a problem with my ovulation.

I am currently on CD18, so in the TWW, and this is what I have tried this month, starting on CD6: Maca 500 mg twice per day (discontinued yesterday on CD17, as I read you shouldn't take it while pregnant - not sure if that applies to the TWW as well or not), Vitex 400 mg twice a day, 16 oz of Raspberry Leaf tea per day (planning to discontinue this on CD22; I've read conflicting info on this - does it CAUSE or PREVENT miscarriage?), One A Day Women's Prenatal Vitamins once a day, two baby aspirin once per day, and on CD16 I added 20 mg of progesterone cream per day. My husband started taking Coq10 supplements at the first of the month as well, though he only takes them once a day, and only if he remembers I have done a lot of research, but I am a little worried about "self-medicating"; especially using information found online. I have not used OPKs, but plan on doing so if we don't conceive this month.

We haven't told anyone that we are TTC because we both know it's going to be a long, difficult journey (it already has been), and may not have a happy ending. DH isn't as concerned about getting pregnant ("it'll happen, or it won't") and I feel a little...embarrassed by how determined I am. I don't feel like I can talk to him about all the planning and scheduling I've been putting into trying to have a baby. He just doesn't understand how much I want a child (and have wanted one for a very long time) and why I get so emotional that it just isn't happening. I also can't talk to family or friends about it, as they don't know we're trying. So I'm happy to have found a group of people who will understand how I feel.

Sorry that was so long. Comments, thoughts, suggestions, introductions, anything welcome. Thank you!

 

[MrsMcCurdy]

Hi! Welcome to BnB. Sounds like you have a good plan going. I might suggest doing opks and/or temping. For me opks have been unreliable but temping can tell you quite a bit if you're taking it at the same time everyday. Just an idea. And I agree, trying natural options is better. Clomid really sucks, at least for me it did.
Good luck! Hope you get your bfp soon!!

 

[MuseMama13]

Thank you for your response. I may try temping along with my OPKs next month!

 

[TTCsince626]

It is great to have the support here! We all understand the struggle and roller coaster of ttc!

 

[g3m88]

Hi, I am new on here too. Never thought I'd be on one of these forums but its a good way to realise your not the only person going through it! You sound like you've been having a right struggle, sorry to hear.
I have been trying for 17 months with no success. I have a 24 year age gap between me and my husband. I am 26. He has 3 children already but I don't have any.
I have had blood tests done PH / LH / Progesterone levels checked and they all came back fine. I recently had a Hycosy and Antral Folicle scan done and they both appear completely normal too. My husband has had his sperm count done and it came back absolutely fine. So for us its a matter of continuing to try. My consultant said that after a Hycosy you have a greater chance of conceiving as it has flushed through the tubes, but I only had it done a couple of weeks ago so its again a waiting game. I have been told about vagi-steam today! Not sure if you've heard of it.. Google it! sounds quite interesting and a lady said it worked for her! May give it a go.
I don't want to pressurise myself too much either. if it happens it happens, we will see!

Good luck with the trying! Maybe check out the best positions to help conceive too!

 

[Nurse1989]

Its nice to find a group to chat with that is in the same boat.

I've been trying to conceive since January of 2014. I've been engaged since feb. In september I called off the wedding and put myself on birth control. I started the birthcontrol for 5 days till I found out I was pregnant. Coincidence right. At 5 weeks after getting my hcg levels checked every 2 days they said I miscarried and the baby would pass naturally. It didnt really effect me as bad as I thought it would. The miscarriage though was brutal. I bled till Dec 23rd. Non stop. When that was finally over we started trying again. My fiance' works on the road in oil and gas so hes only home for 7 days every 10 days. Lucky for me his days home is timed perfectly with my ovulation. After trying for months and months I feel like all I can think about is trying to get pregnant. He has a 4 year old from a previous marriage and also now a 1 month year old from our break up. I feel like I cant talk to him about how depressed I get month after month. Im going to shcedule an appointment with my OB next month since it will be officially one year since I was last pregnant.

Sorry for the long rant.. sometimes its just better to get it all out there.
Anyways this is what Ive done differently this month.
Quit smoking.(I was a heavy smoker about a pack a day for 11 years) Quit drinking (I was never a heavy drinker I just cut out alcohol completely). This month I also started taking prenatal vitamins every single day. I've been tracking my BBT but my chart is all over the place from not taking my temp at the same time every day so thats kind of a bust. :/ Also I've been monitoring my CM. So far im on CD30 My cycles are normally 28-32days. As of yesterday and today I've gotten a BFN.

If AF shows up this month I've tried to not let myself down about it by planning something different. I read a lot online about Geritol Tonic-Its a multivitamin with more B vitamins and Iron thats in liquid form. Apparently "Theres a baby in every bottle". You're supposed to start that on CD1 (Day AF shows) and take it every day until you get a BFP. Since the Gertiol doesnt have folic acid I bought some folic acid today and also some primrose.

I hope everyone has a lucky month!

 

[g3m88]

You sound like your going through it a bit too. Cant be easy having found out your partner now has another baby. Sometimes they say if its stressing you then it can stop you conceiving.
Did you read my above comment about steaming? I might give it a go in a couple of months if I have no success. I am only taking folic acid with vitamin D and calcium in. And don't forget have intercourse the week before ovulation regularly! Not after, they say its a better chance to have it before you ovulate.

Good luck!

 

[MuseMama13]

Well, I'm out this month. AF showed up unexpectedly, 5 days early. I'm so sorry to hear about everyone's struggles, but I'm also glad we are able to talk about them here. I'm going to do some research on the vag steams and Geritol Tonic. At this point, I'll give anything a try!

 

[Nurse1989]

Im out this month too.. Spotting started today which means AF comes tomorrow. I started my Geritol Tonic this evening with 800mcg of folic acid and 1000mg of evening primrose oil. The Geritol is freaking disgusting so in case you try it Im warning you in advance! Lol. I also ordered some OPK off amazon those will be in next week. Aaaand Im going to be more precise with my morning temping. Hopefully September is my month since i was lucky last september
@G3m88 Please let me know how the steaming goes. I just googled it. Kind of interested to hear what you thought about it.

I wish all of you the best of luck!

 

[MuseMama13]

I just ordered some OPKs as well. I haven't used them before. Let me know how the Geritol goes; I can't decide if I want to try it or not because I'm currently taking so many other herbs and supplements. And I worry about stopping my prenatals.

 

[Nurse1989]

So far so good. I cant get over how awful the taste is. I literally wait till the end of the day to take it just cause I dread the taste. As far as I know Geritol has everything the prenatals have plus more. It has more B vitamins and more Iron. The only thing you need from the prenatal is the folic acid to prevent spina bifida so you can just buy some folic acid at walmart and take 800mcg.

 

[MuseMama13]

So far so good. I cant get over how awful the taste is. I literally wait till the end of the day to take it just cause I dread the taste. As far as I know Geritol has everything the prenatals have plus more. It has more B vitamins and more Iron. The only thing you need from the prenatal is the folic acid to prevent spina bifida so you can just buy some folic acid at walmart and take 800mcg.

Yeah, I've read that it tastes awful, but that it's best to take the liquid form and not the pill form. Keep us updated, I hope you get your BFP!!

 

[g3m88]

Whats Geritol? Il have to look this up!

My AF is due on Tuesday. After 17 months of trying I give up hope anyway so its a bonus if it decides to not arrive!

I'm definitely going to try steaming! I will let you know how I get on.
Sorry to hear you both have received the dreaded AF! Get dtd this month! As much as possible

My Husband is going to book us a weekend somewhere for around my ovulation if I get my AF this month. Hint it to your OH too!

x

 

[Nurse1989]

Lucky!! If I could take off work we would too. Ill keep my fingers crossed AF is a no show on Tuesday.
Geritol is an "Old folks multivitamin"
I read about it online and also had a coworker tell me about it who swore by it.. she now has a 3 month old little girl. They say the tonic (liquid) is the one that does the trick. Its just a normal multivitamin in liquid form that's pumped with B vitamins and Iron. And im not going to lie. Its absolutely disgusting!! But if it works for me this month, Ill drink it lol. What Ive read is that your supposed to start it on the day AF arrives and take a dose every day until you get a BFP. When you get a BFP then take prenatals. Ive been taking Geritol for 3 days now but I also take folic acid with it just to have that in my system.