NEW Mother Anxiety ... Im Soo SCARED :(

[LoveLife180]

Hi, my name is Erika. Im 18yrs old, & i just found out i was pregnant about 3 weeks ago. My situation is a very difficult one because i dont live with my parents. Im living with my cousin at the moment because my mother is on drugs &y father passed away when i was very young. I was with my babys father who is a yr younger then me for 8 months... lost my virginity to him & everything. The catch is he already has a baby who is 7months and he still messes with his babys mother. Whom about a day before i found out i was pregnant broke up with me for her... for the second and last time. I currently have a factory job making about 330 a week.. i know thats not enough plus i hate my job and dont know how long i ca. continue working there. My babys father has not contacted me since i first told him i was pregnant so im feeling so ALONE. On top of that , im worried about how im going to be able to manage having a baby and not really being stable. I have anxiety so i cant STOP worrying & i try, but its just so hard not to face reality when my life is nothing but REALITY. the hard cold TRUTH. i have family who loves and cares for me but i just dont want to be a burden anymore ive bbeen one all my life... atleast thats how i feel i just want to be able to do it on my OWN. im soo SCARED & nervous, i just want to be able to provide my child with the best.. but idk if i can do it... i would really love to talk to someone who can relate to me, NO negativity pls.. i really could do w/o . THANK YOU. write back soon. xoxo

 

[bsd]

First of all, Congratulations on your pregnancy!!
I am not in a similar situation as you, but there are lots of awesome girls on here who are. I'm really sorry about your ex boyfriend.. if he doesn't want to be involved in your child's life than you and your baby are much better off! You don't need that kind of stress and abandonment, even though it might be hard to sort of 'get over him' I'm sorry
Now if you have an awesome family that will support you than tell them! I know you don't want to feel like a burden but they love you and that's what families and friends are for. You seem really eager to provide for your child completely and you can make that happen! It may seem a little impossible now but take it one step at a time and make a plan. 330 a week isn't bad and if you can save every paycheck you get until you can't work at that place anymore you should be okay with money, and if not maybe you can find a new job while it's still early in your pregnancy (you won't have to tell them you're pregnant until later on) where you could stand to work there up until maternity leave.
I suffer/have been suffering from anxiety since I was 15 and it's not an easy thing to deal with AT ALL. I highly suggest when you make a doctors appointment you talk to your doctor about this!! There are many ways they can help you, and pregnancy hormones make anxiety and depression a lot worse (at least they eventually did for me) and you don't have to deal with that alone! I definitely recommend you tell them about your anxiety and what you experience with it so they can help.

I am with my babies father and have been for years, but when I got pregnant we were living with his family and wanted SO BADLY to do it on our own. We tried really hard too, but eventually realized its best for us and for the baby to stay with family for the first few months of his life, so I had to ask my parents to move back in with them which was the LAST thing we both wanted to do. I too had a job that I couldn't stand and ended up quitting it around 20 weeks, and by then it was a little too late to go looking for a job, so thankfully my OH had just gotten a really good job.

Also, I'm not sure how you would go about it but you can get child support from the babies father! If he doesn't want to help, you can legally make it happen. I'm not familiar with that process though and that's probably something you'll have to look into, but definitely worth it if he's not willing to help!

My name is Brittany by the way, I'm 20 and am pregnant with my first due on tuesday! Feel free to PM me if you need to, and don't worry things will get better!

 

[xolynn]

Hey...I'm right there with ya on the bad anxiety/worry/scared part. I have basically been in denial about being pregnant for the last 3 months, and finally taking steps to see a doctor at least. I get anxiety/panic attacks for no reason sometimes anyways, so this is just making it ten times worse. I live with my parents, my dad doesnt even know, and there would never be enough room here for a baby and myself. So before my due date I have to find my own place, settle in, and get stuff for the baby ready. I'm so overwhelmed and everyday that passes and I don't do anything about it I'm freaking out! Me and my bf make about 500 a week combined...which I'm hoping will be enough to get us by somewhere. I think making 330 a week, you could work on getting your own apartment...try to find one with low rent, and look into getting welfare for help? If they know you are a single mother they will be more than happy to give you assistance! Good luck to you!!!! Life is way too hard sometimes...but you have to try and keep believing it will all work out in the end and fall into place!